Friday, November 25, 2011

How long is the wait for marriage based green cards?

I've been reading the processing time updates, it said the waiting time is 7.3 months. Is it accurate?How long is the wait for marriage based green cards?
Yes, it is very accurate. However, you have to take into consideration that it can take up to a year, more than the regular time you specified because there are a lot of applicants, hence a lot of back logs. You also have to remember that it depends where or upon the state processing your application. Some have more to process than others.





Once your papers are processed here then it goes pretty fast. Be patient. It should arrive soon.How long is the wait for marriage based green cards?
It should be pretty close it took us a total of six months.That is counting form the day we mailed our app to the day he received his green card in his hands.
I waited about 10 months. We didnt get an interview either it just came in the mail
It is about right. We did it in 5 months.

What are your tips for making marriage work?

What should I do before getting married?What are your tips for making marriage work?
1st you should make sure that he/she is the person you want to marry.For better or worst, richer or poor. etc.. Marriage is not a game it is hard work.I married my HS sweetheart I have been with him and only him since I was 16 i';m now 44 we will be married for 25 yrs this Oct 6 and 3 kids later.But marriage is what you make it, it's not always going to be peaches and cream.Communicate, respect,trust are the main ingredients to a successful marriage it worked for me.What are your tips for making marriage work?
Tips I would give are to always COMMUNICATE. After one gets married, I see that people fall in the trap of being too complacent.





Think of a marriage like a Sport. Like any 'sport' if we want to be good at it, we always have to work at it. To improve at it, make it really good, or too even maintain the standards.





Once compacency steps in, we start working at it less and less, it won't be the same as before.
I'm not sure marriage can work to be honest. Marriage is like getting a tattoo it always seems like a good idea at the time.





A few tips:


-Marry when you are older and more mature. Sow your wild oats before you get married.


-Ask yourself why you are getting married and do you really want this?


-Can you be faithful to this one person for the rest of your life?


-Be done with school and be able to make a good living. Having money will help you in marriage.


-Don't go to bed angry.


-Think twice about co-signing with your partner. Do you trust this person with your credit score and paying off bills? If you co-sign you are responsible for the bill.


-Talk about finances, religion and children before you get married.


-Make it on your own before getting married. Are you marrying for security reasons or do you really want to be with this one person forever?


-Treat your partner like your best friend and not a momma or financial provider. Treat your partner in a loving and kind way.


-Show them that you love them by telling them and doing nice things for each other.
The number one thing imho is to learn how to fight fair before you get married. The two of you will argue, disagree, etc., and how you behave when this happens is key. I know couples who curse each other out, bring up things that happened four years ago, and attack the other's weaknesses. In other words treat their spouses worse than any stranger would. If the two of you learn how to fight fair, by setting ground rules such as no calling names, allow each other the chance to go off and cool down for a few min., no yelling, no interrupting, etc. you will find that working things out to be easier, and feel like you respect one another's opinions.
Agree to be HIGHLY flexible. Realize you will get bored with other sometimes and that you won't always meet 100% of each others needs. Leave the possessiveness and jealousy out.





I have had affairs with married women and I can tell you that they, and their husbands, would be wayyyyy happier if the just agreed beforehand to separate love and sex.
Prepare yourself..!!!!!! Ask yourself the following:





1-What do I expect from the relationship?


2-What am I willing to do to achieve these goals?


3-When should divorce be an option?


4-Would a prenup help ease friction within the relationship?





After you have answered these questions; discuss them with your fiancee' and come to a complete understanding and agreement on what you BOTH expect from each other. If you and he still want to get married after you do this; all should go well.
It's easy. All you have to do is marry the right guy. Don't go after someone controlling, demeaning, or demanding. Find the guy who opens doors for you. Find the guy who puts your needs above his time and time again. Date for at least 2 years before getting married. If possible, live together. You learn more about someone from living with them for a week then you do from dating for years.
Make sure your goals are the same. Different goals destroy marriages.
If the other person does not make you feel the things I list they are probably not marriage material for you.





Strong willed, Strong minded, sexy, secure, loved,respected, adored.





For real...
Communicate, laugh a lot, like each other as friends as well as lovers.





My husband is my best friend.
Mutual respect and compromise.


Keep third parties out of your business too.

How long will it be before marriage becomes gender-irrelevant?

More and more people of like genders are striving to get married.





Eventually some form of legally-recognized union between persons of the same gender will become mainstream.





How long before this actually happens?How long will it be before marriage becomes gender-irrelevant?
The definition of marriage has never been specific about gender, but all the world's societies have always assumed that it meant a sexual union between a man and a woman.





I have nothing against homosexuality, since I've had a few experiences myself, but I think changing that tacit societal agreement is a huge mistake from a species survival pov.





Besides, I've met too many gay men who couldn't give a crap about marrying some guy, they're just in it for the sex.





What straights have to understand is that the entire feminine concept of same sex marriage is an ideology that was dreamt by a bunch of lesbian lapdogs (feminine queens) at the LGBT center on 13th Street in Greenwich Village.How long will it be before marriage becomes gender-irrelevant?
@';How long will it be before marriage becomes gender-irrelevant?';








Matthew 24:[37] -38-44.





