The propositions passed to ban gay marriage (which I disagree on), and others have told me that gay couples can have civil unions and have the same rights as married couples- I suspect that isn't true though. Can someone provide more information on differences (if any) between the rights of a married couple and the rights of a civil union couple?What are the differences in the rights between a civil union and marriage?
Any proposed statute could only affect state rights, not federal. Federal issues include taxation, testimonial priviledge, inheritance taxes. Other issues involve the private sector. Insurance companies, for instance, recognize marriage but cannot be forced to recognize other groupings. Private hospitals will recognize the rights of a spouse of an unconscious person, but need not recognize unions. Pension rights are similar. What are the differences in the rights between a civil union and marriage?
This depends on what a civil union is defined as by the state.
A civil union can be merely an acknowledgment of next of kin or it can offer all the benefits of marriage, except the name.
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
Is failure to report a marriage considered tax fraud?
If you are married and one spouse files taxes as saying married filing separately and the other person files as single is this tax fraud? What if one party lets his/her parents claim them while the other files married filing separately?Is failure to report a marriage considered tax fraud?
In your first example, the spouse who filed as single has filed an illegal return. And they'll get caught, too.
If parents meet the rules to claim one of the married pair, they can as long as the couple doesn't file a joint return. The other spouse would file MFS, and so would the person claimed by their parents if he or she has reason to file a return at all. This situation is legal.Is failure to report a marriage considered tax fraud?
yes this is fraud. If you are married your only two options are married filing separately or married filing joint
if yoou are legally married then yes it is fraud
Yes.
In your first example, the spouse who filed as single has filed an illegal return. And they'll get caught, too.
If parents meet the rules to claim one of the married pair, they can as long as the couple doesn't file a joint return. The other spouse would file MFS, and so would the person claimed by their parents if he or she has reason to file a return at all. This situation is legal.Is failure to report a marriage considered tax fraud?
yes this is fraud. If you are married your only two options are married filing separately or married filing joint
if yoou are legally married then yes it is fraud
Yes.
Do most religions state that marriage is important, and if you dont marry it is considered as a sin?
Is there any religion out there that states that if you don’t marry then you are a sinner? Which religion states marriage provides happiness?
Marriage provides children. Which religions state that marriage is important because we need children in this world?
Are there any religions against Civil Partnership?Do most religions state that marriage is important, and if you dont marry it is considered as a sin?
yes.Do most religions state that marriage is important, and if you dont marry it is considered as a sin?
there may be, but i am not sure. there are some that say for some followers of that religion, marriage is a sin - e.g. catholic priests, buddhist monks.
marriage does NOT provide children - it recognizes them and categorizes them into classes of membership of the community. The dichotomy between biological parentage and social acceptance of paternity is attested in many communities, e.g., the Toda of the Nilgiris (South India).
yes, most religions consider sex outside marriage as somehow sinful. but social justice is shaking off that old superstition. like our friend who has three children, though unmarried.
Weird. If marriages provide children ... yet I am not married and I have 4 ... what sense do you make?
What does the bible say? The bible is God's word therefore you should find the answer in it.
While highly esteeming marriage, the Bible certainly does not condemn singleness if it is freely chosen. The Bible recommends it as a desirable course for some. (1 Corinthians 7:7, 8) Jesus Christ said that some men and women deliberately choose a course of singleness. (Matthew 19:12) Why? Not because there is something inherently impure about marriage that would hinder their spiritual development. They choose this course simply to focus their efforts on doing God’s will in what they perceived to be urgent times.
God's holy spirit was undoubtedly guiding Paul when he gave the counsel in I corinthians 7:8,27, 40. His whole presentation of celibacy and marriage shows balance and restraint. He does not make it a matter of faithfulness or unfaithfulness. It is, rather, a question of free choice, with the balance tipping in favor of singleness for those who are able to remain chaste in that state.
Immediately after stating “it is well for a man not to touch a woman,” Paul added: “Yet, because of prevalence of fornication, let each man have his own wife and each woman have her own husband.” (1 Corinthians 7:1, 2) After advising unmarried persons and widows to “remain even as I am,” he was quick to add: “But if they do not have self-control, let them marry, for it is better to marry than to be inflamed with passion.” (1 Corinthians 7:8, 9) Again, his counsel to widowers was: “Stop seeking a wife. But even if you did marry, you would commit no sin.” (1 Corinthians 7:27, 28) This balanced counsel reflects freedom of choice.
