I've been reading the processing time updates, it said the waiting time is 7.3 months. Is it accurate?How long is the wait for marriage based green cards?
Yes, it is very accurate. However, you have to take into consideration that it can take up to a year, more than the regular time you specified because there are a lot of applicants, hence a lot of back logs. You also have to remember that it depends where or upon the state processing your application. Some have more to process than others.
Once your papers are processed here then it goes pretty fast. Be patient. It should arrive soon.How long is the wait for marriage based green cards?
It should be pretty close it took us a total of six months.That is counting form the day we mailed our app to the day he received his green card in his hands.
I waited about 10 months. We didnt get an interview either it just came in the mail
It is about right. We did it in 5 months.
Friday, November 25, 2011
What are your tips for making marriage work?
What should I do before getting married?What are your tips for making marriage work?
1st you should make sure that he/she is the person you want to marry.For better or worst, richer or poor. etc.. Marriage is not a game it is hard work.I married my HS sweetheart I have been with him and only him since I was 16 i';m now 44 we will be married for 25 yrs this Oct 6 and 3 kids later.But marriage is what you make it, it's not always going to be peaches and cream.Communicate, respect,trust are the main ingredients to a successful marriage it worked for me.What are your tips for making marriage work?
Tips I would give are to always COMMUNICATE. After one gets married, I see that people fall in the trap of being too complacent.
Think of a marriage like a Sport. Like any 'sport' if we want to be good at it, we always have to work at it. To improve at it, make it really good, or too even maintain the standards.
Once compacency steps in, we start working at it less and less, it won't be the same as before.
I'm not sure marriage can work to be honest. Marriage is like getting a tattoo it always seems like a good idea at the time.
A few tips:
-Marry when you are older and more mature. Sow your wild oats before you get married.
-Ask yourself why you are getting married and do you really want this?
-Can you be faithful to this one person for the rest of your life?
-Be done with school and be able to make a good living. Having money will help you in marriage.
-Don't go to bed angry.
-Think twice about co-signing with your partner. Do you trust this person with your credit score and paying off bills? If you co-sign you are responsible for the bill.
-Talk about finances, religion and children before you get married.
-Make it on your own before getting married. Are you marrying for security reasons or do you really want to be with this one person forever?
-Treat your partner like your best friend and not a momma or financial provider. Treat your partner in a loving and kind way.
-Show them that you love them by telling them and doing nice things for each other.
The number one thing imho is to learn how to fight fair before you get married. The two of you will argue, disagree, etc., and how you behave when this happens is key. I know couples who curse each other out, bring up things that happened four years ago, and attack the other's weaknesses. In other words treat their spouses worse than any stranger would. If the two of you learn how to fight fair, by setting ground rules such as no calling names, allow each other the chance to go off and cool down for a few min., no yelling, no interrupting, etc. you will find that working things out to be easier, and feel like you respect one another's opinions.
Agree to be HIGHLY flexible. Realize you will get bored with other sometimes and that you won't always meet 100% of each others needs. Leave the possessiveness and jealousy out.
I have had affairs with married women and I can tell you that they, and their husbands, would be wayyyyy happier if the just agreed beforehand to separate love and sex.
Prepare yourself..!!!!!! Ask yourself the following:
1-What do I expect from the relationship?
2-What am I willing to do to achieve these goals?
3-When should divorce be an option?
4-Would a prenup help ease friction within the relationship?
After you have answered these questions; discuss them with your fiancee' and come to a complete understanding and agreement on what you BOTH expect from each other. If you and he still want to get married after you do this; all should go well.
It's easy. All you have to do is marry the right guy. Don't go after someone controlling, demeaning, or demanding. Find the guy who opens doors for you. Find the guy who puts your needs above his time and time again. Date for at least 2 years before getting married. If possible, live together. You learn more about someone from living with them for a week then you do from dating for years.
Make sure your goals are the same. Different goals destroy marriages.
If the other person does not make you feel the things I list they are probably not marriage material for you.
Strong willed, Strong minded, sexy, secure, loved,respected, adored.
For real...
Communicate, laugh a lot, like each other as friends as well as lovers.
My husband is my best friend.
Mutual respect and compromise.
Keep third parties out of your business too.
1st you should make sure that he/she is the person you want to marry.For better or worst, richer or poor. etc.. Marriage is not a game it is hard work.I married my HS sweetheart I have been with him and only him since I was 16 i';m now 44 we will be married for 25 yrs this Oct 6 and 3 kids later.But marriage is what you make it, it's not always going to be peaches and cream.Communicate, respect,trust are the main ingredients to a successful marriage it worked for me.What are your tips for making marriage work?
Tips I would give are to always COMMUNICATE. After one gets married, I see that people fall in the trap of being too complacent.
Think of a marriage like a Sport. Like any 'sport' if we want to be good at it, we always have to work at it. To improve at it, make it really good, or too even maintain the standards.
Once compacency steps in, we start working at it less and less, it won't be the same as before.
I'm not sure marriage can work to be honest. Marriage is like getting a tattoo it always seems like a good idea at the time.
A few tips:
-Marry when you are older and more mature. Sow your wild oats before you get married.
-Ask yourself why you are getting married and do you really want this?
-Can you be faithful to this one person for the rest of your life?
-Be done with school and be able to make a good living. Having money will help you in marriage.
-Don't go to bed angry.
-Think twice about co-signing with your partner. Do you trust this person with your credit score and paying off bills? If you co-sign you are responsible for the bill.
-Talk about finances, religion and children before you get married.
-Make it on your own before getting married. Are you marrying for security reasons or do you really want to be with this one person forever?
-Treat your partner like your best friend and not a momma or financial provider. Treat your partner in a loving and kind way.
-Show them that you love them by telling them and doing nice things for each other.
The number one thing imho is to learn how to fight fair before you get married. The two of you will argue, disagree, etc., and how you behave when this happens is key. I know couples who curse each other out, bring up things that happened four years ago, and attack the other's weaknesses. In other words treat their spouses worse than any stranger would. If the two of you learn how to fight fair, by setting ground rules such as no calling names, allow each other the chance to go off and cool down for a few min., no yelling, no interrupting, etc. you will find that working things out to be easier, and feel like you respect one another's opinions.
Agree to be HIGHLY flexible. Realize you will get bored with other sometimes and that you won't always meet 100% of each others needs. Leave the possessiveness and jealousy out.
I have had affairs with married women and I can tell you that they, and their husbands, would be wayyyyy happier if the just agreed beforehand to separate love and sex.
Prepare yourself..!!!!!! Ask yourself the following:
1-What do I expect from the relationship?
2-What am I willing to do to achieve these goals?
3-When should divorce be an option?
4-Would a prenup help ease friction within the relationship?
After you have answered these questions; discuss them with your fiancee' and come to a complete understanding and agreement on what you BOTH expect from each other. If you and he still want to get married after you do this; all should go well.
It's easy. All you have to do is marry the right guy. Don't go after someone controlling, demeaning, or demanding. Find the guy who opens doors for you. Find the guy who puts your needs above his time and time again. Date for at least 2 years before getting married. If possible, live together. You learn more about someone from living with them for a week then you do from dating for years.
Make sure your goals are the same. Different goals destroy marriages.
If the other person does not make you feel the things I list they are probably not marriage material for you.
Strong willed, Strong minded, sexy, secure, loved,respected, adored.
For real...
Communicate, laugh a lot, like each other as friends as well as lovers.
My husband is my best friend.
Mutual respect and compromise.
Keep third parties out of your business too.
How long will it be before marriage becomes gender-irrelevant?
More and more people of like genders are striving to get married.
Eventually some form of legally-recognized union between persons of the same gender will become mainstream.
How long before this actually happens?How long will it be before marriage becomes gender-irrelevant?
The definition of marriage has never been specific about gender, but all the world's societies have always assumed that it meant a sexual union between a man and a woman.
I have nothing against homosexuality, since I've had a few experiences myself, but I think changing that tacit societal agreement is a huge mistake from a species survival pov.
Besides, I've met too many gay men who couldn't give a crap about marrying some guy, they're just in it for the sex.
What straights have to understand is that the entire feminine concept of same sex marriage is an ideology that was dreamt by a bunch of lesbian lapdogs (feminine queens) at the LGBT center on 13th Street in Greenwich Village.How long will it be before marriage becomes gender-irrelevant?
@';How long will it be before marriage becomes gender-irrelevant?';
Matthew 24:[37] -38-44.
Just like the Lord compared His resurrection to Jonah.
The Lord is comparig His 'Coming Back' to Noah's Day.
You will see a whole lot of 'marrying' like that going on.
This is satan's world.
Everything will be possible!
Watch...the Lord said that.
The same time public restrooms do.
Well in reality never. Because the truth never changes, despite social pressures or debauchery.
Marriage is between a man
When people realize that love is not gender-dependent.
No way to really know but God will have His say about it and I for one will be agreeing with Him.
Too long.
Eventually some form of legally-recognized union between persons of the same gender will become mainstream.
How long before this actually happens?How long will it be before marriage becomes gender-irrelevant?
The definition of marriage has never been specific about gender, but all the world's societies have always assumed that it meant a sexual union between a man and a woman.
I have nothing against homosexuality, since I've had a few experiences myself, but I think changing that tacit societal agreement is a huge mistake from a species survival pov.
Besides, I've met too many gay men who couldn't give a crap about marrying some guy, they're just in it for the sex.
What straights have to understand is that the entire feminine concept of same sex marriage is an ideology that was dreamt by a bunch of lesbian lapdogs (feminine queens) at the LGBT center on 13th Street in Greenwich Village.How long will it be before marriage becomes gender-irrelevant?
@';How long will it be before marriage becomes gender-irrelevant?';
Matthew 24:[37] -38-44.
Just like the Lord compared His resurrection to Jonah.
The Lord is comparig His 'Coming Back' to Noah's Day.
You will see a whole lot of 'marrying' like that going on.
This is satan's world.
Everything will be possible!
Watch...the Lord said that.
The same time public restrooms do.
Well in reality never. Because the truth never changes, despite social pressures or debauchery.
Marriage is between a man
When people realize that love is not gender-dependent.
No way to really know but God will have His say about it and I for one will be agreeing with Him.
Too long.
Is it fair to compare gay marriage to miscegenation, which was once illegal in several states before the?
Supreme Court deemed it unconstitutional?Is it fair to compare gay marriage to miscegenation, which was once illegal in several states before the?
Yes, it is.
In 1948, the California Supreme Court ruled that the ban on inter-racial marriage was unconstitutional with a 4-3 decision (Perez v. Sharp a/k/a Perez v. Lippold and Perez v. Moroney).
In 2008, the California Supreme Court ruled that the ban on same-sex marriage was unconstitutional with a 4-3 decision (City and County of San Francisco v. State of California, Tyler v. State of California, Woo v. Lockyer, Clinton v. State of California, Proposition 22 Legal Defense and Education Fund v. City and County of San Francisco, %26amp; Campaign for California Families v. Newsom).
In 1948, those who supported the inter-racial marriage ban would say black people could marry all they wanted as long as they married other black people, and white people could marry all they wanted as long as they married other white people.
In 2008, those who support the same-sex marriage ban will say men and women can marry all they want to as long as men marry women and women marry men.
In 1959, they said that inter-racial marriage was unnatural and not what God intended in their court argument of ';Almighty God created the races white, black, yellow, malay and red, and he placed them on separate continents. And but for the interference with his arrangement there would be no cause for such marriages. The fact that he separated the races shows that he did not intend for the races to mix.';
In 2008, they say that same-sex marriage is unnatural and not what God intended in their argument of ';God created Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve.';
In 1967, the Supreme Court of the United States said that marriage bans deprive people ';of liberty without due process of law in violation of the Due Process Clause of the Fourteenth Amendment. The freedom to marry has long been recognized as one of the vital personal rights essential to the orderly pursuit of happiness by free men. Marriage is one of the ';basic civil rights of man,'; fundamental to our very existence and survival. To deny this fundamental freedom... is surely to deprive all the State's citizens of liberty without due process of law. The Fourteenth Amendment requires that the freedom of choice to marry not be restricted. Under our Constitution, the freedom to marry, or not marry... resides with the individual and cannot be infringed by the State.
And one day all of the states of the United States will no longer tell their citizens that they are not equal and are neither wanted nor welcome to apply for a Marriage License.Is it fair to compare gay marriage to miscegenation, which was once illegal in several states before the?
It is absolutely fair. The comparison is made to show that times change. Remember that it was illegal to be gay in California until 1973. Nowadays, even though it is legal, it is still looked down upon in some circles, and I'm talking about mixed-race marriages as well as same-sex marriages.
Hey, Evangelical Fundamentalists: smoking wasn't considered a sin until sometime in the late 19th century. Times change.
Yes i think it's fair to compare. Frankly i am disgusted with America and why this country cannot accept the Gay/Lesbian people as just regular everyday people.
Hopefully one day marriage between same gender people will be permanently legal everywhere in the world.
Yes, it's a fair comparison.
Yes, I think it is absolutely fair.stop blackheads
Yes, it is.
In 1948, the California Supreme Court ruled that the ban on inter-racial marriage was unconstitutional with a 4-3 decision (Perez v. Sharp a/k/a Perez v. Lippold and Perez v. Moroney).
In 2008, the California Supreme Court ruled that the ban on same-sex marriage was unconstitutional with a 4-3 decision (City and County of San Francisco v. State of California, Tyler v. State of California, Woo v. Lockyer, Clinton v. State of California, Proposition 22 Legal Defense and Education Fund v. City and County of San Francisco, %26amp; Campaign for California Families v. Newsom).
In 1948, those who supported the inter-racial marriage ban would say black people could marry all they wanted as long as they married other black people, and white people could marry all they wanted as long as they married other white people.
In 2008, those who support the same-sex marriage ban will say men and women can marry all they want to as long as men marry women and women marry men.
In 1959, they said that inter-racial marriage was unnatural and not what God intended in their court argument of ';Almighty God created the races white, black, yellow, malay and red, and he placed them on separate continents. And but for the interference with his arrangement there would be no cause for such marriages. The fact that he separated the races shows that he did not intend for the races to mix.';
In 2008, they say that same-sex marriage is unnatural and not what God intended in their argument of ';God created Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve.';
In 1967, the Supreme Court of the United States said that marriage bans deprive people ';of liberty without due process of law in violation of the Due Process Clause of the Fourteenth Amendment. The freedom to marry has long been recognized as one of the vital personal rights essential to the orderly pursuit of happiness by free men. Marriage is one of the ';basic civil rights of man,'; fundamental to our very existence and survival. To deny this fundamental freedom... is surely to deprive all the State's citizens of liberty without due process of law. The Fourteenth Amendment requires that the freedom of choice to marry not be restricted. Under our Constitution, the freedom to marry, or not marry... resides with the individual and cannot be infringed by the State.
And one day all of the states of the United States will no longer tell their citizens that they are not equal and are neither wanted nor welcome to apply for a Marriage License.Is it fair to compare gay marriage to miscegenation, which was once illegal in several states before the?
It is absolutely fair. The comparison is made to show that times change. Remember that it was illegal to be gay in California until 1973. Nowadays, even though it is legal, it is still looked down upon in some circles, and I'm talking about mixed-race marriages as well as same-sex marriages.
Hey, Evangelical Fundamentalists: smoking wasn't considered a sin until sometime in the late 19th century. Times change.
Yes i think it's fair to compare. Frankly i am disgusted with America and why this country cannot accept the Gay/Lesbian people as just regular everyday people.
Hopefully one day marriage between same gender people will be permanently legal everywhere in the world.
Yes, it's a fair comparison.
Yes, I think it is absolutely fair.
How to successfully blend finances after marriage?
My husband and I have been married almost 3 years now. We still have not been able to successfully blend finances to where we are both comfortable. I would like some suggestions from couples that have been able to effectively merge their finances.
Thank you for the help!
How to successfully blend finances after marriage?
10% - Tithing (church and local charities)
25-35% - mortgage
5-15%Utilities
We have set amount of ';blow money'; every time someone gets paid so that we have our own spending money.
Take care of all expenses like Food, Gas, Club dues, or anything else with remaining money.
What ever is left over goes into savings account. There are college savings account, our savings, and an emergency fund if it needs to be replenished. Retirement accounts are taken care of before we even get a paycheck (automatic).
We have a budget meeting once a month. At first they were time consuming but we are experts now and they take about 15 minutes or less.How to successfully blend finances after marriage?
I think you can start off with one joint- for bills and shared items; then you and your husband should get your own individual checking accounts for your own personal use. Or do one joint, then two individual savings accounts.
maintain your separate accounts but open a joint account that you both contribute to equally
Thank you for the help!
How to successfully blend finances after marriage?
10% - Tithing (church and local charities)
25-35% - mortgage
5-15%Utilities
We have set amount of ';blow money'; every time someone gets paid so that we have our own spending money.