Just like the Lord compared His resurrection to Jonah.


The Lord is comparig His 'Coming Back' to Noah's Day.





You will see a whole lot of 'marrying' like that going on.


This is satan's world.


Everything will be possible!





Watch...the Lord said that.
The same time public restrooms do.








Well in reality never. Because the truth never changes, despite social pressures or debauchery.





Marriage is between a man
When people realize that love is not gender-dependent.
No way to really know but God will have His say about it and I for one will be agreeing with Him.
Too long.

Is it fair to compare gay marriage to miscegenation, which was once illegal in several states before the?

Supreme Court deemed it unconstitutional?Is it fair to compare gay marriage to miscegenation, which was once illegal in several states before the?
Yes, it is.





In 1948, the California Supreme Court ruled that the ban on inter-racial marriage was unconstitutional with a 4-3 decision (Perez v. Sharp a/k/a Perez v. Lippold and Perez v. Moroney).





In 2008, the California Supreme Court ruled that the ban on same-sex marriage was unconstitutional with a 4-3 decision (City and County of San Francisco v. State of California, Tyler v. State of California, Woo v. Lockyer, Clinton v. State of California, Proposition 22 Legal Defense and Education Fund v. City and County of San Francisco, %26amp; Campaign for California Families v. Newsom).





In 1948, those who supported the inter-racial marriage ban would say black people could marry all they wanted as long as they married other black people, and white people could marry all they wanted as long as they married other white people.





In 2008, those who support the same-sex marriage ban will say men and women can marry all they want to as long as men marry women and women marry men.





In 1959, they said that inter-racial marriage was unnatural and not what God intended in their court argument of ';Almighty God created the races white, black, yellow, malay and red, and he placed them on separate continents. And but for the interference with his arrangement there would be no cause for such marriages. The fact that he separated the races shows that he did not intend for the races to mix.';





In 2008, they say that same-sex marriage is unnatural and not what God intended in their argument of ';God created Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve.';





In 1967, the Supreme Court of the United States said that marriage bans deprive people ';of liberty without due process of law in violation of the Due Process Clause of the Fourteenth Amendment. The freedom to marry has long been recognized as one of the vital personal rights essential to the orderly pursuit of happiness by free men. Marriage is one of the ';basic civil rights of man,'; fundamental to our very existence and survival. To deny this fundamental freedom... is surely to deprive all the State's citizens of liberty without due process of law. The Fourteenth Amendment requires that the freedom of choice to marry not be restricted. Under our Constitution, the freedom to marry, or not marry... resides with the individual and cannot be infringed by the State.





And one day all of the states of the United States will no longer tell their citizens that they are not equal and are neither wanted nor welcome to apply for a Marriage License.Is it fair to compare gay marriage to miscegenation, which was once illegal in several states before the?
It is absolutely fair. The comparison is made to show that times change. Remember that it was illegal to be gay in California until 1973. Nowadays, even though it is legal, it is still looked down upon in some circles, and I'm talking about mixed-race marriages as well as same-sex marriages.


Hey, Evangelical Fundamentalists: smoking wasn't considered a sin until sometime in the late 19th century. Times change.
Yes i think it's fair to compare. Frankly i am disgusted with America and why this country cannot accept the Gay/Lesbian people as just regular everyday people.





Hopefully one day marriage between same gender people will be permanently legal everywhere in the world.
Yes, it's a fair comparison.






Yes, I think it is absolutely fair.
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  • How to successfully blend finances after marriage?

    My husband and I have been married almost 3 years now. We still have not been able to successfully blend finances to where we are both comfortable. I would like some suggestions from couples that have been able to effectively merge their finances.





    Thank you for the help!





    How to successfully blend finances after marriage?
    10% - Tithing (church and local charities)


    25-35% - mortgage


    5-15%Utilities


    We have set amount of ';blow money'; every time someone gets paid so that we have our own spending money.


    Take care of all expenses like Food, Gas, Club dues, or anything else with remaining money.


    What ever is left over goes into savings account. There are college savings account, our savings, and an emergency fund if it needs to be replenished. Retirement accounts are taken care of before we even get a paycheck (automatic).


    We have a budget meeting once a month. At first they were time consuming but we are experts now and they take about 15 minutes or less.How to successfully blend finances after marriage?
    I think you can start off with one joint- for bills and shared items; then you and your husband should get your own individual checking accounts for your own personal use. Or do one joint, then two individual savings accounts.
    maintain your separate accounts but open a joint account that you both contribute to equally

    How can The United States Government hold the right to grant divorce when marriage is a church affair?

    Yet Church can not endorse a presidential candidate. Any lawyers interested in challenging this, I don't want a divorce my husband does, no reply needed if you think I should let him go. This is a matter of faith and I can not be swayed. How can The United States Government hold the right to grant divorce when marriage is a church affair?
    The original marriage LICENSE you're required to obtain before performing the ceremony is issued by the state government. The church ceremony is just that; a ceremony. It means more to some than the license, but it's still not legally binding unless you have that marriage certificate. As such, because the state issued your original marriage certificate, they have domain over any divorce that may occur.





