Friday, November 25, 2011

Can I file for a marriage license and a domestic partnership at the same time for health plan coverage?

My partner and I have filed for a marriage license in San Jose, California. It was suggested to me by my work supervisor that we also file as domestic partners to get my partner onto my health plan coverage, which has language that covers domestic partners but not same-sex marriage. Can this be done and, if so, how does one go about it?Can I file for a marriage license and a domestic partnership at the same time for health plan coverage?
it sounds like double dipping to me

How well do marriages work where the wife cherry picks on what to follow which marriage is outlined of, for?

example going like commitment, yes please, respect, yes make it double, obedience to your husband ? Heck no. A husband that lais down his life for his family ? Of course I expect that. Do those so called ';modern marriages'; work out better than the traditional ones ?How well do marriages work where the wife cherry picks on what to follow which marriage is outlined of, for?
My parents have been married for 40 years. No one wears the pants, my mom has consistently for the duration of their marriage been the sole earner (she put him through college) or has always made at least double what my dad makes currently she makes about 3 times what my dad makes.





Not only has their marriage lasted but the love and the lust is still there. My dad constantly shows his attraction for my mom, with a nipple tweek there and butt pinch here. It's gross when I see it, but it still reminds me that my parents still desperately love each other.





';Modern Marriages'; work, my parents are proof of that.How well do marriages work where the wife cherry picks on what to follow which marriage is outlined of, for?
I don't think any relationship, be it married or unmarried, would work out if you cherry picked what you will get out of it.





Marriage is based on mutual attraction, friendship, partnership, and a desire to spend the rest of your life with this person.





That isn't a ';modern'; marriage; it's a recipe for disaster.
That's quite a sad chip you have on your shoulder, pumpkin.
As long as both members of a married couple agree on their vows, there's no reason they can't select those in the traditional vows which they agree with and ignore the ones which treat women like chattel.





Obey? Ha!
First, you can't assume that there is a single set of ';vows'; on which all people getting married will agree upon. Many people write their own vows or use more contemporary versions of traditional vows which do away with things like obey. As long as both husband and wife are agreeing on certain aspects of marriage beforehand, no cherry picking need occur.





I think where things go badly wrong is when couples really don't talk about their expectations ahead of time. To me, marital commitment has been much devalued, so people don't enter into a marriage with the seriousness that it deserves. I know in some religions, couples go through some counselling before they are allowed to marry in the church. I don't agree with much of the content of the counselling received, at least the ones I'm familiar with. But the concept is a good idea.





In the end, if the wife doesn't honour the commitment of marriage, the marriage probably works out about as well as when the husband doesn't honour the commitment.
not sure what you mean by modern. Do you call traditional marriage where the man is dominant and the wife is subservient? Marriage is a partnership and what works best is compromise and sharing. Sometimes the wife gives more and sometimes the husband. It never works when one person insists on always having their way.
I'm not really clear on what your question is, but my best guess is that regardless of whether it's the husband or the wife that's demanding, happiness will fly out the window - real fast. This is true in both traditional AND modern marriages.
No, because a woman does not stick to the expectations she laid down at the beginning. She makes more and more as it proceeds. She keeps pushing the envelope until one of three things happen, all of which she was aiming for:





1. The husband cheats. She finds out and they divorce.


2. The husband divorces her.


3. The husband jumps off a cliff.





That's why they say,





';A woman will go into a marriage hoping her man will change but he does not. A man will hope that his woman never changes but she does';.
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  • What are the benefits of marriage in the Army?

    My boyfriend and I were planning on marrying next year, but we're curious if we should put the marriage onto paper when he comes home on leave, so that we can start getting the benefits of marriage, even before we have the big ceremony.





    Curious how much it costs to file for a marriage license, and the specific benefits we'll get from being married while he's active duty in the army. Still unsure where his duty station will be, currently he's in boot camp.What are the benefits of marriage in the Army?
    It is hard to say the cost of license and so on because it ranges from county to county. That is something you are going to have to research for your area.





    The benefits of being married is that he will get BAH - Housing Allowance to provide housing for you or you qualify to live in military housing at the base he is stationed at. With housing you are not required to put in a security deposit and utilities are free except for phone, cable and internet, that is your responsibility. You are also under obligation to keep the housing in proper order such as mowing the lawns, weeding, etc...





    With BAH it is going to depend on where he is stationed. For if he gets orders to Korea and you can't go then the BAH will be based on your zip code. If he gets orders to a base in the 50 states then it is based on the command's zip code. If he goes to a OCONUS location and you go then you live in military housing. All allowances are combined with Basic Pay, split in half and paid on the 15th and 1st of each month.





    If he is in schooling, TAD, TDY or deployment for longer than 30 days then he will get Family Separation of $250 per month.