Marriage doesn't provide children. Sex provides children. Marriage is a ceremony created by religions so that you can have sex without being considered a sinner. They want you to be fruitful and multiply. There's only one way to do that, and they call it a sin.
Not all religions have the concept of sin, do they?
it means if you ';mate'; and aren't married
According to the new testament of the bible you're free to be single. See 1ºCor 7.
Not that I know of. Well firstly I don't belong to any set religion, but I believe/study the Bible. Marriage is suppose to be a union of two people, equally yoked. On one accord in faith and love and if you choose to marry someone that doesn't share your belief the Bible states you can't condemn them and force belief on them to believe because that's the way you met them. And you are only suppose to enter into a relationship like that if you can have peace with that person.(and that's rare)(Book:Corinthians). Marriage provides children... not every woman can bare children. And a quick question.. What is a Civil Partnership?... I'm not joking! I really don't know.
Many religions say that you have to be married to have children. Having sex before marriage is a sin. Thus the honey moon after the wedding. You're supposed to be a virgin; pure, thus explains the white dresses woman wear when they get married and cream colored dresses when they get married a second time.
Maybe mormons.
Christianity says marriage is a beautiful thing, provided by God, but is to be between a man and a woman. But no, not getting married is not a sin. It could be God's will.
Marriage provides children. Which religions state that marriage is important because we need children in this world?
Are there any religions against Civil Partnership?Do most religions state that marriage is important, and if you dont marry it is considered as a sin?
yes.Do most religions state that marriage is important, and if you dont marry it is considered as a sin?
there may be, but i am not sure. there are some that say for some followers of that religion, marriage is a sin - e.g. catholic priests, buddhist monks.
marriage does NOT provide children - it recognizes them and categorizes them into classes of membership of the community. The dichotomy between biological parentage and social acceptance of paternity is attested in many communities, e.g., the Toda of the Nilgiris (South India).
yes, most religions consider sex outside marriage as somehow sinful. but social justice is shaking off that old superstition. like our friend who has three children, though unmarried.
Weird. If marriages provide children ... yet I am not married and I have 4 ... what sense do you make?
What does the bible say? The bible is God's word therefore you should find the answer in it.
While highly esteeming marriage, the Bible certainly does not condemn singleness if it is freely chosen. The Bible recommends it as a desirable course for some. (1 Corinthians 7:7, 8) Jesus Christ said that some men and women deliberately choose a course of singleness. (Matthew 19:12) Why? Not because there is something inherently impure about marriage that would hinder their spiritual development. They choose this course simply to focus their efforts on doing God’s will in what they perceived to be urgent times.
God's holy spirit was undoubtedly guiding Paul when he gave the counsel in I corinthians 7:8,27, 40. His whole presentation of celibacy and marriage shows balance and restraint. He does not make it a matter of faithfulness or unfaithfulness. It is, rather, a question of free choice, with the balance tipping in favor of singleness for those who are able to remain chaste in that state.
Immediately after stating “it is well for a man not to touch a woman,” Paul added: “Yet, because of prevalence of fornication, let each man have his own wife and each woman have her own husband.” (1 Corinthians 7:1, 2) After advising unmarried persons and widows to “remain even as I am,” he was quick to add: “But if they do not have self-control, let them marry, for it is better to marry than to be inflamed with passion.” (1 Corinthians 7:8, 9) Again, his counsel to widowers was: “Stop seeking a wife. But even if you did marry, you would commit no sin.” (1 Corinthians 7:27, 28) This balanced counsel reflects freedom of choice.
Marriage doesn't provide children. Sex provides children. Marriage is a ceremony created by religions so that you can have sex without being considered a sinner. They want you to be fruitful and multiply. There's only one way to do that, and they call it a sin.
Not all religions have the concept of sin, do they?
it means if you ';mate'; and aren't married
According to the new testament of the bible you're free to be single. See 1ºCor 7.
Not that I know of. Well firstly I don't belong to any set religion, but I believe/study the Bible. Marriage is suppose to be a union of two people, equally yoked. On one accord in faith and love and if you choose to marry someone that doesn't share your belief the Bible states you can't condemn them and force belief on them to believe because that's the way you met them. And you are only suppose to enter into a relationship like that if you can have peace with that person.(and that's rare)(Book:Corinthians). Marriage provides children... not every woman can bare children. And a quick question.. What is a Civil Partnership?... I'm not joking! I really don't know.