Take care of all expenses like Food, Gas, Club dues, or anything else with remaining money.
What ever is left over goes into savings account. There are college savings account, our savings, and an emergency fund if it needs to be replenished. Retirement accounts are taken care of before we even get a paycheck (automatic).
We have a budget meeting once a month. At first they were time consuming but we are experts now and they take about 15 minutes or less.How to successfully blend finances after marriage?
I think you can start off with one joint- for bills and shared items; then you and your husband should get your own individual checking accounts for your own personal use. Or do one joint, then two individual savings accounts.
maintain your separate accounts but open a joint account that you both contribute to equally
How can The United States Government hold the right to grant divorce when marriage is a church affair?
Yet Church can not endorse a presidential candidate. Any lawyers interested in challenging this, I don't want a divorce my husband does, no reply needed if you think I should let him go. This is a matter of faith and I can not be swayed. How can The United States Government hold the right to grant divorce when marriage is a church affair?
The original marriage LICENSE you're required to obtain before performing the ceremony is issued by the state government. The church ceremony is just that; a ceremony. It means more to some than the license, but it's still not legally binding unless you have that marriage certificate. As such, because the state issued your original marriage certificate, they have domain over any divorce that may occur.
It's the separation of Church and State; some people don't HAVE religious ceremonies because they either have no set religion or would rather have a civil service. By removing the sovereign ability of the state over the marriage and divorce process and giving it to the church, it essentially discriminates against those who may not be religious but still want to get married.
While historically marriage WAS the particular domain of the church, times have changed so that the ceremony is still under the church's domain, and people are free to follow their own particular religious doctrine regarding marriage and divorce, but the state ultimately does have a say.
If it's a matter of faith between you and your husband, that's between YOU and YOUR HUSBAND. Other people don't need to get involved until the lawyers, and they're the ones to help you through the complicated divorce statutes (believe me, I tried reading that thing once and I never want to do it again o.O)How can The United States Government hold the right to grant divorce when marriage is a church affair?
Because in order to be legally married, you first need to get a marriage license where you live. It doesn't matter WHERE you choose to get married. You need a license first. If you get married without a license, legally you are not married.
So marriage is not just a church affair, since you can get married in a park, in your house, and the person officiating at your wedding need not be a member of the clergy. A notary public can officiate at weddings.
Faith has nothing to do with law. You can be married by a Mayor or Justice of the Peace with no ';religious'; affiliation. To get married, you must have a license issued by the State. To be divorced, you must go through the court system. The church has no say-so on either of these. It is your personal belief if you wish to remain married, but your husband can still obtain a divorce if he wishes to go through the court fight.
Because marriage is not only a religious ceremony. It is also a legal union of two people. The divorce separates the legal union, but the church can decide if they will recognize the divorce or not, and allow you to remarry. This does not mean you cannot remarry elsewhere; it means the church will not recognize the new marriage, but the government will.
Unfortunately, and sadly, marriage is recognized by individual states and therefore the benefits afforded married couples are regulated by said states. As is the case with divorce.
The Church blesses the union and the marriage is before the eyes of God. Departure from the marriage is turning his back on his Church, his beliefs, his morals.
I am sorry that your husband has ';chosen'; to leave the Church (as mine did) and to leave your marriage. Know that this mom in Michigan is praying for you and for him to come to his senses.
All the other answers hit it on point - the legal union is licensed by the state (or government) whereas the religious union is blessed as it were, by the church. In all states, but New York and one other I believe, you or your spouse have an absolute right to a divorce - that's why they call them ';no-fault'; states. In New York, if one spouse doesn't want a divorce, the spouse seeking the divorce, must prove to a judge that the other party broke their marriage vows. It can be very ugly and almost always very expensive.
well, for starters it is a matter for the state government, not the US government since each state sets their own marriage/divorce laws.
As for your personal situation, do you have a legal marriage license through the state? if so, then the state should have the right to set the terms for divorce. If you are married and recognized as married by your church, but you never got a legal marriage through the state government, then it would be an issue for the church and the church alone.
They still have to have a marriage license issued to them by the state. Whether or not they have it solemnized by a church is up to them. I think the way we should handle it is EVERYBODY, heterosexual or homosexual, can get a license, but marriage is a religious ceremony, so if they go to a church to have it proclaimed a marriage, more power to them. If not, it's still recognized by the state. It's based on something I read once about the separation of church and state.
Marriage is a ceremony in the church but it always must be licensed by the state or the marriage means nothing.
As far as the divorce goes I need more information.
Church can endorse a presidential candidate but if they do they lose their tax exempt status that is given to them by the government.
Not Everyone holds a holy ceremony when they get married
Its the couple's personal choice whether they get married in a church
but the government needs to recognize you as married in order to do certain things
Certain things Gay-Rights people are fighting for
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
you honestly think that marriage is a church affair?????????
and church cannot endorse a presidential candidate because we live in a free and SECULAR country....if you want religion mixed with your government move to Saudi Arabia
The Ceremony is in Church, but your licensed by the state to be married
divorce is a matter of faith I am with you friend
The original marriage LICENSE you're required to obtain before performing the ceremony is issued by the state government. The church ceremony is just that; a ceremony. It means more to some than the license, but it's still not legally binding unless you have that marriage certificate. As such, because the state issued your original marriage certificate, they have domain over any divorce that may occur.
It's the separation of Church and State; some people don't HAVE religious ceremonies because they either have no set religion or would rather have a civil service. By removing the sovereign ability of the state over the marriage and divorce process and giving it to the church, it essentially discriminates against those who may not be religious but still want to get married.
While historically marriage WAS the particular domain of the church, times have changed so that the ceremony is still under the church's domain, and people are free to follow their own particular religious doctrine regarding marriage and divorce, but the state ultimately does have a say.
If it's a matter of faith between you and your husband, that's between YOU and YOUR HUSBAND. Other people don't need to get involved until the lawyers, and they're the ones to help you through the complicated divorce statutes (believe me, I tried reading that thing once and I never want to do it again o.O)How can The United States Government hold the right to grant divorce when marriage is a church affair?
Because in order to be legally married, you first need to get a marriage license where you live. It doesn't matter WHERE you choose to get married. You need a license first. If you get married without a license, legally you are not married.
So marriage is not just a church affair, since you can get married in a park, in your house, and the person officiating at your wedding need not be a member of the clergy. A notary public can officiate at weddings.
Faith has nothing to do with law. You can be married by a Mayor or Justice of the Peace with no ';religious'; affiliation. To get married, you must have a license issued by the State. To be divorced, you must go through the court system. The church has no say-so on either of these. It is your personal belief if you wish to remain married, but your husband can still obtain a divorce if he wishes to go through the court fight.
Because marriage is not only a religious ceremony. It is also a legal union of two people. The divorce separates the legal union, but the church can decide if they will recognize the divorce or not, and allow you to remarry. This does not mean you cannot remarry elsewhere; it means the church will not recognize the new marriage, but the government will.
Unfortunately, and sadly, marriage is recognized by individual states and therefore the benefits afforded married couples are regulated by said states. As is the case with divorce.
The Church blesses the union and the marriage is before the eyes of God. Departure from the marriage is turning his back on his Church, his beliefs, his morals.
I am sorry that your husband has ';chosen'; to leave the Church (as mine did) and to leave your marriage. Know that this mom in Michigan is praying for you and for him to come to his senses.
All the other answers hit it on point - the legal union is licensed by the state (or government) whereas the religious union is blessed as it were, by the church. In all states, but New York and one other I believe, you or your spouse have an absolute right to a divorce - that's why they call them ';no-fault'; states. In New York, if one spouse doesn't want a divorce, the spouse seeking the divorce, must prove to a judge that the other party broke their marriage vows. It can be very ugly and almost always very expensive.
well, for starters it is a matter for the state government, not the US government since each state sets their own marriage/divorce laws.
As for your personal situation, do you have a legal marriage license through the state? if so, then the state should have the right to set the terms for divorce. If you are married and recognized as married by your church, but you never got a legal marriage through the state government, then it would be an issue for the church and the church alone.
They still have to have a marriage license issued to them by the state. Whether or not they have it solemnized by a church is up to them. I think the way we should handle it is EVERYBODY, heterosexual or homosexual, can get a license, but marriage is a religious ceremony, so if they go to a church to have it proclaimed a marriage, more power to them. If not, it's still recognized by the state. It's based on something I read once about the separation of church and state.
Marriage is a ceremony in the church but it always must be licensed by the state or the marriage means nothing.
As far as the divorce goes I need more information.
Church can endorse a presidential candidate but if they do they lose their tax exempt status that is given to them by the government.
Not Everyone holds a holy ceremony when they get married
Its the couple's personal choice whether they get married in a church
but the government needs to recognize you as married in order to do certain things
Certain things Gay-Rights people are fighting for
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
you honestly think that marriage is a church affair?????????
and church cannot endorse a presidential candidate because we live in a free and SECULAR country....if you want religion mixed with your government move to Saudi Arabia
The Ceremony is in Church, but your licensed by the state to be married
divorce is a matter of faith I am with you friend
How to successfully blend finances after marriage?
My husband and I have been married almost 3 years now. We still have not been able to successfully blend finances to where we are both comfortable. I would like some suggestions from couples that have been able to effectively merge their finances.
Thank you for the help!
How to successfully blend finances after marriage?
10% - Tithing (church and local charities)
25-35% - mortgage
5-15%Utilities
We have set amount of ';blow money'; every time someone gets paid so that we have our own spending money.
Take care of all expenses like Food, Gas, Club dues, or anything else with remaining money.
What ever is left over goes into savings account. There are college savings account, our savings, and an emergency fund if it needs to be replenished. Retirement accounts are taken care of before we even get a paycheck (automatic).
We have a budget meeting once a month. At first they were time consuming but we are experts now and they take about 15 minutes or less.How to successfully blend finances after marriage?
I think you can start off with one joint- for bills and shared items; then you and your husband should get your own individual checking accounts for your own personal use. Or do one joint, then two individual savings accounts.
maintain your separate accounts but open a joint account that you both contribute to equally
Thank you for the help!
How to successfully blend finances after marriage?
10% - Tithing (church and local charities)
25-35% - mortgage
5-15%Utilities
We have set amount of ';blow money'; every time someone gets paid so that we have our own spending money.
Take care of all expenses like Food, Gas, Club dues, or anything else with remaining money.
What ever is left over goes into savings account. There are college savings account, our savings, and an emergency fund if it needs to be replenished. Retirement accounts are taken care of before we even get a paycheck (automatic).
We have a budget meeting once a month. At first they were time consuming but we are experts now and they take about 15 minutes or less.How to successfully blend finances after marriage?
I think you can start off with one joint- for bills and shared items; then you and your husband should get your own individual checking accounts for your own personal use. Or do one joint, then two individual savings accounts.
maintain your separate accounts but open a joint account that you both contribute to equally
What kind of person has a problem with living with a partner before marriage?
I'm wondering why someone would be averse to this idea, and what manner of people in general are keen on avoiding it. Religious ones for example? ';Romantic'; ones?What kind of person has a problem with living with a partner before marriage?
Your question shows a lot of bias, but I will tell you a very practical reason why women benefit when they wait until marriage to live together.
Since typically men are more reluctant to get married and start a family, if a woman moves in with a man, then the man has no reason to marry her. He has a cook, a maid, and a sex partner already living with him, so why should he get a wife? But if a woman refuses to move in until they are married, then she has leverage, and the man will have more incentive to put a ring on her finger.
As a legal institution, marriage has a lot of benefits for women. A man cannot leave his wife with out paying child support or alimony, but a man can easily ditch his live-in girlfriend. That is why women should not move in with their boyfriends, especially if they want the boyfriend to become a husband.
That is neither a romantic, nor a religious reason! The ';manner of people who are keen'; on avoiding cohabitation are women who think with their brains, not their hearts.What kind of person has a problem with living with a partner before marriage?
It's simple:
Individuals who are opposed due to the belief that it is sinful to do so outside of marriage.
Otherwise, if you're going to get married, even from a political, romantic, or other standpoint, there's no legitimate reason not to. Even for those who claim those sorts of reasons, the underlying reason is almost always religious beliefs, or at least the social pressure brought about by the religious beliefs of others.
I really think that people who were brought up traditionally or more conservatively would have a problem with the idea. Usually its because of religious beliefs such as muslims... they would absolutely be against the idea of that because it all has to do with purity (virginity) and obviously in the situation of living with a partner before marriage... theres questions of how a man and a women would be able to resist the temptations.
However... living with a partner before marriage is probably a very good idea considering the divorce rate that has been increasing. Maybe the this would be a great time to learn about one another before making such a big decision of marriage etc.
yeahh... thats my 2 cents lol
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Your question shows a lot of bias, but I will tell you a very practical reason why women benefit when they wait until marriage to live together.
Since typically men are more reluctant to get married and start a family, if a woman moves in with a man, then the man has no reason to marry her. He has a cook, a maid, and a sex partner already living with him, so why should he get a wife? But if a woman refuses to move in until they are married, then she has leverage, and the man will have more incentive to put a ring on her finger.
As a legal institution, marriage has a lot of benefits for women. A man cannot leave his wife with out paying child support or alimony, but a man can easily ditch his live-in girlfriend. That is why women should not move in with their boyfriends, especially if they want the boyfriend to become a husband.
That is neither a romantic, nor a religious reason! The ';manner of people who are keen'; on avoiding cohabitation are women who think with their brains, not their hearts.What kind of person has a problem with living with a partner before marriage?
It's simple:
Individuals who are opposed due to the belief that it is sinful to do so outside of marriage.
Otherwise, if you're going to get married, even from a political, romantic, or other standpoint, there's no legitimate reason not to. Even for those who claim those sorts of reasons, the underlying reason is almost always religious beliefs, or at least the social pressure brought about by the religious beliefs of others.
I really think that people who were brought up traditionally or more conservatively would have a problem with the idea. Usually its because of religious beliefs such as muslims... they would absolutely be against the idea of that because it all has to do with purity (virginity) and obviously in the situation of living with a partner before marriage... theres questions of how a man and a women would be able to resist the temptations.
However... living with a partner before marriage is probably a very good idea considering the divorce rate that has been increasing. Maybe the this would be a great time to learn about one another before making such a big decision of marriage etc.
yeahh... thats my 2 cents lol
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Can I file for a marriage license and a domestic partnership at the same time for health plan coverage?
My partner and I have filed for a marriage license in San Jose, California. It was suggested to me by my work supervisor that we also file as domestic partners to get my partner onto my health plan coverage, which has language that covers domestic partners but not same-sex marriage. Can this be done and, if so, how does one go about it?Can I file for a marriage license and a domestic partnership at the same time for health plan coverage?
it sounds like double dipping to me
it sounds like double dipping to me
How well do marriages work where the wife cherry picks on what to follow which marriage is outlined of, for?
example going like commitment, yes please, respect, yes make it double, obedience to your husband ? Heck no. A husband that lais down his life for his family ? Of course I expect that. Do those so called ';modern marriages'; work out better than the traditional ones ?How well do marriages work where the wife cherry picks on what to follow which marriage is outlined of, for?
My parents have been married for 40 years. No one wears the pants, my mom has consistently for the duration of their marriage been the sole earner (she put him through college) or has always made at least double what my dad makes currently she makes about 3 times what my dad makes.
Not only has their marriage lasted but the love and the lust is still there. My dad constantly shows his attraction for my mom, with a nipple tweek there and butt pinch here. It's gross when I see it, but it still reminds me that my parents still desperately love each other.
';Modern Marriages'; work, my parents are proof of that.How well do marriages work where the wife cherry picks on what to follow which marriage is outlined of, for?
I don't think any relationship, be it married or unmarried, would work out if you cherry picked what you will get out of it.
Marriage is based on mutual attraction, friendship, partnership, and a desire to spend the rest of your life with this person.
That isn't a ';modern'; marriage; it's a recipe for disaster.
That's quite a sad chip you have on your shoulder, pumpkin.
As long as both members of a married couple agree on their vows, there's no reason they can't select those in the traditional vows which they agree with and ignore the ones which treat women like chattel.
Obey? Ha!
First, you can't assume that there is a single set of ';vows'; on which all people getting married will agree upon. Many people write their own vows or use more contemporary versions of traditional vows which do away with things like obey. As long as both husband and wife are agreeing on certain aspects of marriage beforehand, no cherry picking need occur.
I think where things go badly wrong is when couples really don't talk about their expectations ahead of time. To me, marital commitment has been much devalued, so people don't enter into a marriage with the seriousness that it deserves. I know in some religions, couples go through some counselling before they are allowed to marry in the church. I don't agree with much of the content of the counselling received, at least the ones I'm familiar with. But the concept is a good idea.