    COLA - Cost of Living, there is 2 types, CONUS (Continental US - lower 48) and OCONUS (Outside US including Hawaii and Alaska). CONUS COLA it doesn't matter if he is married or not, it is about the same. OCONUS COLA is only if you are command sponsored (meaning military is allowing you to be there after clearing a medical %26amp; dental screening) and that will depend on how many years in, his rank/rate, # of dependents and whether or not he is in barracks. If he is on unaccompanied orders then he will not get COLA for you.





    You will be entered into DEERS which means you can then get a military ID card and are automatically enrolled in Tricare Standard. With Standard there is a yearly deductible and a co-pay for each time you go to the doctor that you choose from a list of providers that are acepted by Tricare. You can change to Tricare Prime in whch there is no co-pay or deductible and you are seen at a base hospital or clinic. Prescriptions can be filled at base pharmacy for free or out in town at certain pharmacy's for a discount There is United Concordia Dental, it is $13 a month for 1 person or $29 for a family. This gives you 2 free cleanings a year, then partial pay on everything that needs to be done up to $1200 per year.





    You get Life Insurance of 100K on yourself, which ranges in price depending on your age, usually under $10 per month. Children are covered for up to 10K free of charge





    You can use the base facilities such as gym, pool, ticket office, Commissary, Exchanges, etc...What are the benefits of marriage in the Army?
    the marriage lisence and everything is done by the state you are in, and the cost depends on the state. in alabama its $60. the benifets are awesome. yall will either get a military house or BAH [whatever you prefer, we chose housing because the utilities are paid for, its much cheaper than having to pay for everything, and if your bill or house costs more than the BAH they give you, it doesnt change, you have to pay out of pocket]. YOU and any of your dependants will get tricare [health insurance], AND free life insurance. You will be able to go with him if he gets sent to korea, and if he gets deployed yall will get BAH, plus cola, and seperation pay. if yall dont get married, he will have to live in the barracks, and its MISERABLE there for the soldiers [at least for my husband it was haha]. You will also get a military ID so that you can buy things on post.
    my brother did the same thing his marriage certificate cost 45 dollars and he and his wife had the big wedding later but she was also able to get his medical while he was away and many other perks and when he came home they got his VA lone and bought a house they had save the extra money the army gave them. Good luck and I pray your boyfriend stays safe My brother was lucky and He says prayers helped him.

    How long will it be before the majority of states recognize gay Marriage?

    Iowa, just yesterday made it legal for gays and lesbians to marry legally. How long will it be before we have a majority of states recognizing gay marriage?How long will it be before the majority of states recognize gay Marriage?
    Honestly, I don't know but I hope soon. We all deserve to marry the one we love.How long will it be before the majority of states recognize gay Marriage?
    This is the best argument I have heard against gay marriage.





    Gay marriage doesn't satisfy life's purpose








    It is amazing to me the extent that people will go to in order to achieve their personal goals. Take, for example, Prop. 8 that was on the ballot . This is the second time the California voters have passed this law, and yet those who fought against Prop. 8 continue to fight against the will of the people.





    They keep saying this is a religious issue. That is not true. Everyone needs to answer the question of “What is the purpose of life?” Leaving religion out of the answer, as well as the Bible and personal opinions, there is only one answer that can be given that will satisfy the laws of NATURE. That answer is: “Reproduce yourself and your species.”





    Can two female or two male marriage partners conform to this law? No! So, this is not a religious issue alone. It is an issue that defies the laws of nature. The animal, bird, fish, insect, and plant kingdoms all live this law. They reproduce themselves as per nature's laws.





    If any of these kingdoms failed to live this law, their kingdom would become extinct in a short period of time. If the plant kingdom failed to live this law, there would be no food for man or animals to eat. We would soon become a dead planet.





    Only man wants to defy this law of nature. In so doing, they become destroyers of, rather than contributors to, the human race.





    Society is based on the family of husband wife and children. This is how the next generation rises. I can just see states or countries legalizing gay marriage and then losing population.
    I agree with emmasj's answer.


    Apparently this passed law in Iowa are getting gay activists here in Indiana hyped up. So I am hoping that Indiana will change their laws too. It would be nice if Kentucky would legalize it, so I can have some more choices in this area to get married at in my future.


    Really though America just needs to make it a national law to get rid of the gay marriage bans.
    Did Iowa really do that? Hm...I'm gonna look that up...One thing I do know, New York and New Jersey (The state I live in!!) Are currently debating on this, and a lot of high political figures in New York are now for gay marriage, and they used to be against it. I don't think we'll have all 50 states making gay marriage legal anytime soon, but maybe within the next 30 - 40 years, I guess...But who knows, a lot can change in a small amount of time.