Many religions say that you have to be married to have children. Having sex before marriage is a sin. Thus the honey moon after the wedding. You're supposed to be a virgin; pure, thus explains the white dresses woman wear when they get married and cream colored dresses when they get married a second time.
Maybe mormons.
Christianity says marriage is a beautiful thing, provided by God, but is to be between a man and a woman. But no, not getting married is not a sin. It could be God's will.
How do I get a marriage license in Rhode Island?
I want to get a marriage license to get married on the beach in Misquamicut Beach this summer. What exactly do I need to know and where exactly do I go to get it?How do I get a marriage license in Rhode Island?
Any courthouse should be able to help you...
you need to know your blood type..How do I get a marriage license in Rhode Island?
sorry i live in florida wish i could help you with this but i cant
Any courthouse should be able to help you...
you need to know your blood type..How do I get a marriage license in Rhode Island?
sorry i live in florida wish i could help you with this but i cant
Who has the worst In-laws/Outlaws/ or Ex?
I never ask much of anything on here, but I have noticed a lot of people say their inlaws/outlaws/exs are pretty bad. I am not passing judgment because my husband quickly covered a lot of issues all three of the above could present through our postnup, and Will. On the postnup, instead of just writing what would be fair in the event of divorce he provided our lawyer with a copy of a tape he calls ';Dumb Idiots.'; On it there is footage of people peeping in our windows (one once forgot to turn off their cell and got a phone call---lol), another time one fell over a lawn swing, a photo taken by a neighbor of one of them checking our mail, using a key to get into the house without permission, etc... Trust me these are all minor in comparison to other stuff. Any way my husband insisted that it be put in the postnup that if our marriage ended due to problems brought on by his family or his ex that all his assets be sold and divided between the two of us equally. He says it is the only way he can feel good about putting me in such a rough position, and teach them that they have no say or control over what either of us do with our own assets. I thought he was kidding at first, but trust me he is dead serious. He also requested some odd things be put in his Will that would decrease certain people's inheritance from the original stated amount if such and such happened. Like presenting of falsified documents, etc..He says ';When you live around sneaky people long enough, you learn to teach them a lot of hard cruel lessons.'; He even had 3 lawyers and 2 judges review all of our legal records to assure they were as airtight as possible.
So I was wondering if anyone out there can honestly top this? If so, how do you cope with whoever is bringing the drama?Who has the worst In-laws/Outlaws/ or Ex?
My ex cost me 42,000 in legal fees to win custody of my daughter last year. She filed false sexual molestation charges against me twice. She ran off with my daughter for 3 months, and I had no clue where she was.
She got pregnant and alleged me as the father so the state would file a paternity suit against me to try and cause problems in my marriage. Finally she settled down with the drama, and since she got nowhere with any of it...she just ignores the fact that we have a child together. So far this year...she's seen her ONCE.
I think I've got you beat!!Who has the worst In-laws/Outlaws/ or Ex?
That would diffently be hard to top. Most people who bring this drama are looking for your reaction, and if you don't give them the reaction that they want but something else they will finally go away.
****I AM IN THE PLAYPEN WITH MILDRED****
n m
Sometimes you have to be cruel...to be kind.
I had to ban all but 2 of my in laws from coming near my home. My husbands parents took things and got rid of them, if they did not agree with or like them.
One day i came home from work to find it had happened again my husband had to tell them they were no longer welcome. One of his brothers was a hell of a thief. The others were just bitter and envious of every one. Only one sister in law and her family were welcome and came quite often but it took 10yrs before i allowed any of the others back in and he had 11 siblings.