In the end, if the wife doesn't honour the commitment of marriage, the marriage probably works out about as well as when the husband doesn't honour the commitment.
not sure what you mean by modern. Do you call traditional marriage where the man is dominant and the wife is subservient? Marriage is a partnership and what works best is compromise and sharing. Sometimes the wife gives more and sometimes the husband. It never works when one person insists on always having their way.
I'm not really clear on what your question is, but my best guess is that regardless of whether it's the husband or the wife that's demanding, happiness will fly out the window - real fast. This is true in both traditional AND modern marriages.
No, because a woman does not stick to the expectations she laid down at the beginning. She makes more and more as it proceeds. She keeps pushing the envelope until one of three things happen, all of which she was aiming for:
1. The husband cheats. She finds out and they divorce.
2. The husband divorces her.
3. The husband jumps off a cliff.
That's why they say,
';A woman will go into a marriage hoping her man will change but he does not. A man will hope that his woman never changes but she does';.stop blackheads
My parents have been married for 40 years. No one wears the pants, my mom has consistently for the duration of their marriage been the sole earner (she put him through college) or has always made at least double what my dad makes currently she makes about 3 times what my dad makes.
Not only has their marriage lasted but the love and the lust is still there. My dad constantly shows his attraction for my mom, with a nipple tweek there and butt pinch here. It's gross when I see it, but it still reminds me that my parents still desperately love each other.
';Modern Marriages'; work, my parents are proof of that.How well do marriages work where the wife cherry picks on what to follow which marriage is outlined of, for?
I don't think any relationship, be it married or unmarried, would work out if you cherry picked what you will get out of it.
Marriage is based on mutual attraction, friendship, partnership, and a desire to spend the rest of your life with this person.
That isn't a ';modern'; marriage; it's a recipe for disaster.
That's quite a sad chip you have on your shoulder, pumpkin.
As long as both members of a married couple agree on their vows, there's no reason they can't select those in the traditional vows which they agree with and ignore the ones which treat women like chattel.
Obey? Ha!
First, you can't assume that there is a single set of ';vows'; on which all people getting married will agree upon. Many people write their own vows or use more contemporary versions of traditional vows which do away with things like obey. As long as both husband and wife are agreeing on certain aspects of marriage beforehand, no cherry picking need occur.
I think where things go badly wrong is when couples really don't talk about their expectations ahead of time. To me, marital commitment has been much devalued, so people don't enter into a marriage with the seriousness that it deserves. I know in some religions, couples go through some counselling before they are allowed to marry in the church. I don't agree with much of the content of the counselling received, at least the ones I'm familiar with. But the concept is a good idea.
In the end, if the wife doesn't honour the commitment of marriage, the marriage probably works out about as well as when the husband doesn't honour the commitment.
not sure what you mean by modern. Do you call traditional marriage where the man is dominant and the wife is subservient? Marriage is a partnership and what works best is compromise and sharing. Sometimes the wife gives more and sometimes the husband. It never works when one person insists on always having their way.
I'm not really clear on what your question is, but my best guess is that regardless of whether it's the husband or the wife that's demanding, happiness will fly out the window - real fast. This is true in both traditional AND modern marriages.
No, because a woman does not stick to the expectations she laid down at the beginning. She makes more and more as it proceeds. She keeps pushing the envelope until one of three things happen, all of which she was aiming for:
1. The husband cheats. She finds out and they divorce.
2. The husband divorces her.
3. The husband jumps off a cliff.
That's why they say,
';A woman will go into a marriage hoping her man will change but he does not. A man will hope that his woman never changes but she does';.
What are the benefits of marriage in the Army?
My boyfriend and I were planning on marrying next year, but we're curious if we should put the marriage onto paper when he comes home on leave, so that we can start getting the benefits of marriage, even before we have the big ceremony.
Curious how much it costs to file for a marriage license, and the specific benefits we'll get from being married while he's active duty in the army. Still unsure where his duty station will be, currently he's in boot camp.What are the benefits of marriage in the Army?
It is hard to say the cost of license and so on because it ranges from county to county. That is something you are going to have to research for your area.
The benefits of being married is that he will get BAH - Housing Allowance to provide housing for you or you qualify to live in military housing at the base he is stationed at. With housing you are not required to put in a security deposit and utilities are free except for phone, cable and internet, that is your responsibility. You are also under obligation to keep the housing in proper order such as mowing the lawns, weeding, etc...
With BAH it is going to depend on where he is stationed. For if he gets orders to Korea and you can't go then the BAH will be based on your zip code. If he gets orders to a base in the 50 states then it is based on the command's zip code. If he goes to a OCONUS location and you go then you live in military housing. All allowances are combined with Basic Pay, split in half and paid on the 15th and 1st of each month.
If he is in schooling, TAD, TDY or deployment for longer than 30 days then he will get Family Separation of $250 per month.
COLA - Cost of Living, there is 2 types, CONUS (Continental US - lower 48) and OCONUS (Outside US including Hawaii and Alaska). CONUS COLA it doesn't matter if he is married or not, it is about the same. OCONUS COLA is only if you are command sponsored (meaning military is allowing you to be there after clearing a medical %26amp; dental screening) and that will depend on how many years in, his rank/rate, # of dependents and whether or not he is in barracks. If he is on unaccompanied orders then he will not get COLA for you.
You will be entered into DEERS which means you can then get a military ID card and are automatically enrolled in Tricare Standard. With Standard there is a yearly deductible and a co-pay for each time you go to the doctor that you choose from a list of providers that are acepted by Tricare. You can change to Tricare Prime in whch there is no co-pay or deductible and you are seen at a base hospital or clinic. Prescriptions can be filled at base pharmacy for free or out in town at certain pharmacy's for a discount There is United Concordia Dental, it is $13 a month for 1 person or $29 for a family. This gives you 2 free cleanings a year, then partial pay on everything that needs to be done up to $1200 per year.
You get Life Insurance of 100K on yourself, which ranges in price depending on your age, usually under $10 per month. Children are covered for up to 10K free of charge
You can use the base facilities such as gym, pool, ticket office, Commissary, Exchanges, etc...What are the benefits of marriage in the Army?
the marriage lisence and everything is done by the state you are in, and the cost depends on the state. in alabama its $60. the benifets are awesome. yall will either get a military house or BAH [whatever you prefer, we chose housing because the utilities are paid for, its much cheaper than having to pay for everything, and if your bill or house costs more than the BAH they give you, it doesnt change, you have to pay out of pocket]. YOU and any of your dependants will get tricare [health insurance], AND free life insurance. You will be able to go with him if he gets sent to korea, and if he gets deployed yall will get BAH, plus cola, and seperation pay. if yall dont get married, he will have to live in the barracks, and its MISERABLE there for the soldiers [at least for my husband it was haha]. You will also get a military ID so that you can buy things on post.
my brother did the same thing his marriage certificate cost 45 dollars and he and his wife had the big wedding later but she was also able to get his medical while he was away and many other perks and when he came home they got his VA lone and bought a house they had save the extra money the army gave them. Good luck and I pray your boyfriend stays safe My brother was lucky and He says prayers helped him.
Curious how much it costs to file for a marriage license, and the specific benefits we'll get from being married while he's active duty in the army. Still unsure where his duty station will be, currently he's in boot camp.What are the benefits of marriage in the Army?
It is hard to say the cost of license and so on because it ranges from county to county. That is something you are going to have to research for your area.
The benefits of being married is that he will get BAH - Housing Allowance to provide housing for you or you qualify to live in military housing at the base he is stationed at. With housing you are not required to put in a security deposit and utilities are free except for phone, cable and internet, that is your responsibility. You are also under obligation to keep the housing in proper order such as mowing the lawns, weeding, etc...
With BAH it is going to depend on where he is stationed. For if he gets orders to Korea and you can't go then the BAH will be based on your zip code. If he gets orders to a base in the 50 states then it is based on the command's zip code. If he goes to a OCONUS location and you go then you live in military housing. All allowances are combined with Basic Pay, split in half and paid on the 15th and 1st of each month.
If he is in schooling, TAD, TDY or deployment for longer than 30 days then he will get Family Separation of $250 per month.
COLA - Cost of Living, there is 2 types, CONUS (Continental US - lower 48) and OCONUS (Outside US including Hawaii and Alaska). CONUS COLA it doesn't matter if he is married or not, it is about the same. OCONUS COLA is only if you are command sponsored (meaning military is allowing you to be there after clearing a medical %26amp; dental screening) and that will depend on how many years in, his rank/rate, # of dependents and whether or not he is in barracks. If he is on unaccompanied orders then he will not get COLA for you.
You will be entered into DEERS which means you can then get a military ID card and are automatically enrolled in Tricare Standard. With Standard there is a yearly deductible and a co-pay for each time you go to the doctor that you choose from a list of providers that are acepted by Tricare. You can change to Tricare Prime in whch there is no co-pay or deductible and you are seen at a base hospital or clinic. Prescriptions can be filled at base pharmacy for free or out in town at certain pharmacy's for a discount There is United Concordia Dental, it is $13 a month for 1 person or $29 for a family. This gives you 2 free cleanings a year, then partial pay on everything that needs to be done up to $1200 per year.
You get Life Insurance of 100K on yourself, which ranges in price depending on your age, usually under $10 per month. Children are covered for up to 10K free of charge
You can use the base facilities such as gym, pool, ticket office, Commissary, Exchanges, etc...What are the benefits of marriage in the Army?
the marriage lisence and everything is done by the state you are in, and the cost depends on the state. in alabama its $60. the benifets are awesome. yall will either get a military house or BAH [whatever you prefer, we chose housing because the utilities are paid for, its much cheaper than having to pay for everything, and if your bill or house costs more than the BAH they give you, it doesnt change, you have to pay out of pocket]. YOU and any of your dependants will get tricare [health insurance], AND free life insurance. You will be able to go with him if he gets sent to korea, and if he gets deployed yall will get BAH, plus cola, and seperation pay. if yall dont get married, he will have to live in the barracks, and its MISERABLE there for the soldiers [at least for my husband it was haha]. You will also get a military ID so that you can buy things on post.
my brother did the same thing his marriage certificate cost 45 dollars and he and his wife had the big wedding later but she was also able to get his medical while he was away and many other perks and when he came home they got his VA lone and bought a house they had save the extra money the army gave them. Good luck and I pray your boyfriend stays safe My brother was lucky and He says prayers helped him.
How long will it be before the majority of states recognize gay Marriage?
Iowa, just yesterday made it legal for gays and lesbians to marry legally. How long will it be before we have a majority of states recognizing gay marriage?How long will it be before the majority of states recognize gay Marriage?
Honestly, I don't know but I hope soon. We all deserve to marry the one we love.How long will it be before the majority of states recognize gay Marriage?
This is the best argument I have heard against gay marriage.
Gay marriage doesn't satisfy life's purpose
It is amazing to me the extent that people will go to in order to achieve their personal goals. Take, for example, Prop. 8 that was on the ballot . This is the second time the California voters have passed this law, and yet those who fought against Prop. 8 continue to fight against the will of the people.
They keep saying this is a religious issue. That is not true. Everyone needs to answer the question of “What is the purpose of life?” Leaving religion out of the answer, as well as the Bible and personal opinions, there is only one answer that can be given that will satisfy the laws of NATURE. That answer is: “Reproduce yourself and your species.”
Can two female or two male marriage partners conform to this law? No! So, this is not a religious issue alone. It is an issue that defies the laws of nature. The animal, bird, fish, insect, and plant kingdoms all live this law. They reproduce themselves as per nature's laws.
If any of these kingdoms failed to live this law, their kingdom would become extinct in a short period of time. If the plant kingdom failed to live this law, there would be no food for man or animals to eat. We would soon become a dead planet.
Only man wants to defy this law of nature. In so doing, they become destroyers of, rather than contributors to, the human race.
Society is based on the family of husband wife and children. This is how the next generation rises. I can just see states or countries legalizing gay marriage and then losing population.
I agree with emmasj's answer.
Apparently this passed law in Iowa are getting gay activists here in Indiana hyped up. So I am hoping that Indiana will change their laws too. It would be nice if Kentucky would legalize it, so I can have some more choices in this area to get married at in my future.
Really though America just needs to make it a national law to get rid of the gay marriage bans.
Did Iowa really do that? Hm...I'm gonna look that up...One thing I do know, New York and New Jersey (The state I live in!!) Are currently debating on this, and a lot of high political figures in New York are now for gay marriage, and they used to be against it. I don't think we'll have all 50 states making gay marriage legal anytime soon, but maybe within the next 30 - 40 years, I guess...But who knows, a lot can change in a small amount of time.
Edit: I just looked it up, and it's legit!...They legalized same-sex marriage in Iowa...dude that's so awesome...
honestly dont hold your breath; and Ohio will probably be the last one along with the redneck states ; which i dont see why cuz they are mostly inbreeds
i really hope its an indication of more to come soon.
especially in this region of the country, its a really big step forward.
Honestly, I don't know but I hope soon. We all deserve to marry the one we love.How long will it be before the majority of states recognize gay Marriage?
This is the best argument I have heard against gay marriage.
Gay marriage doesn't satisfy life's purpose
It is amazing to me the extent that people will go to in order to achieve their personal goals. Take, for example, Prop. 8 that was on the ballot . This is the second time the California voters have passed this law, and yet those who fought against Prop. 8 continue to fight against the will of the people.
They keep saying this is a religious issue. That is not true. Everyone needs to answer the question of “What is the purpose of life?” Leaving religion out of the answer, as well as the Bible and personal opinions, there is only one answer that can be given that will satisfy the laws of NATURE. That answer is: “Reproduce yourself and your species.”
Can two female or two male marriage partners conform to this law? No! So, this is not a religious issue alone. It is an issue that defies the laws of nature. The animal, bird, fish, insect, and plant kingdoms all live this law. They reproduce themselves as per nature's laws.
If any of these kingdoms failed to live this law, their kingdom would become extinct in a short period of time. If the plant kingdom failed to live this law, there would be no food for man or animals to eat. We would soon become a dead planet.
Only man wants to defy this law of nature. In so doing, they become destroyers of, rather than contributors to, the human race.
Society is based on the family of husband wife and children. This is how the next generation rises. I can just see states or countries legalizing gay marriage and then losing population.
I agree with emmasj's answer.
Apparently this passed law in Iowa are getting gay activists here in Indiana hyped up. So I am hoping that Indiana will change their laws too. It would be nice if Kentucky would legalize it, so I can have some more choices in this area to get married at in my future.
Really though America just needs to make it a national law to get rid of the gay marriage bans.
Did Iowa really do that? Hm...I'm gonna look that up...One thing I do know, New York and New Jersey (The state I live in!!) Are currently debating on this, and a lot of high political figures in New York are now for gay marriage, and they used to be against it. I don't think we'll have all 50 states making gay marriage legal anytime soon, but maybe within the next 30 - 40 years, I guess...But who knows, a lot can change in a small amount of time.
Edit: I just looked it up, and it's legit!...They legalized same-sex marriage in Iowa...dude that's so awesome...
honestly dont hold your breath; and Ohio will probably be the last one along with the redneck states ; which i dont see why cuz they are mostly inbreeds
i really hope its an indication of more to come soon.
especially in this region of the country, its a really big step forward.
What are the laws regarding leaving a lease early because of a marriage to someone in the military?
My fiance is in the Air Force and we are getting married in June. In August, he will be stationed in Tampa, obviously I want to go with him, but I am stuck in a lease that is only 6 months old. My apartment complex says I have to pay 2 months rent plus five hundred for fees. This doesn't sound right to me, since I am leaving because I will be a spouse of someone who received orders to move.What are the laws regarding leaving a lease early because of a marriage to someone in the military?
The reason for breaking your lease is irrelevant unless there is a clause in your lease that addresses it specifically. You are bound by the language in the lease you signed, so read it to make sure they are asking for the correct settlement amount.What are the laws regarding leaving a lease early because of a marriage to someone in the military?
Since you are not a member of the military, and the lease is not in the name of a member of the military, you are responsible for the lease.
If you don't specifically cover an ';exit'; clause in a lease, you are subject to it's terms; fair or not.
Talk to the legal people at the base to see if they can offer any assistance
Simple. A lease between only you and the landlord can NOT be broken if your husband, who not on the lease, has orders. If your husband was on your lease, then you would have cause to terminate.
The soldiers and sailors relief act does only covers the member, not fiances'. Sorry. Maybe they will split the penalty with you??
The reason for breaking your lease is irrelevant unless there is a clause in your lease that addresses it specifically. You are bound by the language in the lease you signed, so read it to make sure they are asking for the correct settlement amount.What are the laws regarding leaving a lease early because of a marriage to someone in the military?
Since you are not a member of the military, and the lease is not in the name of a member of the military, you are responsible for the lease.
If you don't specifically cover an ';exit'; clause in a lease, you are subject to it's terms; fair or not.
Talk to the legal people at the base to see if they can offer any assistance
Simple. A lease between only you and the landlord can NOT be broken if your husband, who not on the lease, has orders. If your husband was on your lease, then you would have cause to terminate.