    Edit: I just looked it up, and it's legit!...They legalized same-sex marriage in Iowa...dude that's so awesome...
    honestly dont hold your breath; and Ohio will probably be the last one along with the redneck states ; which i dont see why cuz they are mostly inbreeds
    i really hope its an indication of more to come soon.


    especially in this region of the country, its a really big step forward.

    What are the laws regarding leaving a lease early because of a marriage to someone in the military?

    My fiance is in the Air Force and we are getting married in June. In August, he will be stationed in Tampa, obviously I want to go with him, but I am stuck in a lease that is only 6 months old. My apartment complex says I have to pay 2 months rent plus five hundred for fees. This doesn't sound right to me, since I am leaving because I will be a spouse of someone who received orders to move.What are the laws regarding leaving a lease early because of a marriage to someone in the military?
    The reason for breaking your lease is irrelevant unless there is a clause in your lease that addresses it specifically. You are bound by the language in the lease you signed, so read it to make sure they are asking for the correct settlement amount.What are the laws regarding leaving a lease early because of a marriage to someone in the military?
    Since you are not a member of the military, and the lease is not in the name of a member of the military, you are responsible for the lease.
    If you don't specifically cover an ';exit'; clause in a lease, you are subject to it's terms; fair or not.





    Talk to the legal people at the base to see if they can offer any assistance
    Simple. A lease between only you and the landlord can NOT be broken if your husband, who not on the lease, has orders. If your husband was on your lease, then you would have cause to terminate.
    The soldiers and sailors relief act does only covers the member, not fiances'. Sorry. Maybe they will split the penalty with you??

    How much effort is the woman expected to put in to keep marriage happy?

    Compared to the olden days, how much effort do contemporary women put in ?How much effort is the woman expected to put in to keep marriage happy?
    Just as much as the man. And if he doesn't put any in.......don't marry him. Really pay attention to how a man treats you while dating. We need to look for the signs.How much effort is the woman expected to put in to keep marriage happy?
    She should put in as much as the male, as it should always have been. 50\50 seems ideal, but is impractical.





    You've got 2 people with 2 individual minds and desires. They aren't always going to agree and it's not always best for one to compromise ';this time'; so the other will have to compromise the ';next time';. Decisions that are best for the couple, relationship, or one of the individuals won't always work that way.





    However, all decisions should be discussed and hopefully the end result is something both can agree on, even if both aren't ecstatic about it.





    As for taking care of the home, supporting one another emotionally, etc it should be a shared experience. Very few relationships will last long if there is a strong imbalance, unless one party is much more a follower and the other much more a leader.






    I think that in a marriage it should be 50/50 on everything for both hubby and wife. If you are a team player in your marriage, happiness will always be there.
    Supposed to be 50/50 but as time and routines wear on the number gets bigger for the woman!! like 80% woman and 20% men if even that? The routine makes a man lazy! especially after 20 - 30 years!!
    Ideally just as much as the man but in reality women are expected to put in as much effort as they did back then.
    only love can make one happy marriage
    EACH person in the marriage should be putting in 100% - not 50/50.
    both sides needs to put in 100% into the relationship.
    However much it takes..
    well i say its 50/50 but if you both love each other what you put in you should get back if not get out
    the same



    yes

    How do you have a green card revoked due to a fraudulent marriage?

    My best friend just learned that her husband married her solely for a green card. The day they sent off the paperwork to have the conditional status removed, she overheard him telling his friend that he could finally divorce her, and he left her a few weeks later. She is devastated she loves this jerk so much, but she wants to have his green card revoked. How does she do that?How do you have a green card revoked due to a fraudulent marriage?
    Sorry to hear it. Unfortunately, things like this happen.





    I understand that they only *submitted* the JOINT paperwork (form I-751) to remove conditions, but it was *not approved* yet?





    If so, she should write a notarized letter and send it to the same USCIS address (PO Box address) where they mailed the I-751. She can explain the situation with a ';sham marriage'; on his part, and tell that she is withdrawing her signature at I-751 petition. This way, the JOINT petition becomes invalid.


    Did they have an attorney? or filed it by themselves?





    Also, it takes at least several months for this petition to get processed. So if she gets a divorce and notifies the USCIS, this will invalidate the petition, too. When filing for divorce or annulment, she can also cite the reason of a fraud or misrepresentation on his part.





    If they are not living together and he left her, this should be mentioned in the letter to USCIS. If the petition is denied, eventually he can be placed for deportation. Marriage fraud is a federal crime.





    Added: She should not wait until the interview because the USCIS oftentimes approves these petitions without the interview (new policy).





    Hope this helps.How do you have a green card revoked due to a fraudulent marriage?
    If I understand correctly, they have applied to have the conditional status revoked but not had the interview yet. She can just tell the person at the interview..
    Call and find out!


    She got what she had coming!


    Marry illegals, help them and cry.


    Now she is mad?


    Give me a break.


    Like I said Call and ask is your answer!