But your husband is quite right, one growing up around ppl like he discribed, one usually learns to read them like a book and keep one step ahead of their next thought.
i have a mother in law who constantly interrupts me when i am talking,tells me what to do and what to say,rolls her eyes at me and gives me and my husband no privacy at all when she is home. she lives with us and makes my life miserable. she has a phone in her room,but constantly goes in our room and takes ours and never puts it back,so i have to find it daily as she thinks she is the only person in our house that talks on the phone. she even stays up and waits for my 35 year old husband to come home from his 2nd job at 3:30 am just to talk to him. she is constantly interrupting our movie watching time by coming in late and asking questions as to catch her up on what she missed. but the number one thing is when my husband and i are watching tv.and she gets a phone call,she will sit at the dining room table,which is right by the living room,it is not seperate,and talks as loud as possible making it impossible to hear the tv. my husband just turns it up,but the louder the tv,the louder she talks. i swear she is the rudest person i have ever met,and we are finally getting rid of her in 3 months when we go to mexico to visit his family,and come back to a 1 bedroom apt.just for us,she is moving back in with her other son. i cannot wait.i just ignore her and count my days of freedom.
My wife's sister and her husband have no children and been married for 10 years. However, he has 2 children from 2 other relationships, one which ended in divorce and one from a fling IN THEIR HOUSE while my wife's sister was home. In addition, the child from his original marriage has now been DIVORCED 3 TIMES and has a kid from the second marriage... making that kid my wife's sister's husband's GRANDKID.
i lived in greece with my in-laws without my husband. I know no greek at all. they would roll the windows up and it would be 100 outside they would say it was so the kids would not get sick from sweating. I would think let the windows down so they would not sweet in the first place. I had to depend on them for everything if they wanted to wait two weeks to go to the store than i had to wait. I was stuck in the house with 4 kids all day every day. they came as they wanted i had nothing that was really mine not even my kids. Much more i could say... anyways move away far far away i told my husband to get me back to america or that's it. he did and know i only have to tell my husband to tell them i say hi over the phone. long distence is the best answer. good luck
So I was wondering if anyone out there can honestly top this? If so, how do you cope with whoever is bringing the drama?Who has the worst In-laws/Outlaws/ or Ex?
My ex cost me 42,000 in legal fees to win custody of my daughter last year. She filed false sexual molestation charges against me twice. She ran off with my daughter for 3 months, and I had no clue where she was.
She got pregnant and alleged me as the father so the state would file a paternity suit against me to try and cause problems in my marriage. Finally she settled down with the drama, and since she got nowhere with any of it...she just ignores the fact that we have a child together. So far this year...she's seen her ONCE.
I think I've got you beat!!Who has the worst In-laws/Outlaws/ or Ex?
That would diffently be hard to top. Most people who bring this drama are looking for your reaction, and if you don't give them the reaction that they want but something else they will finally go away.
****I AM IN THE PLAYPEN WITH MILDRED****
n m
Sometimes you have to be cruel...to be kind.
I had to ban all but 2 of my in laws from coming near my home. My husbands parents took things and got rid of them, if they did not agree with or like them.
One day i came home from work to find it had happened again my husband had to tell them they were no longer welcome. One of his brothers was a hell of a thief. The others were just bitter and envious of every one. Only one sister in law and her family were welcome and came quite often but it took 10yrs before i allowed any of the others back in and he had 11 siblings.
But your husband is quite right, one growing up around ppl like he discribed, one usually learns to read them like a book and keep one step ahead of their next thought.
i have a mother in law who constantly interrupts me when i am talking,tells me what to do and what to say,rolls her eyes at me and gives me and my husband no privacy at all when she is home. she lives with us and makes my life miserable. she has a phone in her room,but constantly goes in our room and takes ours and never puts it back,so i have to find it daily as she thinks she is the only person in our house that talks on the phone. she even stays up and waits for my 35 year old husband to come home from his 2nd job at 3:30 am just to talk to him. she is constantly interrupting our movie watching time by coming in late and asking questions as to catch her up on what she missed. but the number one thing is when my husband and i are watching tv.and she gets a phone call,she will sit at the dining room table,which is right by the living room,it is not seperate,and talks as loud as possible making it impossible to hear the tv. my husband just turns it up,but the louder the tv,the louder she talks. i swear she is the rudest person i have ever met,and we are finally getting rid of her in 3 months when we go to mexico to visit his family,and come back to a 1 bedroom apt.just for us,she is moving back in with her other son. i cannot wait.i just ignore her and count my days of freedom.