The soldiers and sailors relief act does only covers the member, not fiances'. Sorry. Maybe they will split the penalty with you??
How much effort is the woman expected to put in to keep marriage happy?
Compared to the olden days, how much effort do contemporary women put in ?How much effort is the woman expected to put in to keep marriage happy?
Just as much as the man. And if he doesn't put any in.......don't marry him. Really pay attention to how a man treats you while dating. We need to look for the signs.How much effort is the woman expected to put in to keep marriage happy?
She should put in as much as the male, as it should always have been. 50\50 seems ideal, but is impractical.
You've got 2 people with 2 individual minds and desires. They aren't always going to agree and it's not always best for one to compromise ';this time'; so the other will have to compromise the ';next time';. Decisions that are best for the couple, relationship, or one of the individuals won't always work that way.
However, all decisions should be discussed and hopefully the end result is something both can agree on, even if both aren't ecstatic about it.
As for taking care of the home, supporting one another emotionally, etc it should be a shared experience. Very few relationships will last long if there is a strong imbalance, unless one party is much more a follower and the other much more a leader.
I think that in a marriage it should be 50/50 on everything for both hubby and wife. If you are a team player in your marriage, happiness will always be there.
Supposed to be 50/50 but as time and routines wear on the number gets bigger for the woman!! like 80% woman and 20% men if even that? The routine makes a man lazy! especially after 20 - 30 years!!
Ideally just as much as the man but in reality women are expected to put in as much effort as they did back then.
only love can make one happy marriage
EACH person in the marriage should be putting in 100% - not 50/50.
both sides needs to put in 100% into the relationship.
However much it takes..
well i say its 50/50 but if you both love each other what you put in you should get back if not get out
the same
yes
Just as much as the man. And if he doesn't put any in.......don't marry him. Really pay attention to how a man treats you while dating. We need to look for the signs.How much effort is the woman expected to put in to keep marriage happy?
She should put in as much as the male, as it should always have been. 50\50 seems ideal, but is impractical.
You've got 2 people with 2 individual minds and desires. They aren't always going to agree and it's not always best for one to compromise ';this time'; so the other will have to compromise the ';next time';. Decisions that are best for the couple, relationship, or one of the individuals won't always work that way.
However, all decisions should be discussed and hopefully the end result is something both can agree on, even if both aren't ecstatic about it.
As for taking care of the home, supporting one another emotionally, etc it should be a shared experience. Very few relationships will last long if there is a strong imbalance, unless one party is much more a follower and the other much more a leader.
I think that in a marriage it should be 50/50 on everything for both hubby and wife. If you are a team player in your marriage, happiness will always be there.
Supposed to be 50/50 but as time and routines wear on the number gets bigger for the woman!! like 80% woman and 20% men if even that? The routine makes a man lazy! especially after 20 - 30 years!!
Ideally just as much as the man but in reality women are expected to put in as much effort as they did back then.
only love can make one happy marriage
EACH person in the marriage should be putting in 100% - not 50/50.
both sides needs to put in 100% into the relationship.
However much it takes..
well i say its 50/50 but if you both love each other what you put in you should get back if not get out
the same
yes
How do you have a green card revoked due to a fraudulent marriage?
My best friend just learned that her husband married her solely for a green card. The day they sent off the paperwork to have the conditional status removed, she overheard him telling his friend that he could finally divorce her, and he left her a few weeks later. She is devastated she loves this jerk so much, but she wants to have his green card revoked. How does she do that?How do you have a green card revoked due to a fraudulent marriage?
Sorry to hear it. Unfortunately, things like this happen.
I understand that they only *submitted* the JOINT paperwork (form I-751) to remove conditions, but it was *not approved* yet?
If so, she should write a notarized letter and send it to the same USCIS address (PO Box address) where they mailed the I-751. She can explain the situation with a ';sham marriage'; on his part, and tell that she is withdrawing her signature at I-751 petition. This way, the JOINT petition becomes invalid.
Did they have an attorney? or filed it by themselves?
Also, it takes at least several months for this petition to get processed. So if she gets a divorce and notifies the USCIS, this will invalidate the petition, too. When filing for divorce or annulment, she can also cite the reason of a fraud or misrepresentation on his part.
If they are not living together and he left her, this should be mentioned in the letter to USCIS. If the petition is denied, eventually he can be placed for deportation. Marriage fraud is a federal crime.
Added: She should not wait until the interview because the USCIS oftentimes approves these petitions without the interview (new policy).
Hope this helps.How do you have a green card revoked due to a fraudulent marriage?
If I understand correctly, they have applied to have the conditional status revoked but not had the interview yet. She can just tell the person at the interview..
Call and find out!
She got what she had coming!
Marry illegals, help them and cry.
Now she is mad?
Give me a break.
Like I said Call and ask is your answer!
Sorry to hear it. Unfortunately, things like this happen.
I understand that they only *submitted* the JOINT paperwork (form I-751) to remove conditions, but it was *not approved* yet?
If so, she should write a notarized letter and send it to the same USCIS address (PO Box address) where they mailed the I-751. She can explain the situation with a ';sham marriage'; on his part, and tell that she is withdrawing her signature at I-751 petition. This way, the JOINT petition becomes invalid.
Did they have an attorney? or filed it by themselves?
Also, it takes at least several months for this petition to get processed. So if she gets a divorce and notifies the USCIS, this will invalidate the petition, too. When filing for divorce or annulment, she can also cite the reason of a fraud or misrepresentation on his part.
If they are not living together and he left her, this should be mentioned in the letter to USCIS. If the petition is denied, eventually he can be placed for deportation. Marriage fraud is a federal crime.
Added: She should not wait until the interview because the USCIS oftentimes approves these petitions without the interview (new policy).
Hope this helps.How do you have a green card revoked due to a fraudulent marriage?
If I understand correctly, they have applied to have the conditional status revoked but not had the interview yet. She can just tell the person at the interview..
Call and find out!
She got what she had coming!
Marry illegals, help them and cry.
Now she is mad?
Give me a break.
Like I said Call and ask is your answer!
Any quotations on love and marriage that incorporate the beach or sailing?
I'm getting married in the Caribbean on the beach. I'm looking for quotations that incorporate sailing or the beach to use as possible readings in my wedding ceremony or just on my program and elsewhere. I'd really appreciate any ideas you have. Thanks!Any quotations on love and marriage that incorporate the beach or sailing?
don't rock the boat... idk...
oh heres one i just made up... i think its pretty good
marriage is like a beach, if you look too close at it it looks grainy and hard... but if you just accept it for what it is it is just softstop blackheads
don't rock the boat... idk...
oh heres one i just made up... i think its pretty good
marriage is like a beach, if you look too close at it it looks grainy and hard... but if you just accept it for what it is it is just soft
What goes into getting your marriage blessed by the church?
My fiancee and I are both Catholic but we are having our wedding ceremony by the beach with all our friends and family there. We want the marriage to be recognized in the eyes of the church though so we are having a private ceremony before hand. What goes into this ceremony? Is it a full on wedding with the vows exchanged and all? When we then have our beach wedding immediately after, will we have already become husband and wife from the church ceremony? Thanks to all who answer!!!What goes into getting your marriage blessed by the church?
Talk to your priest. The specific requirements may vary from parrish to parrish. But, you probably have to wait until you are legally married to have it blessed by the church.
It can be a simple blessing with no one present except for you, your spouse and the priest. As my priest told us, the exchanging of vows between you and your husband is it. Everything and everyone else is fluff. It's just how much fluff do you want to have.What goes into getting your marriage blessed by the church?
Before anything, you have first to be aware that in marriage, there are 2 laws that will apply. First is the civil laws or the law imposed by your government and country. Then there are laws imposed by your faith and religion (for catholics - Canon law). These 2 laws are different and independent from one another. This is the legal principle called the ';Separation of Church and State';. Therefore, one can be married in the eyes of civil law and not married as per canon law and vice versa. A church marriage, no matter how small, will of course have all the vows because Canon law requires full consent, capacity before one can get married. Thus, the question asked to you as to whether you accept the other party will be asked by the priest to determine full consent and capacity. For your civil marriage, full consent and capacity will also be required for the marriage to be legal and binding. Thus, the question of whether you accept the other party will also be asked to you by the govt. official (e.g., mayor, judge, etc....). Consent and capacity are defined differently by these 2 laws which is also why a marraige may be annulled in civil law but not in canon law and also vice versa.
We got married in the Catholic Church, and what I have heard is that this varies a lot by parish and by diocese. But what remains the same is that if neither party was married before, it's fairly easy if you get married in a civil ceremony or in the church of another religion, and then approach a priest about having the marriage blessed by the Catholic Church.
But if you approach them ahead of time, they're going to guilt-trip you and make it so difficult that you will just give in and get married in the Church.
As you no doubt know, Catholics are very big on guilt.
Talk with your priest.
I have never heard of it being done that way you explain it....PRIOR to the actual other ceremony.
Those that usually ask this question are already legally married (beach/destination wedding) and THEN have their marriage ';blessed.';
Yes, whatever ceremony is FIRST is the legal one....so if you are getting married first in the church, then, yes, you will already be husband and wife for the beach ceremony.
You might want to do it the other way around.
Talk to your priest. The specific requirements may vary from parrish to parrish. But, you probably have to wait until you are legally married to have it blessed by the church.
It can be a simple blessing with no one present except for you, your spouse and the priest. As my priest told us, the exchanging of vows between you and your husband is it. Everything and everyone else is fluff. It's just how much fluff do you want to have.What goes into getting your marriage blessed by the church?
Before anything, you have first to be aware that in marriage, there are 2 laws that will apply. First is the civil laws or the law imposed by your government and country. Then there are laws imposed by your faith and religion (for catholics - Canon law). These 2 laws are different and independent from one another. This is the legal principle called the ';Separation of Church and State';. Therefore, one can be married in the eyes of civil law and not married as per canon law and vice versa. A church marriage, no matter how small, will of course have all the vows because Canon law requires full consent, capacity before one can get married. Thus, the question asked to you as to whether you accept the other party will be asked by the priest to determine full consent and capacity. For your civil marriage, full consent and capacity will also be required for the marriage to be legal and binding. Thus, the question of whether you accept the other party will also be asked to you by the govt. official (e.g., mayor, judge, etc....). Consent and capacity are defined differently by these 2 laws which is also why a marraige may be annulled in civil law but not in canon law and also vice versa.
We got married in the Catholic Church, and what I have heard is that this varies a lot by parish and by diocese. But what remains the same is that if neither party was married before, it's fairly easy if you get married in a civil ceremony or in the church of another religion, and then approach a priest about having the marriage blessed by the Catholic Church.
But if you approach them ahead of time, they're going to guilt-trip you and make it so difficult that you will just give in and get married in the Church.
As you no doubt know, Catholics are very big on guilt.
Talk with your priest.
I have never heard of it being done that way you explain it....PRIOR to the actual other ceremony.
Those that usually ask this question are already legally married (beach/destination wedding) and THEN have their marriage ';blessed.';
Yes, whatever ceremony is FIRST is the legal one....so if you are getting married first in the church, then, yes, you will already be husband and wife for the beach ceremony.
You might want to do it the other way around.
How do you make a marriage work when you never see your spouse?
Say if you work completely opposite schedules, or if they travel alot, or even if their in the military....
how can a marriage sucessfully survive when you never see each other?How do you make a marriage work when you never see your spouse?
How you make it work is the small things when you are together. I was in the military and we were apart a lot of the time. But when we were together, it's the small stuff that you remember: my wife used to stay up half the night making sure my patches were sewn on correctly, she remembered names and events that happened, she would cook my favorite meal the first night back even though she was pregnant and everything made her sick. Like I said, it's the small stuff. Because once a small, nice gesture happens, you are in a good mood and when you have to leave again, you remember the good because that is all their was. And then you have to try and communicate when apart. My wife used to send my pictures almost daily through e-mail, we would talk whenever I hit port.
It takes a commitment on both sides, one person can't try harder then the other. Both partners have to be willing to go that extra mile and make up for the lost time.How do you make a marriage work when you never see your spouse?
By having a strong base of love and trust that doesn't require you always being together.
Since your schedules are so opposite you could; leave a love note on the pillow, make a dinner and leave it in the fridge to be heated up, send text messages to each other randomly, schedule to both take a day off work. And remember the situation is likely temporary, whereas the marriage is permanent.
EDIT: No job or schedule is permanent. If you think the only way your marriage can work is by seeing eachother all the time then either work to adjust your schedule, make peace with your situation or give up(which it seems what you want to do with all your excuses of why our ideas won't work )
As a military wife, I can tell you, I have the best of both worlds.
I might get criticized for saying this, but I think his periodic absences help our marriage survive.
Just as I am sick of his snoring, inability to clean up after himself, the hairs in the sink and the empty beer bottles laying around, off he goes. And while he is gone, I find I miss those very things that drive me so nuts.
When he comes home, we get to fall in love all over again.
I think it may be the only reason I haven't broomed him to the curb, lol!
Absence really does make the heart grow fonder. You just have to fill the time they are gone with productive things - like your job, a new hobby, etc.
It can work. Believe me.
Well, as far as distance my husband and I used web cams and phone calls..... for even more than just talking if you know what I mean =0] If I were in your situation I would keep a note book and ';pass notes';. As cheesy as it sounds it could be a little romantic. It may not be a full solution, but a small way to keep things open between you two, and to open the door for a little sweetness.
Sorry I couldn't be more help.
It's an uphill battle and is not ideal. You need to work work work at it. And SEIZE on the opportunity to spend all time together you can.
When my wife and I were younger we worked opposite shifts. We finally had Sunday come and she wanted to go out with her friends. I was SO hurt. I've spent no time with you in 7 days and you now have a day off and you want to go with your friends?
She got it.
You'd have to actually make an effort to *make* time for each other, instead of it happening naturally. Also, to a certain degree you both will have to accept that your lives will require some extra effort, and adapt to spending time without each other.
It takes more work and effort than other marriages, but it can work.
EDIT: My ';deep insight'; is that I have to work my *** off to have a good marriage. There is no secret, it has to do with compatibility, love, and a want to have the marriage.
EDIT#2: Hasn't he already moved out and you have separated because of his drinking and not behaving like a husband? I looked back to that question from yesterday or the day before, and let me tell you, it will take an absolute commitment on BOTH of your parts, TIME to heal the relationship, and EFFORT to make each other happy. You are asking how to get your marriage back and fix it, not hypothetically how other people do it.
just plan a day where it will just be u 2 and tell him that he will not go to work on this day. yall really need to spend time 2gthr.
hope i helped %26amp;%26amp; good luck (:
At some point you are going to have to realize which is more important... your schedules or your marriage.
it's hard and some-cpls cant make it work.
how can a marriage sucessfully survive when you never see each other?How do you make a marriage work when you never see your spouse?
How you make it work is the small things when you are together. I was in the military and we were apart a lot of the time. But when we were together, it's the small stuff that you remember: my wife used to stay up half the night making sure my patches were sewn on correctly, she remembered names and events that happened, she would cook my favorite meal the first night back even though she was pregnant and everything made her sick. Like I said, it's the small stuff. Because once a small, nice gesture happens, you are in a good mood and when you have to leave again, you remember the good because that is all their was. And then you have to try and communicate when apart. My wife used to send my pictures almost daily through e-mail, we would talk whenever I hit port.
It takes a commitment on both sides, one person can't try harder then the other. Both partners have to be willing to go that extra mile and make up for the lost time.How do you make a marriage work when you never see your spouse?
By having a strong base of love and trust that doesn't require you always being together.
Since your schedules are so opposite you could; leave a love note on the pillow, make a dinner and leave it in the fridge to be heated up, send text messages to each other randomly, schedule to both take a day off work. And remember the situation is likely temporary, whereas the marriage is permanent.
EDIT: No job or schedule is permanent. If you think the only way your marriage can work is by seeing eachother all the time then either work to adjust your schedule, make peace with your situation or give up(which it seems what you want to do with all your excuses of why our ideas won't work )
As a military wife, I can tell you, I have the best of both worlds.
I might get criticized for saying this, but I think his periodic absences help our marriage survive.
Just as I am sick of his snoring, inability to clean up after himself, the hairs in the sink and the empty beer bottles laying around, off he goes. And while he is gone, I find I miss those very things that drive me so nuts.
When he comes home, we get to fall in love all over again.
I think it may be the only reason I haven't broomed him to the curb, lol!
Absence really does make the heart grow fonder. You just have to fill the time they are gone with productive things - like your job, a new hobby, etc.
It can work. Believe me.
Well, as far as distance my husband and I used web cams and phone calls..... for even more than just talking if you know what I mean =0] If I were in your situation I would keep a note book and ';pass notes';. As cheesy as it sounds it could be a little romantic. It may not be a full solution, but a small way to keep things open between you two, and to open the door for a little sweetness.