    It's the separation of Church and State; some people don't HAVE religious ceremonies because they either have no set religion or would rather have a civil service. By removing the sovereign ability of the state over the marriage and divorce process and giving it to the church, it essentially discriminates against those who may not be religious but still want to get married.





    While historically marriage WAS the particular domain of the church, times have changed so that the ceremony is still under the church's domain, and people are free to follow their own particular religious doctrine regarding marriage and divorce, but the state ultimately does have a say.





    If it's a matter of faith between you and your husband, that's between YOU and YOUR HUSBAND. Other people don't need to get involved until the lawyers, and they're the ones to help you through the complicated divorce statutes (believe me, I tried reading that thing once and I never want to do it again o.O)How can The United States Government hold the right to grant divorce when marriage is a church affair?
    Because in order to be legally married, you first need to get a marriage license where you live. It doesn't matter WHERE you choose to get married. You need a license first. If you get married without a license, legally you are not married.





    So marriage is not just a church affair, since you can get married in a park, in your house, and the person officiating at your wedding need not be a member of the clergy. A notary public can officiate at weddings.
    Faith has nothing to do with law. You can be married by a Mayor or Justice of the Peace with no ';religious'; affiliation. To get married, you must have a license issued by the State. To be divorced, you must go through the court system. The church has no say-so on either of these. It is your personal belief if you wish to remain married, but your husband can still obtain a divorce if he wishes to go through the court fight.
    Because marriage is not only a religious ceremony. It is also a legal union of two people. The divorce separates the legal union, but the church can decide if they will recognize the divorce or not, and allow you to remarry. This does not mean you cannot remarry elsewhere; it means the church will not recognize the new marriage, but the government will.
    Unfortunately, and sadly, marriage is recognized by individual states and therefore the benefits afforded married couples are regulated by said states. As is the case with divorce.





    The Church blesses the union and the marriage is before the eyes of God. Departure from the marriage is turning his back on his Church, his beliefs, his morals.





    I am sorry that your husband has ';chosen'; to leave the Church (as mine did) and to leave your marriage. Know that this mom in Michigan is praying for you and for him to come to his senses.
    All the other answers hit it on point - the legal union is licensed by the state (or government) whereas the religious union is blessed as it were, by the church. In all states, but New York and one other I believe, you or your spouse have an absolute right to a divorce - that's why they call them ';no-fault'; states. In New York, if one spouse doesn't want a divorce, the spouse seeking the divorce, must prove to a judge that the other party broke their marriage vows. It can be very ugly and almost always very expensive.
    well, for starters it is a matter for the state government, not the US government since each state sets their own marriage/divorce laws.





    As for your personal situation, do you have a legal marriage license through the state? if so, then the state should have the right to set the terms for divorce. If you are married and recognized as married by your church, but you never got a legal marriage through the state government, then it would be an issue for the church and the church alone.
    They still have to have a marriage license issued to them by the state. Whether or not they have it solemnized by a church is up to them. I think the way we should handle it is EVERYBODY, heterosexual or homosexual, can get a license, but marriage is a religious ceremony, so if they go to a church to have it proclaimed a marriage, more power to them. If not, it's still recognized by the state. It's based on something I read once about the separation of church and state.
    Marriage is a ceremony in the church but it always must be licensed by the state or the marriage means nothing.





    As far as the divorce goes I need more information.





    Church can endorse a presidential candidate but if they do they lose their tax exempt status that is given to them by the government.



    Not Everyone holds a holy ceremony when they get married


    Its the couple's personal choice whether they get married in a church


    but the government needs to recognize you as married in order to do certain things


    Certain things Gay-Rights people are fighting for
    HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA





    you honestly think that marriage is a church affair?????????





    and church cannot endorse a presidential candidate because we live in a free and SECULAR country....if you want religion mixed with your government move to Saudi Arabia






    The Ceremony is in Church, but your licensed by the state to be married



    divorce is a matter of faith I am with you friend

    How to successfully blend finances after marriage?

    My husband and I have been married almost 3 years now. We still have not been able to successfully blend finances to where we are both comfortable. I would like some suggestions from couples that have been able to effectively merge their finances.





    Thank you for the help!





    How to successfully blend finances after marriage?
    10% - Tithing (church and local charities)


    25-35% - mortgage


    5-15%Utilities


    We have set amount of ';blow money'; every time someone gets paid so that we have our own spending money.


    Take care of all expenses like Food, Gas, Club dues, or anything else with remaining money.


    What ever is left over goes into savings account. There are college savings account, our savings, and an emergency fund if it needs to be replenished. Retirement accounts are taken care of before we even get a paycheck (automatic).


    We have a budget meeting once a month. At first they were time consuming but we are experts now and they take about 15 minutes or less.How to successfully blend finances after marriage?
    I think you can start off with one joint- for bills and shared items; then you and your husband should get your own individual checking accounts for your own personal use. Or do one joint, then two individual savings accounts.
    maintain your separate accounts but open a joint account that you both contribute to equally