My wife's sister and her husband have no children and been married for 10 years. However, he has 2 children from 2 other relationships, one which ended in divorce and one from a fling IN THEIR HOUSE while my wife's sister was home. In addition, the child from his original marriage has now been DIVORCED 3 TIMES and has a kid from the second marriage... making that kid my wife's sister's husband's GRANDKID.
i lived in greece with my in-laws without my husband. I know no greek at all. they would roll the windows up and it would be 100 outside they would say it was so the kids would not get sick from sweating. I would think let the windows down so they would not sweet in the first place. I had to depend on them for everything if they wanted to wait two weeks to go to the store than i had to wait. I was stuck in the house with 4 kids all day every day. they came as they wanted i had nothing that was really mine not even my kids. Much more i could say... anyways move away far far away i told my husband to get me back to america or that's it. he did and know i only have to tell my husband to tell them i say hi over the phone. long distence is the best answer. good luck
How do I get my inlaws to stop trying to break my marriage up?
They are super nice to my face, then do sneaky little manipulative things to break us up. I can't take it, it may be a dealbreaker.How do I get my inlaws to stop trying to break my marriage up?
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Read the link above--you're not alone. Remember you are marrying your husband not them. If your husband is on your side then there is no reason to punish him for their childish behavior...If they go way to far (like breaking the law) then have them locked up and be done with it. You have to take the mentality that they have chosen to not make you their family, and you would be wise to not allow them to manipulate you when you catch them doing something they shouldn't...How do I get my inlaws to stop trying to break my marriage up?
You're married to your spouse, not them! It's up to him to deal with his parents and protect you. You and he have to come to an agreement and he must back you up completely. He shouldn't have any qualms about being completely loyal to you, regardless of his family's unflattering behaviors.
Your probably never going to be able to stop them. i was is the same situation for seventeen years . Finally i just stopped trying to please them . I wasn't nasty and was always polite unless they were rude and then i would say my goodbyes and leave. It drove them crazy and brought their true colours to the surface for my husband to see . Luckily my husband stood behind me and supported me and we are still together today . Don't let the things they do or say get to you . They obviously think you are not good enough for their son but its not their opinion that counts is it ?
omg i hate bitches like that.. okay first of all you need to confront her.. and if she turns evil in front of you then you neeed to tell your man.. and if he dont believe you then you better set up cameras in your house and have her caught and then show it to your husband... then he will believe you... you cant let her win. your gonna be like the monster in law ****. good luck girll... fight for your marriage!!!
Talk to your husband. If he's not willing to put a stop to it. Dump him.
YOUR HUSBAND NEEDS TO FOCUS ON YOU TWO ONLY. NOT THE PARENTS if he doesn't his loyalty is with them good luck
Some has to tell them it stops right nowstop blackheads
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
Read the link above--you're not alone. Remember you are marrying your husband not them. If your husband is on your side then there is no reason to punish him for their childish behavior...If they go way to far (like breaking the law) then have them locked up and be done with it. You have to take the mentality that they have chosen to not make you their family, and you would be wise to not allow them to manipulate you when you catch them doing something they shouldn't...How do I get my inlaws to stop trying to break my marriage up?
You're married to your spouse, not them! It's up to him to deal with his parents and protect you. You and he have to come to an agreement and he must back you up completely. He shouldn't have any qualms about being completely loyal to you, regardless of his family's unflattering behaviors.
Your probably never going to be able to stop them. i was is the same situation for seventeen years . Finally i just stopped trying to please them . I wasn't nasty and was always polite unless they were rude and then i would say my goodbyes and leave. It drove them crazy and brought their true colours to the surface for my husband to see . Luckily my husband stood behind me and supported me and we are still together today . Don't let the things they do or say get to you . They obviously think you are not good enough for their son but its not their opinion that counts is it ?
omg i hate bitches like that.. okay first of all you need to confront her.. and if she turns evil in front of you then you neeed to tell your man.. and if he dont believe you then you better set up cameras in your house and have her caught and then show it to your husband... then he will believe you... you cant let her win. your gonna be like the monster in law ****. good luck girll... fight for your marriage!!!
Talk to your husband. If he's not willing to put a stop to it. Dump him.
YOUR HUSBAND NEEDS TO FOCUS ON YOU TWO ONLY. NOT THE PARENTS if he doesn't his loyalty is with them good luck
Some has to tell them it stops right now
How can I make our marriage and love for each other keep on burning?