Sorry I couldn't be more help.
It's an uphill battle and is not ideal. You need to work work work at it. And SEIZE on the opportunity to spend all time together you can.
When my wife and I were younger we worked opposite shifts. We finally had Sunday come and she wanted to go out with her friends. I was SO hurt. I've spent no time with you in 7 days and you now have a day off and you want to go with your friends?
She got it.
You'd have to actually make an effort to *make* time for each other, instead of it happening naturally. Also, to a certain degree you both will have to accept that your lives will require some extra effort, and adapt to spending time without each other.
It takes more work and effort than other marriages, but it can work.
EDIT: My ';deep insight'; is that I have to work my *** off to have a good marriage. There is no secret, it has to do with compatibility, love, and a want to have the marriage.
EDIT#2: Hasn't he already moved out and you have separated because of his drinking and not behaving like a husband? I looked back to that question from yesterday or the day before, and let me tell you, it will take an absolute commitment on BOTH of your parts, TIME to heal the relationship, and EFFORT to make each other happy. You are asking how to get your marriage back and fix it, not hypothetically how other people do it.
just plan a day where it will just be u 2 and tell him that he will not go to work on this day. yall really need to spend time 2gthr.
hope i helped %26amp;%26amp; good luck (:
At some point you are going to have to realize which is more important... your schedules or your marriage.
it's hard and some-cpls cant make it work.
What do US Birth and Marriage Certificates look like?
I have been tracing my family tree and i wondered what the US eqivulent of our certs look like.What do US Birth and Marriage Certificates look like?
Since birth, marriage and death certificates are issued at the county level in the USA, each county creates it's own design. They will have the same basic information: certificate number, date, name, age, residence, etc., but the layout will be different. Also, some counties still use an embossed seal stamped into the paper for a certified copy. Others use special papers with colors and reflectors for their certified copy.What do US Birth and Marriage Certificates look like?
In the U.S., each state is autonomous in how things like that are handled. You usually can get one from the county or directly from the state and no one state will be alike.
Also the laws regarding who, when and where a person can obtain a vital records on another differs from state to state. For instance in Texas, unless you are immediate family, you cannot get a birth certificate on another until 75 years after their birth and you can get a death certificate on another 25 years after death.
States have been tightening up on their laws due to the danger of identity theft.
you will see considerable variation. I suggest visiting www.digitalarchives.wa.gov and entering a common name in the search and then opening the image and checking them out. They were mainly pre-printed forms which would be filled in by the official who presided over the wedding. There are also related records called ';marriage Returns'; which lack the artwork and borders of the Certificates, but which usually contain much better information on the couple and their parents. Returns tend to be very bare bones in terms of looks.
Now they look mostly like a legal form. 100 years ago they had fancier certificates in addition to the legal looking forms. Mine from 60 years ago is a legal looking form.
I know in the state of Maryland birth certificates weren't required until about 1890. Before that births were recorded in the family Bible. Even after that I don't believe everyone recorded births with the state. My father was born in 1898 and didn't have a birth certificate.
http://www.google.com/search?q=birth+cer鈥?/a>
Marriage certificates are fancy because they are mostly done by whoever marries you. The legal one is a marriage license that you have to get from the county and is recorded.
http://images.google.com/images?um=1%26amp;hl=鈥?/a>
http://images.google.com/images?um=1%26amp;hl=鈥?/a>
Since birth, marriage and death certificates are issued at the county level in the USA, each county creates it's own design. They will have the same basic information: certificate number, date, name, age, residence, etc., but the layout will be different. Also, some counties still use an embossed seal stamped into the paper for a certified copy. Others use special papers with colors and reflectors for their certified copy.What do US Birth and Marriage Certificates look like?
In the U.S., each state is autonomous in how things like that are handled. You usually can get one from the county or directly from the state and no one state will be alike.
Also the laws regarding who, when and where a person can obtain a vital records on another differs from state to state. For instance in Texas, unless you are immediate family, you cannot get a birth certificate on another until 75 years after their birth and you can get a death certificate on another 25 years after death.
States have been tightening up on their laws due to the danger of identity theft.
you will see considerable variation. I suggest visiting www.digitalarchives.wa.gov and entering a common name in the search and then opening the image and checking them out. They were mainly pre-printed forms which would be filled in by the official who presided over the wedding. There are also related records called ';marriage Returns'; which lack the artwork and borders of the Certificates, but which usually contain much better information on the couple and their parents. Returns tend to be very bare bones in terms of looks.
Now they look mostly like a legal form. 100 years ago they had fancier certificates in addition to the legal looking forms. Mine from 60 years ago is a legal looking form.
I know in the state of Maryland birth certificates weren't required until about 1890. Before that births were recorded in the family Bible. Even after that I don't believe everyone recorded births with the state. My father was born in 1898 and didn't have a birth certificate.
http://www.google.com/search?q=birth+cer鈥?/a>
Marriage certificates are fancy because they are mostly done by whoever marries you. The legal one is a marriage license that you have to get from the county and is recorded.
http://images.google.com/images?um=1%26amp;hl=鈥?/a>
http://images.google.com/images?um=1%26amp;hl=鈥?/a>
How many witnesses for civil marriage?
My fiance and I are planning to get a civil marriage. I know you need 2 witnesses to be present. But how many can i have in total? Is there a maximum number of people we could have to be there with us?How many witnesses for civil marriage?
I don't think there is a maximum. Check with the courthouse or where ever you are having it and ask.How many witnesses for civil marriage?
I imagine as many as can comfortably be fit in the room...
I don't think there is a maximum. Check with the courthouse or where ever you are having it and ask.How many witnesses for civil marriage?
I imagine as many as can comfortably be fit in the room...
How do I end a marriage of 5 months?If ive only lived in NYC for 5 months and married in Wisconsin?
I need a fast divorce/anullment or desolution of a marriage that took place in Wisconsin,immediately after the marriage took place I moved to Brooklyn New york.Now I want to divorce as quickly,inexpensively and easily as possible to get out of this terrible situation.How do I end a marriage of 5 months?If ive only lived in NYC for 5 months and married in Wisconsin?
I'm afraid there is no legal quick , inexpensive, easy method.
Under Wisconsin Statute 767.05 and 767.083, In order to file for divorce in Wisconsin, one of the parties must be a Wisconsin resident 6 months and at least 30 days prior to filing for divorce. Hearing scheduled after 120 days. (notify and subpoena other party)
Under New York Domestic Relations Law, you must be a New York resident for 12 months to file.
The rules for an annulment are similar for both with only minor differences. You must prove that the marriage is/was influenced by one of the conitions below:
An underage marriage
Mental incapacitation
Influence of drugs or alcohol
Fraud
Duress
Disabling disabilityHow do I end a marriage of 5 months?If ive only lived in NYC for 5 months and married in Wisconsin?
You can get the Wisconsin marriage divorced in New York. As for divorce/annulment or dissolution, it depends on if the other person contest or not.
I'm afraid there is no legal quick , inexpensive, easy method.
Under Wisconsin Statute 767.05 and 767.083, In order to file for divorce in Wisconsin, one of the parties must be a Wisconsin resident 6 months and at least 30 days prior to filing for divorce. Hearing scheduled after 120 days. (notify and subpoena other party)
Under New York Domestic Relations Law, you must be a New York resident for 12 months to file.
The rules for an annulment are similar for both with only minor differences. You must prove that the marriage is/was influenced by one of the conitions below:
An underage marriage
Mental incapacitation
Influence of drugs or alcohol
Fraud
Duress
Disabling disabilityHow do I end a marriage of 5 months?If ive only lived in NYC for 5 months and married in Wisconsin?
You can get the Wisconsin marriage divorced in New York. As for divorce/annulment or dissolution, it depends on if the other person contest or not.
Do you think the gay marriage supporters still have a chance in Maine?
I'm reading 52-48 in favor of repealing the law, but at the same time, people claim that absentee ballots are not accounted.Do you think the gay marriage supporters still have a chance in Maine?
I support gay marriage but they lost this one.Do you think the gay marriage supporters still have a chance in Maine?
It looks solid for them. We've seen state after state clear the way for gay marriage. The opposition seems to be going against the flow. Other issues than gay marriage are very important to me so I have no reason to make noise about it anymore. I don't really care.
I would like to see the Defense of Marriage Act go away, because I think gay couples once legally married in their state should not be denied the same federal benefits or assistance other married couples get.
Update--seems they just lost. What a pity. Well, even an unprecedently gifted pundit like me can be wrong.
Maine voters reject gay-marriage law
http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20091104/ap_o鈥?/a>
隆Viva la revoluci贸n de los homosexuales! =(
gays (about 5% of population) do not deserve extra rights for being gay, just like alcoholics (another 5% of population) do not deserve extra rights for being alcoholics....
ANY dysfunction (wrong action) like homosexuality (sexual dysfunction, genesis in ';Gender Identity Disorder';, look it up) or alcoholism is just that... a dysfunction, proven in this new book What Nature Intended, Six Factors Demonstrating Homosexuality to be a Dysfunction';
website here:
http://whatnatureintended.com/home
so gay marriage is a idiotic idea... its like giving extra rights to rapist because ';they feel the need to rape';... ridiculous!
not this time around but they can just try again. unfortunately everytime they make progress it gives over thrown but nothings stoping htem from trying again.
and to the guy who is comparing gays to alcoholics and rapists: homosexuality is no longer considered a disease so shut your face.
Heck no. They had an unprecedented turn out in Maine at the polls, lines 600 people long all waiting to vote against gay marriage. They were tripping over themselves to get to the polls to vote against gay marriage.
My question is who gives the right for other people to tell other people who they can marry and can't? That my friend is messed up. If people own guns and don't want that taken away then let the gays marry.
Yes. Even thought the will of the people says ';No!';, demotraitors will clog up the courts until the freak show gets their way!
NO because everybody who want it is just being PC.
I hope so.
At least Washington state voted in the right direction.
No , they lost . They need to accept that because it's the truth.
NO.stop blackheads
I support gay marriage but they lost this one.Do you think the gay marriage supporters still have a chance in Maine?
It looks solid for them. We've seen state after state clear the way for gay marriage. The opposition seems to be going against the flow. Other issues than gay marriage are very important to me so I have no reason to make noise about it anymore. I don't really care.
I would like to see the Defense of Marriage Act go away, because I think gay couples once legally married in their state should not be denied the same federal benefits or assistance other married couples get.
Update--seems they just lost. What a pity. Well, even an unprecedently gifted pundit like me can be wrong.
Maine voters reject gay-marriage law
http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20091104/ap_o鈥?/a>
隆Viva la revoluci贸n de los homosexuales! =(
gays (about 5% of population) do not deserve extra rights for being gay, just like alcoholics (another 5% of population) do not deserve extra rights for being alcoholics....
ANY dysfunction (wrong action) like homosexuality (sexual dysfunction, genesis in ';Gender Identity Disorder';, look it up) or alcoholism is just that... a dysfunction, proven in this new book What Nature Intended, Six Factors Demonstrating Homosexuality to be a Dysfunction';
website here:
http://whatnatureintended.com/home
so gay marriage is a idiotic idea... its like giving extra rights to rapist because ';they feel the need to rape';... ridiculous!
not this time around but they can just try again. unfortunately everytime they make progress it gives over thrown but nothings stoping htem from trying again.
and to the guy who is comparing gays to alcoholics and rapists: homosexuality is no longer considered a disease so shut your face.
Heck no. They had an unprecedented turn out in Maine at the polls, lines 600 people long all waiting to vote against gay marriage. They were tripping over themselves to get to the polls to vote against gay marriage.
My question is who gives the right for other people to tell other people who they can marry and can't? That my friend is messed up. If people own guns and don't want that taken away then let the gays marry.
Yes. Even thought the will of the people says ';No!';, demotraitors will clog up the courts until the freak show gets their way!
NO because everybody who want it is just being PC.
I hope so.
At least Washington state voted in the right direction.
No , they lost . They need to accept that because it's the truth.
NO.
How do I save my marriage without Pushing my husband away?
My husband and I seperated 3 weeks ago. I desperatly want to save my marriage but I do not know how. I am begging for marriage, counceling, family counceling and to come back home. He says no to all. Says that is not the answer. I am the only one trying it seems. Says he loves me and he does miss me, but he needs time. I know men and women definetly think differently, so please give me some words of wisdom to help me save my marriage.How do I save my marriage without Pushing my husband away?
if you are the only one trying, why should you carry the burden ... he needs time for what ??? people can't work things out by being apart, or is he trying to get something off his chest ,,, sounds as he does not want to save your marrriage, otherwise, he would make a heartfelt effort to be with you ,,, stand for something or you'll fall for anything .... 464 15 9868How do I save my marriage without Pushing my husband away?
Your marriage can be saved. Go to www.divorcebusting.com -- you'll find hope there.
Not enough info: What caused the separation? How old are you and your husband? Did you have sex before marriage. with him or anyone else? Do you have any children? How are your families finances? Do you both work? Do you own a home or do you rent? How was your sex life going before the separation? Did it go from often to seldom? Who was saying no? There are a lot of factors involved in every situation and every situation is different. When people take their vows, they take them with God not just between each other and the minister or priest. In the vows the woman says, love, honor, cherish and obey, and later it says forsaking all others, and then it says these two are now one. The first vow that women forget 10 minutes after the ceremony is OBEY! After the honeymoon, and they get back to their personal lives the next vow they forget is forsaking all others. He says, I'm going out with the guys and she says I'm going to visit my family. If you two are now one, how does one go in two opposite directions at the same time? So now you two are not one, but are in the process of drifting apart and doing your own thing. If you can't give up your friends for your wife/husband, then you broke the vow of forsaking all others. The next factor would be sex in a marriage, the bible states that neither shall deprive the other of sex. With the hustle and bustle of life many women say no because they have a headache or they are to tired, or are all stressed out. All bad excuses - Sex is an automatic tension reliever, your headache will go away, your stress will be reduced, it is excellent cardio vascular exercise, and it helps you to sleep soundly and naturally. Raising children, keeping a schedule so that they have their time and you and your husband have yours. Pulling together and not apart when raising children is a must, if Mommy says no, then it's no, and going to Daddy is not going to change the answer. If you should disagree, get your spouse alone, (not in front of the children), and explain your feelings and see why your husband said yes or no. Never show the children they can play you off on each other, or they will. Do whatever you do together, make the plans and say we are going to see my Mom and Dad on Saturday, not I am going. In a marriage there is no more I/me it is now we/us. You can only drift apart if your not together in all that you do every day.
Sex before marriage is a big factor in why things go wrong in marriages and relationships. The bible states a woman shall go to her husband (not bf), a virgin. In having sex before marriage you broke at least two of God's commands, 1 - Honor thy Mother and thy Father and 2 - a woman shall go to her husband a virgin. So by having sex before marriage you betrayed your parents trust, broke God's commands, lost your virginity, allowed Satan into your life, and became a harlot all by committing the one act. God does not bless fornication. No one ever realizes why things aren't working out for them, or why their relationships are going sour, or their marriage is on the rocks, because they forgot that when they disobeyed God, they lost his blessing. Satan now has a hold on your life, Satan, the father of all lies will continue to disrupt your life any way he desires. You fell prey to the temptations of the flesh, Satan let you. When you dance to Satan's music you have to pay Satan his due. Go to church, pray, ask forgiveness, and you and your family should continue services together regularly. If sex before marriage happened when you were 16, and now your in your 30's it doesn't matter, Satan has forever to disrupt your life, time for him is not an issue. Every time things seem to be looking up Satan will do something to mess it all up again. If you went to your husband a virgin, then God will intervene for you if you ask him to. God is the only one that can change the condition of ones heart.
You have to do some soul searching, figure out what the biggest factors in this disruption of your marriage was, then offer a change or a solution to the problem and be willing to work at it together. Only you know what factors caused the unrest in your marriage, and the feeling that he needs time and his own space. Again it is the I/me and not the we/us at work. You want, he needs - not we want and we need? If you are one how can one get away from itself? Communication is the best way to resolve issues and get to the bottom of the cause of the problems. There are no lies or secrets between a married couple. So if there was a problem why wasn't it brought out in the open and discussed, instead of waiting for the straw that broke the camels back? The only reason a married couple should have to separate and get a divorce is adultery. Other factors are physical, mental and emotional abuse. Other than that neither should leave the other regardless if they are angry with each other or not. They should still share the same bed and still have sex if either desire
The answer I give is definitely 'pushing' but you are in a situation that needs a firm hand.
Basically- you say: You need time or a date with someone else? We've spent this much time together and being apart isn't going to help. We need to be hand in hand through hell or high water and this is both. If you want to work it out, in whatever way you're comfortable with, coming home is the only way. Our problems are at home waiting to be handled or deemed unfixable- being away does neither. If you decide 'time' is more important than a little hard work on something worthwhile, we can just finish this now and it'll be on your chest not mine. I love you and I want you. However, this is up to you now.