It's been a year now since my husband cheated on me. We've moved on but the tenderness is gone. My husband is always wanting to be by himself and doesnt want to talk about our feelings. He seem lonely and maybe worried by some problems. How can I make our marriage interesting for him?How can I make our marriage and love for each other keep on burning?
Wanting to be by himself and not wanting to talk about feelings is not a good place to be for anyone, especially a spouse. You must make him feel like his happiness is your number one priority, and that the things that mean the most to him you value. The easy one line answer to this question is: NEVER STOP DATING. Whatever it took to knock him off of his feet and make him walk with you down the aisle, continue to do for the rest of your life. Understand what pushes his buttons (both positively and negatively) and play to them. Sorry ladies, I must confess that too many of you change after you get the ring. I believe guys are much more simplistic in this manner......once you know what I like, keep giving it to me, and finding creative ways to give it to me, and for many (but not all) men, straying won't be an issue.How can I make our marriage and love for each other keep on burning?
Keep yourself neat and clean, prepare yourself daily, visit your life partner daily on his bed in the night, give him kisses, embraces, tracings, pressings and ensure that each night is first night for you and you have prepared yourself for that night, receive your life partner with wqrm and give him a good ffarewell on each day.Donot make complaints nor you should place your demands before the life partner.
Go to marriage counseling if you haven't already. If he is quiet and withdrawn, it could be because he feels guilty for hurting you. A counselor would be able to help you both see what you need from the relationship and how to get there. One session put my husband and I back on the right track. Make sure you show your husband that you care and make sure you don't keep bringing the affair up. Get over it and move on. I would schedule a date night every other weekend and make it special alone time for the two of you...that can help tremendously. Good luck.
that time when your husband cheated on you; you should have moved on
';How can I make our marriage interesting for him?'; and how can you make the marriage more interesting - girl no both of you need to make this work and fun
doesn't just come from one side
* go to new places, to activities that you have never done before
You tell him that you cant be without him and you like him the most and call him in the day for at least twice ot thrice and make that call everyday in the same time , that make him closer to you and will be interested in marriage
Indulge in his fantasy, but I agree that it takes 2 to make it interesting.....
Wanting to be by himself and not wanting to talk about feelings is not a good place to be for anyone, especially a spouse. You must make him feel like his happiness is your number one priority, and that the things that mean the most to him you value. The easy one line answer to this question is: NEVER STOP DATING. Whatever it took to knock him off of his feet and make him walk with you down the aisle, continue to do for the rest of your life. Understand what pushes his buttons (both positively and negatively) and play to them. Sorry ladies, I must confess that too many of you change after you get the ring. I believe guys are much more simplistic in this manner......once you know what I like, keep giving it to me, and finding creative ways to give it to me, and for many (but not all) men, straying won't be an issue.How can I make our marriage and love for each other keep on burning?
Keep yourself neat and clean, prepare yourself daily, visit your life partner daily on his bed in the night, give him kisses, embraces, tracings, pressings and ensure that each night is first night for you and you have prepared yourself for that night, receive your life partner with wqrm and give him a good ffarewell on each day.Donot make complaints nor you should place your demands before the life partner.
Go to marriage counseling if you haven't already. If he is quiet and withdrawn, it could be because he feels guilty for hurting you. A counselor would be able to help you both see what you need from the relationship and how to get there. One session put my husband and I back on the right track. Make sure you show your husband that you care and make sure you don't keep bringing the affair up. Get over it and move on. I would schedule a date night every other weekend and make it special alone time for the two of you...that can help tremendously. Good luck.
that time when your husband cheated on you; you should have moved on
';How can I make our marriage interesting for him?'; and how can you make the marriage more interesting - girl no both of you need to make this work and fun
doesn't just come from one side
* go to new places, to activities that you have never done before
You tell him that you cant be without him and you like him the most and call him in the day for at least twice ot thrice and make that call everyday in the same time , that make him closer to you and will be interested in marriage
Indulge in his fantasy, but I agree that it takes 2 to make it interesting.....
How do you keep a marriage going strong if you and your spouse have different interests?
I love theater. He doesn't. He loves computers. I don't understand them. I love concerts. He loves 80s metal on the radio. I love dramas. He loves cartoons. I love art. He doesn't understand it.
I've recently had trouble trying to figure out what we have in common. I love him very very deeply and I don't want us to grow apart. How do we reconcile these differences?How do you keep a marriage going strong if you and your spouse have different interests?