You cannot make someone want you. Step back, give him the time he needs. And you also take the time to think and feel what you need and want. There is nothing else you can do. Any hysterics, begging, nagging will only drive him away further. So take a deep breath and get on with your life the best you can for the moment. You never know, you might rediscover your own confidence and independence and prefer some time out from him. If he wants to be with you, he will come to you. If not, its his loss. But dont beg a man to love you, its very demeaning, and he wont respect you for it.
If he's the only one who wishes to save this marriage, sweetie, he has another lady.
And for that, you don't what him back.
That's betrayal...he says he loves you and misses you to keep you as the ';jerk in reserve'; just in case this doesn't work out.
It takes two people committed to the marriage to wish to save it. You're only 50% of the equation.... not even close.
Bail, hon.
If you're a lovely lady, There are literally tons of men who would love to be your partner... all you need to do is accept the fact you make a mistake, and get out of this.
What he was and who is is now, are just not the same guy.
If your are the only one trying then you need to take a step back and give him time. he may just need some time to sought out whatever he is feeling. Besides if you're the only one trying then there is always the possibility that he just not interested anymore, which sucks, I know, but you have to remember you deserve to be happy too. You don't want to make someone do something that their heart isn't fully commited to. Good Luck! I'm about to seperate so I know how you feel!
I think you should give him time to stay waiting to long.
if you are the only one trying, why should you carry the burden ... he needs time for what ??? people can't work things out by being apart, or is he trying to get something off his chest ,,, sounds as he does not want to save your marrriage, otherwise, he would make a heartfelt effort to be with you ,,, stand for something or you'll fall for anything .... 464 15 9868How do I save my marriage without Pushing my husband away?
Your marriage can be saved. Go to www.divorcebusting.com -- you'll find hope there.
Not enough info: What caused the separation? How old are you and your husband? Did you have sex before marriage. with him or anyone else? Do you have any children? How are your families finances? Do you both work? Do you own a home or do you rent? How was your sex life going before the separation? Did it go from often to seldom? Who was saying no? There are a lot of factors involved in every situation and every situation is different. When people take their vows, they take them with God not just between each other and the minister or priest. In the vows the woman says, love, honor, cherish and obey, and later it says forsaking all others, and then it says these two are now one. The first vow that women forget 10 minutes after the ceremony is OBEY! After the honeymoon, and they get back to their personal lives the next vow they forget is forsaking all others. He says, I'm going out with the guys and she says I'm going to visit my family. If you two are now one, how does one go in two opposite directions at the same time? So now you two are not one, but are in the process of drifting apart and doing your own thing. If you can't give up your friends for your wife/husband, then you broke the vow of forsaking all others. The next factor would be sex in a marriage, the bible states that neither shall deprive the other of sex. With the hustle and bustle of life many women say no because they have a headache or they are to tired, or are all stressed out. All bad excuses - Sex is an automatic tension reliever, your headache will go away, your stress will be reduced, it is excellent cardio vascular exercise, and it helps you to sleep soundly and naturally. Raising children, keeping a schedule so that they have their time and you and your husband have yours. Pulling together and not apart when raising children is a must, if Mommy says no, then it's no, and going to Daddy is not going to change the answer. If you should disagree, get your spouse alone, (not in front of the children), and explain your feelings and see why your husband said yes or no. Never show the children they can play you off on each other, or they will. Do whatever you do together, make the plans and say we are going to see my Mom and Dad on Saturday, not I am going. In a marriage there is no more I/me it is now we/us. You can only drift apart if your not together in all that you do every day.
Sex before marriage is a big factor in why things go wrong in marriages and relationships. The bible states a woman shall go to her husband (not bf), a virgin. In having sex before marriage you broke at least two of God's commands, 1 - Honor thy Mother and thy Father and 2 - a woman shall go to her husband a virgin. So by having sex before marriage you betrayed your parents trust, broke God's commands, lost your virginity, allowed Satan into your life, and became a harlot all by committing the one act. God does not bless fornication. No one ever realizes why things aren't working out for them, or why their relationships are going sour, or their marriage is on the rocks, because they forgot that when they disobeyed God, they lost his blessing. Satan now has a hold on your life, Satan, the father of all lies will continue to disrupt your life any way he desires. You fell prey to the temptations of the flesh, Satan let you. When you dance to Satan's music you have to pay Satan his due. Go to church, pray, ask forgiveness, and you and your family should continue services together regularly. If sex before marriage happened when you were 16, and now your in your 30's it doesn't matter, Satan has forever to disrupt your life, time for him is not an issue. Every time things seem to be looking up Satan will do something to mess it all up again. If you went to your husband a virgin, then God will intervene for you if you ask him to. God is the only one that can change the condition of ones heart.
You have to do some soul searching, figure out what the biggest factors in this disruption of your marriage was, then offer a change or a solution to the problem and be willing to work at it together. Only you know what factors caused the unrest in your marriage, and the feeling that he needs time and his own space. Again it is the I/me and not the we/us at work. You want, he needs - not we want and we need? If you are one how can one get away from itself? Communication is the best way to resolve issues and get to the bottom of the cause of the problems. There are no lies or secrets between a married couple. So if there was a problem why wasn't it brought out in the open and discussed, instead of waiting for the straw that broke the camels back? The only reason a married couple should have to separate and get a divorce is adultery. Other factors are physical, mental and emotional abuse. Other than that neither should leave the other regardless if they are angry with each other or not. They should still share the same bed and still have sex if either desire
The answer I give is definitely 'pushing' but you are in a situation that needs a firm hand.
Basically- you say: You need time or a date with someone else? We've spent this much time together and being apart isn't going to help. We need to be hand in hand through hell or high water and this is both. If you want to work it out, in whatever way you're comfortable with, coming home is the only way. Our problems are at home waiting to be handled or deemed unfixable- being away does neither. If you decide 'time' is more important than a little hard work on something worthwhile, we can just finish this now and it'll be on your chest not mine. I love you and I want you. However, this is up to you now.
You cannot make someone want you. Step back, give him the time he needs. And you also take the time to think and feel what you need and want. There is nothing else you can do. Any hysterics, begging, nagging will only drive him away further. So take a deep breath and get on with your life the best you can for the moment. You never know, you might rediscover your own confidence and independence and prefer some time out from him. If he wants to be with you, he will come to you. If not, its his loss. But dont beg a man to love you, its very demeaning, and he wont respect you for it.
If he's the only one who wishes to save this marriage, sweetie, he has another lady.
And for that, you don't what him back.
That's betrayal...he says he loves you and misses you to keep you as the ';jerk in reserve'; just in case this doesn't work out.
It takes two people committed to the marriage to wish to save it. You're only 50% of the equation.... not even close.
Bail, hon.
If you're a lovely lady, There are literally tons of men who would love to be your partner... all you need to do is accept the fact you make a mistake, and get out of this.
What he was and who is is now, are just not the same guy.
If your are the only one trying then you need to take a step back and give him time. he may just need some time to sought out whatever he is feeling. Besides if you're the only one trying then there is always the possibility that he just not interested anymore, which sucks, I know, but you have to remember you deserve to be happy too. You don't want to make someone do something that their heart isn't fully commited to. Good Luck! I'm about to seperate so I know how you feel!
I think you should give him time to stay waiting to long.
How much does it cost to apply for a green card through marriage?
Any one know how much it cost to apply for a green card through marriage ? I am going to apply for it next week and I just want to know how much I need for the application fees.How much does it cost to apply for a green card through marriage?
try the website uscis.gov or immigrate2us.net both are good information sites.
$1010 for the i-485
$355 for the i-130
$80 for biomatrics
up to $500 for physical/examHow much does it cost to apply for a green card through marriage?
$1,365.... $355 for the I-130 and $1,010 for the I-485, I-131 and I-765.
There will also be a charge for the physical exam. I'm told it can be as much as $300 or more if vaccinations are needed.
you could have a look on http://OffURL.com/Get-A-Green-Card . I also found an interesting article on http://seo.morehelp.co.uk/general-chat/how-to-get-a-green-card-through-marriage
You can check on this website it is very helpful www.uscis.gov
Hi:
Check the internet:
Type Green Card through marriage. I sure you will find some information.
Good Luck
try the website uscis.gov or immigrate2us.net both are good information sites.
$1010 for the i-485
$355 for the i-130
$80 for biomatrics
up to $500 for physical/examHow much does it cost to apply for a green card through marriage?
$1,365.... $355 for the I-130 and $1,010 for the I-485, I-131 and I-765.
There will also be a charge for the physical exam. I'm told it can be as much as $300 or more if vaccinations are needed.
you could have a look on http://OffURL.com/Get-A-Green-Card . I also found an interesting article on http://seo.morehelp.co.uk/general-chat/how-to-get-a-green-card-through-marriage
You can check on this website it is very helpful www.uscis.gov
Hi:
Check the internet:
Type Green Card through marriage. I sure you will find some information.
Good Luck
Is it certain that pre marriage relationship is absolutely forbidden in Islam?
If yes, for the people who can not find their love of life, isn't it cruelty to Self to stay celibate? Since we ignore and neglect one of our most important physical needs? I also have heard that Rasool allah (PBUH) has said that ';Riazat'; (celibacy) is forbiden in his religious.
So what should a person do if they are looking, but can not find the right person for marriage?Is it certain that pre marriage relationship is absolutely forbidden in Islam?
It is forbidden and the obvious reason is Islam put clear focus on the norms of society, if society is corrupt the whole nation goes down, pre-marriage relations are one of the things that destract the focus of a person from his true way , the righteous way i.e. Islam. That is why islam prefers the marriages of children in early age so they will not indulge in sins. One of the disadvantage of this premarriage relationship is AIDS which western world is facing now, if you are talking about only friendship before marriage that is difficult to maintain %26amp; it will eventually lead to ........ so there is no other shortcut except an Islamic Nikkah.Is it certain that pre marriage relationship is absolutely forbidden in Islam?
yeah,ok, according to Islam, when you like someone you tell everyone about it and then send your relatives to tell her parents that you want to marry her. but wait a second! how would you know what she is by personality? what if after marriage you find out that she is not the one you are looking for? come on man, these days you cant say how a person is by seeing her face. you have to go out in order to know whether she is suitable for you. i know dating is allowed in Islam as long as you are taking a relative with you to meet her. what if she stays fake? there is a lot to ponder about actually.
yes , its not alowed but an adult may show his/her wish to marry a desired person , they tell parents n can get it !
yes islam doesnt like celibacy , but gives space to the natural phenomina as of relationship of man n women, consult some one elder relative or mosque person , get and arranged marriage if you get a good n faithful wife you will get all trust,love,understanding.
LET ALLAH DECIDE WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU !
OR
MAKE A CHOICE N LEAVE UPON GOD .
Hey buddy let me correct you.
Allah has created everyone in pairs..
And our beloved prophet (PBUH) said celibacy is not allowed. (i.e there is no position for a NUN in islam).
If some one dies before marriage or consumatting the marriage he is indeed somewhat relieved. Because Death is a gift to muslims..Relief from this wordly life and going into the pleasant paradise or horrendous hell.
Look for religious person. If the person is religious and obviously we are prone to desires. So it is never like a person is never attracted or desires sex. Everyone does at different level. WHen something is bothering someone, he/she wont have sex at that time. Or it wud be called a dull pleasure !
In Jannah u can fulfill ur fantasies (in lawful manner).
If cannot find - then do salatul istakhara couple of times, obey Allah and His Messenger (saws) (i.e follow sunnah)
INsha;allah u will find her/he.
Iam going to get thumbs down for this ,but LOVE is not a requirement for marriage. Find someone who is a pious Muslim to marry, Allah will give you the rest. I knew my Husband for a very short time before we were married but every day is new and we fall more and more in love every day. Seek Allah's will for your life not , the desires you have.
Keep looking. It's not a good idea to stay celibate, but it's far worse to commit zina. Man and woman alone together are never truly alone, shaytan is the 3rd. If you don't want to remain celibate, find someone and get married!
hehehe you can find a person that will start a pre marriage relationship, but not a Godfearing wife that seeks only a blessing through marriage?
Make saum or you should adopt other wishes about your soon-to-become wife...
no, it's like people go over the limmits and forbid alot more than needed.
it's not haram to have freinds, it's not haram to hang out, so do that as ur little pre-marital marrige.
Dont worry, relax and be happy. If you worry too much about finding something, you dont notice it even if its next to you sipping coffee.
There is someone for everyone. I do believe Allah knows best and will not give us more than we can bare.
So what should a person do if they are looking, but can not find the right person for marriage?Is it certain that pre marriage relationship is absolutely forbidden in Islam?
It is forbidden and the obvious reason is Islam put clear focus on the norms of society, if society is corrupt the whole nation goes down, pre-marriage relations are one of the things that destract the focus of a person from his true way , the righteous way i.e. Islam. That is why islam prefers the marriages of children in early age so they will not indulge in sins. One of the disadvantage of this premarriage relationship is AIDS which western world is facing now, if you are talking about only friendship before marriage that is difficult to maintain %26amp; it will eventually lead to ........ so there is no other shortcut except an Islamic Nikkah.Is it certain that pre marriage relationship is absolutely forbidden in Islam?
yeah,ok, according to Islam, when you like someone you tell everyone about it and then send your relatives to tell her parents that you want to marry her. but wait a second! how would you know what she is by personality? what if after marriage you find out that she is not the one you are looking for? come on man, these days you cant say how a person is by seeing her face. you have to go out in order to know whether she is suitable for you. i know dating is allowed in Islam as long as you are taking a relative with you to meet her. what if she stays fake? there is a lot to ponder about actually.
yes , its not alowed but an adult may show his/her wish to marry a desired person , they tell parents n can get it !
yes islam doesnt like celibacy , but gives space to the natural phenomina as of relationship of man n women, consult some one elder relative or mosque person , get and arranged marriage if you get a good n faithful wife you will get all trust,love,understanding.
LET ALLAH DECIDE WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU !
OR
MAKE A CHOICE N LEAVE UPON GOD .
Hey buddy let me correct you.
Allah has created everyone in pairs..
And our beloved prophet (PBUH) said celibacy is not allowed. (i.e there is no position for a NUN in islam).
If some one dies before marriage or consumatting the marriage he is indeed somewhat relieved. Because Death is a gift to muslims..Relief from this wordly life and going into the pleasant paradise or horrendous hell.
Look for religious person. If the person is religious and obviously we are prone to desires. So it is never like a person is never attracted or desires sex. Everyone does at different level. WHen something is bothering someone, he/she wont have sex at that time. Or it wud be called a dull pleasure !
In Jannah u can fulfill ur fantasies (in lawful manner).
If cannot find - then do salatul istakhara couple of times, obey Allah and His Messenger (saws) (i.e follow sunnah)
INsha;allah u will find her/he.
Iam going to get thumbs down for this ,but LOVE is not a requirement for marriage. Find someone who is a pious Muslim to marry, Allah will give you the rest. I knew my Husband for a very short time before we were married but every day is new and we fall more and more in love every day. Seek Allah's will for your life not , the desires you have.
Keep looking. It's not a good idea to stay celibate, but it's far worse to commit zina. Man and woman alone together are never truly alone, shaytan is the 3rd. If you don't want to remain celibate, find someone and get married!
hehehe you can find a person that will start a pre marriage relationship, but not a Godfearing wife that seeks only a blessing through marriage?
Make saum or you should adopt other wishes about your soon-to-become wife...
no, it's like people go over the limmits and forbid alot more than needed.
it's not haram to have freinds, it's not haram to hang out, so do that as ur little pre-marital marrige.
Dont worry, relax and be happy. If you worry too much about finding something, you dont notice it even if its next to you sipping coffee.
There is someone for everyone. I do believe Allah knows best and will not give us more than we can bare.
How much does it cost to apply for a green card through marriage?
Any one know how much it cost to apply for a green card through marriage ? I am going to apply for it next week and I just want to know how much I need for the application fees.How much does it cost to apply for a green card through marriage?
try the website uscis.gov or immigrate2us.net both are good information sites.
$1010 for the i-485
$355 for the i-130
$80 for biomatrics
up to $500 for physical/examHow much does it cost to apply for a green card through marriage?
$1,365.... $355 for the I-130 and $1,010 for the I-485, I-131 and I-765.
There will also be a charge for the physical exam. I'm told it can be as much as $300 or more if vaccinations are needed.
you could have a look on http://OffURL.com/Get-A-Green-Card . I also found an interesting article on http://seo.morehelp.co.uk/general-chat/how-to-get-a-green-card-through-marriage
You can check on this website it is very helpful www.uscis.gov
Hi:
Check the internet:
Type Green Card through marriage. I sure you will find some information.
Good Luck
try the website uscis.gov or immigrate2us.net both are good information sites.
$1010 for the i-485
$355 for the i-130
$80 for biomatrics
up to $500 for physical/examHow much does it cost to apply for a green card through marriage?
$1,365.... $355 for the I-130 and $1,010 for the I-485, I-131 and I-765.
There will also be a charge for the physical exam. I'm told it can be as much as $300 or more if vaccinations are needed.
you could have a look on http://OffURL.com/Get-A-Green-Card . I also found an interesting article on http://seo.morehelp.co.uk/general-chat/how-to-get-a-green-card-through-marriage
You can check on this website it is very helpful www.uscis.gov
Hi:
Check the internet:
Type Green Card through marriage. I sure you will find some information.
Good Luck
Is it certain that pre marriage relationship is absolutely forbidden in Islam?
If yes, for the people who can not find their love of life, isn't it cruelty to Self to stay celibate? Since we ignore and neglect one of our most important physical needs? I also have heard that Rasool allah (PBUH) has said that ';Riazat'; (celibacy) is forbiden in his religious.
So what should a person do if they are looking, but can not find the right person for marriage?Is it certain that pre marriage relationship is absolutely forbidden in Islam?
It is forbidden and the obvious reason is Islam put clear focus on the norms of society, if society is corrupt the whole nation goes down, pre-marriage relations are one of the things that destract the focus of a person from his true way , the righteous way i.e. Islam. That is why islam prefers the marriages of children in early age so they will not indulge in sins. One of the disadvantage of this premarriage relationship is AIDS which western world is facing now, if you are talking about only friendship before marriage that is difficult to maintain %26amp; it will eventually lead to ........ so there is no other shortcut except an Islamic Nikkah.Is it certain that pre marriage relationship is absolutely forbidden in Islam?
yeah,ok, according to Islam, when you like someone you tell everyone about it and then send your relatives to tell her parents that you want to marry her. but wait a second! how would you know what she is by personality? what if after marriage you find out that she is not the one you are looking for? come on man, these days you cant say how a person is by seeing her face. you have to go out in order to know whether she is suitable for you. i know dating is allowed in Islam as long as you are taking a relative with you to meet her. what if she stays fake? there is a lot to ponder about actually.
yes , its not alowed but an adult may show his/her wish to marry a desired person , they tell parents n can get it !
yes islam doesnt like celibacy , but gives space to the natural phenomina as of relationship of man n women, consult some one elder relative or mosque person , get and arranged marriage if you get a good n faithful wife you will get all trust,love,understanding.
LET ALLAH DECIDE WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU !
OR
MAKE A CHOICE N LEAVE UPON GOD .
Hey buddy let me correct you.
Allah has created everyone in pairs..
And our beloved prophet (PBUH) said celibacy is not allowed. (i.e there is no position for a NUN in islam).
If some one dies before marriage or consumatting the marriage he is indeed somewhat relieved. Because Death is a gift to muslims..Relief from this wordly life and going into the pleasant paradise or horrendous hell.
Look for religious person. If the person is religious and obviously we are prone to desires. So it is never like a person is never attracted or desires sex. Everyone does at different level. WHen something is bothering someone, he/she wont have sex at that time. Or it wud be called a dull pleasure !
In Jannah u can fulfill ur fantasies (in lawful manner).
If cannot find - then do salatul istakhara couple of times, obey Allah and His Messenger (saws) (i.e follow sunnah)
INsha;allah u will find her/he.
Iam going to get thumbs down for this ,but LOVE is not a requirement for marriage. Find someone who is a pious Muslim to marry, Allah will give you the rest. I knew my Husband for a very short time before we were married but every day is new and we fall more and more in love every day. Seek Allah's will for your life not , the desires you have.
Keep looking. It's not a good idea to stay celibate, but it's far worse to commit zina. Man and woman alone together are never truly alone, shaytan is the 3rd. If you don't want to remain celibate, find someone and get married!
hehehe you can find a person that will start a pre marriage relationship, but not a Godfearing wife that seeks only a blessing through marriage?
Make saum or you should adopt other wishes about your soon-to-become wife...
no, it's like people go over the limmits and forbid alot more than needed.
it's not haram to have freinds, it's not haram to hang out, so do that as ur little pre-marital marrige.
Dont worry, relax and be happy. If you worry too much about finding something, you dont notice it even if its next to you sipping coffee.
There is someone for everyone. I do believe Allah knows best and will not give us more than we can bare.
So what should a person do if they are looking, but can not find the right person for marriage?Is it certain that pre marriage relationship is absolutely forbidden in Islam?
It is forbidden and the obvious reason is Islam put clear focus on the norms of society, if society is corrupt the whole nation goes down, pre-marriage relations are one of the things that destract the focus of a person from his true way , the righteous way i.e. Islam. That is why islam prefers the marriages of children in early age so they will not indulge in sins. One of the disadvantage of this premarriage relationship is AIDS which western world is facing now, if you are talking about only friendship before marriage that is difficult to maintain %26amp; it will eventually lead to ........ so there is no other shortcut except an Islamic Nikkah.Is it certain that pre marriage relationship is absolutely forbidden in Islam?
yeah,ok, according to Islam, when you like someone you tell everyone about it and then send your relatives to tell her parents that you want to marry her. but wait a second! how would you know what she is by personality? what if after marriage you find out that she is not the one you are looking for? come on man, these days you cant say how a person is by seeing her face. you have to go out in order to know whether she is suitable for you. i know dating is allowed in Islam as long as you are taking a relative with you to meet her. what if she stays fake? there is a lot to ponder about actually.
yes , its not alowed but an adult may show his/her wish to marry a desired person , they tell parents n can get it !
yes islam doesnt like celibacy , but gives space to the natural phenomina as of relationship of man n women, consult some one elder relative or mosque person , get and arranged marriage if you get a good n faithful wife you will get all trust,love,understanding.
LET ALLAH DECIDE WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU !
OR
MAKE A CHOICE N LEAVE UPON GOD .
Hey buddy let me correct you.
Allah has created everyone in pairs..
And our beloved prophet (PBUH) said celibacy is not allowed. (i.e there is no position for a NUN in islam).
If some one dies before marriage or consumatting the marriage he is indeed somewhat relieved. Because Death is a gift to muslims..Relief from this wordly life and going into the pleasant paradise or horrendous hell.
Look for religious person. If the person is religious and obviously we are prone to desires. So it is never like a person is never attracted or desires sex. Everyone does at different level. WHen something is bothering someone, he/she wont have sex at that time. Or it wud be called a dull pleasure !
In Jannah u can fulfill ur fantasies (in lawful manner).
If cannot find - then do salatul istakhara couple of times, obey Allah and His Messenger (saws) (i.e follow sunnah)
INsha;allah u will find her/he.
Iam going to get thumbs down for this ,but LOVE is not a requirement for marriage. Find someone who is a pious Muslim to marry, Allah will give you the rest. I knew my Husband for a very short time before we were married but every day is new and we fall more and more in love every day. Seek Allah's will for your life not , the desires you have.
Keep looking. It's not a good idea to stay celibate, but it's far worse to commit zina. Man and woman alone together are never truly alone, shaytan is the 3rd. If you don't want to remain celibate, find someone and get married!
hehehe you can find a person that will start a pre marriage relationship, but not a Godfearing wife that seeks only a blessing through marriage?
Make saum or you should adopt other wishes about your soon-to-become wife...
no, it's like people go over the limmits and forbid alot more than needed.
it's not haram to have freinds, it's not haram to hang out, so do that as ur little pre-marital marrige.
Dont worry, relax and be happy. If you worry too much about finding something, you dont notice it even if its next to you sipping coffee.
There is someone for everyone. I do believe Allah knows best and will not give us more than we can bare.
How do i get into marriage and family therapy?
I was planning on moving to wichita kansas after i get my associates degree at a community college around home so that i could study marriage and family therapy. They have a program just for it. But my psychology teacher said that most therapists don't go into psychology they go into social working? i think that's what she said. Basically i want to know what I will need to do and what would be the best classes to take so that maybe i wont have to move to wichita and i can stay here and take classes and still work for the same thing.How do i get into marriage and family therapy?
Scoop does not not know what s/he is talking about. Your professor is correct that most psychotherapy (MFT is a sub-branch) is done by social workers (there is no such thing as social working). Now all that said there is also a program of study in MFT (this is especially popular in CA - due to licensure issues). Now to get licenced in any of the clinical fields (social work, psychology, MFT, Counseling) you need a minimum of an MA. Not all psychology MA degrees are eligible for licensure.
Now given that you are still working on your AA you have some time to research this further (and that is what I would do). The BA in social work has the advantage over psych in that it does allow you to do your MA in a year. However, social work takes a much broader view of human behavior than psych (there is no BA in MFT). Social work does focus on social justice and recognizes that most human problems are bigger than just the individual.
I would encourage you to interview people with different degrees and credentials and see which ones fit better with who you are and how you view the world. You also want to understand what degrees are licencable in KA (each state is different). DAHow do i get into marriage and family therapy?
Do not aim for social work! That is a completely different line of work and I don't believe that is what you are talking about. It seems you are interested in helping couples work through marital problems. Minimum for hanging a shingle in most states is a Masters in Psych or Socioloy with a specialty in Marriage and the family. A PHD will always be preferred. With a BA you can do Social work though in most states. Also, I'd recommend you be married for a few years. Going to a counselor on marriage, who has no experience in what it takes, is like taking boating lessons from someone who has never been on a boat. You can learn from them but the credibility is not really there.stop blackheads
Scoop does not not know what s/he is talking about. Your professor is correct that most psychotherapy (MFT is a sub-branch) is done by social workers (there is no such thing as social working). Now all that said there is also a program of study in MFT (this is especially popular in CA - due to licensure issues). Now to get licenced in any of the clinical fields (social work, psychology, MFT, Counseling) you need a minimum of an MA. Not all psychology MA degrees are eligible for licensure.
Now given that you are still working on your AA you have some time to research this further (and that is what I would do). The BA in social work has the advantage over psych in that it does allow you to do your MA in a year. However, social work takes a much broader view of human behavior than psych (there is no BA in MFT). Social work does focus on social justice and recognizes that most human problems are bigger than just the individual.
I would encourage you to interview people with different degrees and credentials and see which ones fit better with who you are and how you view the world. You also want to understand what degrees are licencable in KA (each state is different). DAHow do i get into marriage and family therapy?
Do not aim for social work! That is a completely different line of work and I don't believe that is what you are talking about. It seems you are interested in helping couples work through marital problems. Minimum for hanging a shingle in most states is a Masters in Psych or Socioloy with a specialty in Marriage and the family. A PHD will always be preferred. With a BA you can do Social work though in most states. Also, I'd recommend you be married for a few years. Going to a counselor on marriage, who has no experience in what it takes, is like taking boating lessons from someone who has never been on a boat. You can learn from them but the credibility is not really there.
What five key components of marriage do you value?
Choose your top five ingredients to a successful marriage (example: love, honesty, etc.) in order of importance.
Feel free to add if you're married/how long.What five key components of marriage do you value?
Communication
Loyalty
Trust
Compatibility
LoveWhat five key components of marriage do you value?
I've only been married to my hubby for 10 months, actually our annyversary is exacly 2 months from today .. Weird. We've been together for 7 years and I think its important to have
Trust
Unconditional love
Laughter
Compromise
Support
Understanding of ones choices
Communication
In my our case, getting along with the inlaws
Staying grounded and down to earth
Romantic night and getaways
Snowboarding %26amp; surfing
Looking forward to growing old together
Keeping things exciding
Loyalty
Honesty ............
Sorry I went all out
Awesome question!!
My top five:
1. Love.......anything can be conquered if you love someone enough
2.Communication.......openly discussing things brings you closer and helps you understand the person more
3. Trust.........If you trust your spouse, you can avoid silly, immature bickering and worrying about who he/she is talking to.
4. Respect..........If you respect your spouse, they feel valued which is very important in any relationship but especially marriage
5. Honesty.........If you always strive for honesty in your marriage, everything else falls in place......the trust, communication, respect all happen as a result of honesty.
I believe the key component is love..........';love conquers all'; is the most true cliche' I've ever heard.
Married 11 years, together for 15 years.
Trust - this is your foundation. Without it, nothing will stand up to the marriage.
Love - you will go through phases of being madly in love or just loving the person you married. Accept that this does not mean something is wrong. It just happens in time, but the love doesn't die, it just phases in and out.
Communication - this is a tough one. Men tend to internalize and women tend to vocalize. We use a calendar to write down our schedules. It keeps the communication open, even when we aren't speaking to each other (not because we are mad).
Values - you need the same values, especially when it comes to parenting. If you aren't on the same page, this will create conflict.
Compromise - you are not always going to agree on everything. There will come a time when you must agree to disagree, but then let it go. Don't hold grudges and don't go to bed mad. Make a compromise just to end the argument. You don't want to end up in divorce court.
Shared interests
Same sense of humor
Respect (this goes along with TRUST for me. I know that my husband trusts me and I trust him- because of the respect we have for each other)
Communication (this includes honesty, for me)
Conditional Love ( and yes- I said *conditional*. We both know that love is fragile. Cheating/lying/harming/backstabbing/emot鈥?hurting each other or the children would cause our love to disappear, I'm sure. We love each other for the people we are. I fully understand that if I made a terrible mistake that may rip it away (or if he did). I think that since we are both very realistic about love that it makes us stronger.
Open-mindedness
*I know that's 6, but I really needed to add the last one. :)
Together for 8 years.
Edit: one more- sexual compatibility. I would put this in my top five and move humor down here.
Love
Trust
Honesty
Respect
Communication
I have only been married for 5 months but we have been together for about 4 years and it is my second marriage. I listed it in this order bc of course to me love is the most important thing, without it you have none of the other, A relationship has to have trust and honesty. and you have to respect one another. But without communication none of this is possible so maybe I should rearrange them!
Married 10 years to one incredible man.
Honesty-you must always have this.
Trust-you can't have this if you don't have the first.
Understanding-No one is always at their best.
Loyalty-You have to devote yourself to the other.
Faith-Helps you through the bad times keeps you together in the good times.
1. Similar tastes in music, tv, etc
2. Similar wants and goals
3. Similar intellect...
4. Good sense of humour
5. At least one person can cook, at least one is willing to clean
My first marriage was not going well, and he died (not murder I swear)
I remarried 5 years later and have been married 4 years..
Love (obviously)
Honest Communication
Compromise and Fair Disagreements
Sex (sorry, but it really is an important part of marriage!!!)
Comfort (how comfortable are you around each other?)
Been married for 10 years July 2009!!
Married for 1 year %26amp; 8 months
In no particular order....
1.) Love
2.) Commitment
3.) Trust
4.) Teamwork/Compromising
5.) Communication
communication
compromise
compatibility (some of the same interests, beliefs, activities etc...)
love/attraction
honesty (with honesty comes trust)
married to my husband for 12 1/2 years with 4 children.
1 year and half married - yayayay!
- partnership, share togetherness
- communication, understand each other
- love, treat nice with respect
- sex, passion and lots of satisfying (hehehe!)
- support, be there for each other and help each other
Ive been very happily married for 1.5 yrs.
Love, Trust,Companionship, Understanding, Laughter
patience, respect, love, mutual support, and attention.
married almost 14 years, together more than 20.
Communication
Trust/Honesty
Faithfulness
Commitment
Love
Married 2 years and 2 months
Love/Desire
Communication
Faith
Honesty/ Fidelity
Selflessness
Yes
mutual respect %26amp; admiration
support / partnership
friendship
understanding
trust
Married 10 years
love trust communication compromise responsibility
2 1/2 years
trust
honesty
compromise
fun
laughter
lots of sex!!!!!!
Feel free to add if you're married/how long.What five key components of marriage do you value?
Communication
Loyalty
Trust
Compatibility
LoveWhat five key components of marriage do you value?
I've only been married to my hubby for 10 months, actually our annyversary is exacly 2 months from today .. Weird. We've been together for 7 years and I think its important to have
Trust
Unconditional love
Laughter
Compromise
Support
Understanding of ones choices
Communication
In my our case, getting along with the inlaws
Staying grounded and down to earth
Romantic night and getaways
Snowboarding %26amp; surfing
Looking forward to growing old together
Keeping things exciding
Loyalty
Honesty ............
Sorry I went all out
Awesome question!!
My top five:
1. Love.......anything can be conquered if you love someone enough
2.Communication.......openly discussing things brings you closer and helps you understand the person more
3. Trust.........If you trust your spouse, you can avoid silly, immature bickering and worrying about who he/she is talking to.
4. Respect..........If you respect your spouse, they feel valued which is very important in any relationship but especially marriage
5. Honesty.........If you always strive for honesty in your marriage, everything else falls in place......the trust, communication, respect all happen as a result of honesty.
I believe the key component is love..........';love conquers all'; is the most true cliche' I've ever heard.
Married 11 years, together for 15 years.
Trust - this is your foundation. Without it, nothing will stand up to the marriage.
Love - you will go through phases of being madly in love or just loving the person you married. Accept that this does not mean something is wrong. It just happens in time, but the love doesn't die, it just phases in and out.
Communication - this is a tough one. Men tend to internalize and women tend to vocalize. We use a calendar to write down our schedules. It keeps the communication open, even when we aren't speaking to each other (not because we are mad).
Values - you need the same values, especially when it comes to parenting. If you aren't on the same page, this will create conflict.
Compromise - you are not always going to agree on everything. There will come a time when you must agree to disagree, but then let it go. Don't hold grudges and don't go to bed mad. Make a compromise just to end the argument. You don't want to end up in divorce court.
Shared interests
Same sense of humor
Respect (this goes along with TRUST for me. I know that my husband trusts me and I trust him- because of the respect we have for each other)
Communication (this includes honesty, for me)
Conditional Love ( and yes- I said *conditional*. We both know that love is fragile. Cheating/lying/harming/backstabbing/emot鈥?hurting each other or the children would cause our love to disappear, I'm sure. We love each other for the people we are. I fully understand that if I made a terrible mistake that may rip it away (or if he did). I think that since we are both very realistic about love that it makes us stronger.
Open-mindedness
*I know that's 6, but I really needed to add the last one. :)
Together for 8 years.
Edit: one more- sexual compatibility. I would put this in my top five and move humor down here.
Love
Trust
Honesty
Respect
Communication
I have only been married for 5 months but we have been together for about 4 years and it is my second marriage. I listed it in this order bc of course to me love is the most important thing, without it you have none of the other, A relationship has to have trust and honesty. and you have to respect one another. But without communication none of this is possible so maybe I should rearrange them!
Married 10 years to one incredible man.
Honesty-you must always have this.
Trust-you can't have this if you don't have the first.
Understanding-No one is always at their best.
Loyalty-You have to devote yourself to the other.
Faith-Helps you through the bad times keeps you together in the good times.
1. Similar tastes in music, tv, etc
2. Similar wants and goals
3. Similar intellect...
4. Good sense of humour
5. At least one person can cook, at least one is willing to clean
My first marriage was not going well, and he died (not murder I swear)
I remarried 5 years later and have been married 4 years..
Love (obviously)
Honest Communication
Compromise and Fair Disagreements
Sex (sorry, but it really is an important part of marriage!!!)
Comfort (how comfortable are you around each other?)
Been married for 10 years July 2009!!
Married for 1 year %26amp; 8 months
In no particular order....
1.) Love
2.) Commitment
3.) Trust
4.) Teamwork/Compromising
5.) Communication
communication
compromise
compatibility (some of the same interests, beliefs, activities etc...)
love/attraction
honesty (with honesty comes trust)
married to my husband for 12 1/2 years with 4 children.
1 year and half married - yayayay!
- partnership, share togetherness
- communication, understand each other
- love, treat nice with respect
- sex, passion and lots of satisfying (hehehe!)
- support, be there for each other and help each other
Ive been very happily married for 1.5 yrs.
Love, Trust,Companionship, Understanding, Laughter
patience, respect, love, mutual support, and attention.
married almost 14 years, together more than 20.
Communication
Trust/Honesty
Faithfulness
Commitment
Love
Married 2 years and 2 months
Love/Desire
Communication
Faith
Honesty/ Fidelity
Selflessness
Yes
mutual respect %26amp; admiration
support / partnership
friendship
understanding
trust
Married 10 years
love trust communication compromise responsibility
2 1/2 years
trust
honesty
compromise
fun
laughter
lots of sex!!!!!!
If a couple has a marriage of ten years. What are some of the good things about entering into swinging ?
If many millions of couples are swinging and that most marriage coulselors will not condemn swinging then there must be a lot of good things about swinging. What are the good things ?If a couple has a marriage of ten years. What are some of the good things about entering into swinging ?
The good things are:
1) Taking sex off the alter and worshiping it as if it is the be-all-end-all of marriage. Yes, you have great sex with your significant other (SO), but too many people make it THE relationship rather than just part of it. Then, when the sex dwindles off a bit so does the relationship because other than parts that fit together they find they have nothing else in common and outside of getting-off with each other, they really can't stand each other.
Swinging for us removed that and made us focus on the other reasons we are married, stuff like companionship. We are each other others best friend. We genuinely love to be together, even if there is no hope for having sex because life is in the way. We chat all day via IM and text messages. We are constantly touching in one manner or another if we are together. It's like we are living one long first date where we're twitterpated with each other.
2) Communication. Opening-up our relationship has brought communication between us to a whole other level. We can talk to each other about anything without the fear of the other becoming hurt, jealous, angry and resentful. And if we do disagree, we have the ability to work through it without resentment and anger.
3) Trust. We have held the door open for the other to walk through and leave, and they haven't. We know beyond a shadow of a doubt that we are ';it'; for each other. For instance I've seen my wife have incredible, mind-blowing sex with others and she still thinks I'm the best thing since oxygen. And I feel the same way about her. We know that we are here and married to each other because we want to be, not because we have to be. There is no doubt in our minds about that.
It's a very liberating feeling not having to constantly worry if your partner is breaking some ';rule'; or if they are stepping-out on you or lying to you. We have no reason to lie to each other about anything, including sex and sexual attraction to others. I don't have to worry that my wife is doing something behind my back that might hurt me, because I know she isn't. She has no reason to. It's really amazing how when you give someone their freedom they won't abuse it. But when you lasso them and don't allow them their freedom they'll take it anyway when you are watching. That is nothing we have to worry about with each other.If a couple has a marriage of ten years. What are some of the good things about entering into swinging ?
There ARE good things to be said about swinging but NOT for everybody. Very few couples can handle it successfully for a long period. Those that do manage it successfully for long are either mature and adjusted comfortably with their sexuality or they are just thick skinned insensitive people. The average person can derive extreme thrills from breaking taboos and voyeurism and experimenting but eventually it gets complicated with antagonism, powerplay and jealousy. A couple must feel very secure in their own relationship before they let others on the scene. The extra persons must be handled for what they are=extras. The main actors is the couple. I know not of any couple amongst my acquaintances to have survived the experiment for long. They either gave it up after 3-4 sessions and went back to their monogamous ways or they continued swinging for a while and then broke up. As a rule, it was the woman who went off with one of the playmates. The longest period I know of was about 30 months before breaking up. There is also the possibility that the bi tendencies of one spouse that the other was not aware of may come to the surface. The couple must feel totally comfortable with their own sexuality and the strength of their own bond before entering the swinging scene.For those that are sure that they can handle it, it is a real roller coaster.
People say all this crap about it spicing things up...but in reality nothing good will come from a couple married ten years swinging! And by the way, most marriage counselors will advise against swinging.
You have ten years under your belt. If it ain't broke, don't fix it. If it is broke, get to the real heart of the problem. Don't cover if up with promiscuity and unfaithfulness. It's like driving a wedge into a crack in a dam!
Good things? Well, your husband will realize he married someone so desperate to please him and hold onto him and the marriage that she will agree to whatever it takes to keep him happy..
That would be good for him... right?
Most marriage counselors do condemn swinging..
Swinging is on the road to divorce..
There is little good to be found in swinging..
Millions of couples are not into swinging..
It's just a somewhat accepted method of adultery. It's never good to have sex with someone other than your spouse. It's dangerous, physically and emotionally.
disease, insecurity, lack of trust, whoring around, possible death, making a mockery of marriage...the usual great things we all strive for..next caller
I dont think there are any. It will eventually ruin the relationship, or you will end up two nasty old people meeting in truckstops and hotel rooms. Marriage is much more than that.
I cannot think of one good thing about swinging, only the bad. In the end it WILL ruin your marriage.
It spices up your sex life.
Makes you feel young again.
Tbh its a lifestyle I would not want to lead but to each their own
The good things are:
1) Taking sex off the alter and worshiping it as if it is the be-all-end-all of marriage. Yes, you have great sex with your significant other (SO), but too many people make it THE relationship rather than just part of it. Then, when the sex dwindles off a bit so does the relationship because other than parts that fit together they find they have nothing else in common and outside of getting-off with each other, they really can't stand each other.
Swinging for us removed that and made us focus on the other reasons we are married, stuff like companionship. We are each other others best friend. We genuinely love to be together, even if there is no hope for having sex because life is in the way. We chat all day via IM and text messages. We are constantly touching in one manner or another if we are together. It's like we are living one long first date where we're twitterpated with each other.
2) Communication. Opening-up our relationship has brought communication between us to a whole other level. We can talk to each other about anything without the fear of the other becoming hurt, jealous, angry and resentful. And if we do disagree, we have the ability to work through it without resentment and anger.
3) Trust. We have held the door open for the other to walk through and leave, and they haven't. We know beyond a shadow of a doubt that we are ';it'; for each other. For instance I've seen my wife have incredible, mind-blowing sex with others and she still thinks I'm the best thing since oxygen. And I feel the same way about her. We know that we are here and married to each other because we want to be, not because we have to be. There is no doubt in our minds about that.
It's a very liberating feeling not having to constantly worry if your partner is breaking some ';rule'; or if they are stepping-out on you or lying to you. We have no reason to lie to each other about anything, including sex and sexual attraction to others. I don't have to worry that my wife is doing something behind my back that might hurt me, because I know she isn't. She has no reason to. It's really amazing how when you give someone their freedom they won't abuse it. But when you lasso them and don't allow them their freedom they'll take it anyway when you are watching. That is nothing we have to worry about with each other.If a couple has a marriage of ten years. What are some of the good things about entering into swinging ?
There ARE good things to be said about swinging but NOT for everybody. Very few couples can handle it successfully for a long period. Those that do manage it successfully for long are either mature and adjusted comfortably with their sexuality or they are just thick skinned insensitive people. The average person can derive extreme thrills from breaking taboos and voyeurism and experimenting but eventually it gets complicated with antagonism, powerplay and jealousy. A couple must feel very secure in their own relationship before they let others on the scene. The extra persons must be handled for what they are=extras. The main actors is the couple. I know not of any couple amongst my acquaintances to have survived the experiment for long. They either gave it up after 3-4 sessions and went back to their monogamous ways or they continued swinging for a while and then broke up. As a rule, it was the woman who went off with one of the playmates. The longest period I know of was about 30 months before breaking up. There is also the possibility that the bi tendencies of one spouse that the other was not aware of may come to the surface. The couple must feel totally comfortable with their own sexuality and the strength of their own bond before entering the swinging scene.For those that are sure that they can handle it, it is a real roller coaster.
People say all this crap about it spicing things up...but in reality nothing good will come from a couple married ten years swinging! And by the way, most marriage counselors will advise against swinging.
You have ten years under your belt. If it ain't broke, don't fix it. If it is broke, get to the real heart of the problem. Don't cover if up with promiscuity and unfaithfulness. It's like driving a wedge into a crack in a dam!
Good things? Well, your husband will realize he married someone so desperate to please him and hold onto him and the marriage that she will agree to whatever it takes to keep him happy..
That would be good for him... right?
Most marriage counselors do condemn swinging..
Swinging is on the road to divorce..
There is little good to be found in swinging..
Millions of couples are not into swinging..
It's just a somewhat accepted method of adultery. It's never good to have sex with someone other than your spouse. It's dangerous, physically and emotionally.
disease, insecurity, lack of trust, whoring around, possible death, making a mockery of marriage...the usual great things we all strive for..next caller
I dont think there are any. It will eventually ruin the relationship, or you will end up two nasty old people meeting in truckstops and hotel rooms. Marriage is much more than that.
I cannot think of one good thing about swinging, only the bad. In the end it WILL ruin your marriage.
It spices up your sex life.
Makes you feel young again.
Tbh its a lifestyle I would not want to lead but to each their own
How do i obtain a marriage certificate for my grandparents if i only have there names Gilberto Talamantes and?
Grandfather was born in Delrio, Texas grandmother born in Jimenz Coahuila, Mexico might have been married around 1900 or so.How do i obtain a marriage certificate for my grandparents if i only have there names Gilberto Talamantes and?
Wow. You really think your going to find a marriage certificate from 1900? Doubtful it even exists, lady.How do i obtain a marriage certificate for my grandparents if i only have there names Gilberto Talamantes and?
There is no reason you would need a copy of your grandparents' marriage certificate.
Wow. You really think your going to find a marriage certificate from 1900? Doubtful it even exists, lady.How do i obtain a marriage certificate for my grandparents if i only have there names Gilberto Talamantes and?
There is no reason you would need a copy of your grandparents' marriage certificate.
What's a good traditional way to celebrate your first year of marriage?
We're 18 with a child and not that much money, something simple and romantic.What's a good traditional way to celebrate your first year of marriage?
that guy sure must be lucky to have a wife worrying about their one year wedding anniversary, what you should do is go the island,rent a hotel suite, pref ably an executive suite;'; their cheap on the islands cause of the winter climates.'; and find a local restaurant or your a favorite one,and just have a nice dinner,then go back to the room that has a gulf view and spa and just relax.
P.S. Take the baby along,your a family,she's young spend the special day with her, just feed her and she'll fall asleep.What's a good traditional way to celebrate your first year of marriage?
First get a babysitter for the night (parents, etc.). Second, here's some suggestions:
A romantic meal at a restaurant you've always wanted to go to.
Bed %26amp; Breakfast
Picnic and then home to a movie together.
Romantic bubble bath with cut up pieces of fruit on tray
A fantasy dress up night
You say you don't have much money - but start putting aside $10-20 a week in an envelope and do not touch it till your anniversary. You should have enough to make it special by then.
Our first year anniverary is coming up on 11-15. We also have a two month old baby. We don't have much money either. I plan to have a romantic picnic by the lake. I am working on a poem about my love for her and plan to print it out and put it in a frame. That evening we may go to dinner at nice restuarant and make love all night.
We will get her mom to watch the baby when we go to dinner. Keep the passion in your marriage and be each others best friend.
We saved a piece of our wedding cake and ate it. It was disgusting and we had a good laugh.
Sorry, that does not answer your question.
Spend a few extra dollars to get your favorite cut of steak or shrimp, and have a nice dinner at home with the baby. Look at your wedding pictures. It is important to reflect on the good times you have shared.
Paper is the traditional first year...so make a heap of flowers n birds n Cook romantic dinner in sexy under ware n say hi... :-) BTW after the child is asleep :-)
If you can go away for a weekend. Or go to a spa -these days a lot of spas offer packages for couples and they are not that expensive.
Spend a nice afternoon and early evening by a lake. Have a grill maybe.
Happy anniversary,
Good Luck,
Martin
Its paper
papers pretty cheap
get some hot dogs and beans and serve them on paper plates.
making your husband his favorite home cooked meal with candle lighting at your home.
In bed
that guy sure must be lucky to have a wife worrying about their one year wedding anniversary, what you should do is go the island,rent a hotel suite, pref ably an executive suite;'; their cheap on the islands cause of the winter climates.'; and find a local restaurant or your a favorite one,and just have a nice dinner,then go back to the room that has a gulf view and spa and just relax.
P.S. Take the baby along,your a family,she's young spend the special day with her, just feed her and she'll fall asleep.What's a good traditional way to celebrate your first year of marriage?
First get a babysitter for the night (parents, etc.). Second, here's some suggestions:
A romantic meal at a restaurant you've always wanted to go to.
Bed %26amp; Breakfast
Picnic and then home to a movie together.
Romantic bubble bath with cut up pieces of fruit on tray
A fantasy dress up night
You say you don't have much money - but start putting aside $10-20 a week in an envelope and do not touch it till your anniversary. You should have enough to make it special by then.
Our first year anniverary is coming up on 11-15. We also have a two month old baby. We don't have much money either. I plan to have a romantic picnic by the lake. I am working on a poem about my love for her and plan to print it out and put it in a frame. That evening we may go to dinner at nice restuarant and make love all night.
We will get her mom to watch the baby when we go to dinner. Keep the passion in your marriage and be each others best friend.
We saved a piece of our wedding cake and ate it. It was disgusting and we had a good laugh.
Sorry, that does not answer your question.
Spend a few extra dollars to get your favorite cut of steak or shrimp, and have a nice dinner at home with the baby. Look at your wedding pictures. It is important to reflect on the good times you have shared.
Paper is the traditional first year...so make a heap of flowers n birds n Cook romantic dinner in sexy under ware n say hi... :-) BTW after the child is asleep :-)
If you can go away for a weekend. Or go to a spa -these days a lot of spas offer packages for couples and they are not that expensive.
Spend a nice afternoon and early evening by a lake. Have a grill maybe.
Happy anniversary,
Good Luck,
Martin
Its paper
papers pretty cheap
get some hot dogs and beans and serve them on paper plates.
making your husband his favorite home cooked meal with candle lighting at your home.
In bed
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