Hmmm...
I can really understand your discomfort here, it's difficult to face a divide of interests in your relationship, and can leave a person feeling very hollow and unimportant if there person and interests are not recognized and pursued. And good for you for making the issue about a desparity in common interests rather than cracking down on him for not having enough of yours, that's very mature of you not to make it ';his fault';.
I can think of several possible solutions, that can be used in combination with one another, I am sure there are more, and there are oodles of women's magazines that focus on just such issues so there would be a good place to look for further reading. Without further adieu, some solutions.
1. Just get over it, and realize it isn't a big deal, or that lack of common interests isn't really the problem, and instead address what really is.
2. Get at the heart of the differences and reconcile that.
3. Take up his interests.
4. Combine your interests, find a way to satisfy both of you simultaneously.
5. Pursue each other, and life together as an interest.
6. Find common interests.
7. Learn to negotiate and trade.
8. Talk to him about it and see what he has to say.
1.
Why is this a problem? It shouldn't be interfering with your life in any serious fashion, shouldn't really be a source of conflict unless these interests have become somehow more important than your spouse. Differences in interests in the genders are rather normal, which is why there is girl's and guy's night out, perhaps what you two need is buddies you can hang out with, another couple possibly, so they can do their guy stuff together and you two can do your girl stuff together, and then when that need is satisfied go back to your relative spouses. So you don't have quite as much fun together as you used to, how much of your life do you really spend pursuing all these things? Maybe these are just little nagging concerns that are blinding you to a greater concern that neither of you are talking about, but since that is so threatening you are choosing to focus on something minor. Or are there perhaps feelings of neglect because he doesn't seem to take an interest in your interests, and thus by not taking an interest in your interests he is subsequently not taking an interest in you. Are you two just stuck in a rut and tired of the same old same old, perhaps it is time to get away from it all and take a vacation together, or possibly a vacation apart and come back refreshed and ready to discover all the great things about each other all over again, or take up a hobby together something new and exciting you can both get into. In general try asking questions like this of yourself and see if there is something else going on here, or if perhaps this really isn't a big deal and you two still really love each other and you can just shrug your shoulders and realize it really isn't a big deal.
2.
I seem to sense a pattern in regards to more ';cultured'; pursuits on your part and more simplistic ones on his. One thing you might want to understand here is that his interests don't cost money, they are the interests of someone enjoying life just the way it is, without spending to excess. What may really be going on here and what he isn't saying is that he cannot reconcile and have fun with your interests because all he can think about is the loss of time and money that goes into these interests, and because that's all he is thinking about he's not going to be able to relax and have fun, you might want to talk to him about that, see if you can agree to create a ';leisure budget'; then money coming from that budget doesn't make him feel guilty because it was already agreed upon that is what it was for. Also you can find free or ';pay what you can'; performances or exhibits, ';win'; or get tickets as ';gifts'; *wink wink*, if you can address his feelings of guilt over spending since this is in reality a financial issue for him, you will enable him to enjoy himself more. What might be going on here is that you feel bad about his interests because you don't want to be identified as a kid anymore, you want to be an adult and have adult cultured pursuits, if this is the case try relaxing and just being a kid a bit more, life is a lot more fun if you are a kid. I don't know about you, but I love getting an excuse to what a childrens movie, and UP is in 3D, come on, who doesn't love 3D? The point here is get at the heart of the differences, or look for what these interests have in common, and find a way to either make that common root a non-issue, or satisfy its demands.
3.
Just swallow your pride, give in, and learn to find his interests fun and interesting. Get into it and try to find a way to enjoy what he is into by focusing on parts and elements that are fun for you. Maybe it's the way he laughs when he watches a funny cartoon, getting to watch him work when he gets into a computer, take aHow do you keep a marriage going strong if you and your spouse have different interests?
Find where you can meet, there's so many other places. Do you enjoy cooking together? Even going out together for different ethnic food. Ever go to a wine vinyard or to a wine tasting. I love hiking and it's healthy, plus who doesn't love nature. Photograpy is really fun too.
What until you have kids that makes it really interesting.
There's just some many other things you just have to try together and see were it goes. Adventure is the name of the game.
** You mentioned music, why don't you try to introduce him to new age music, Itunes has a huge selection of music from around the world. On another note Native American Indian music is great too. Exploring new things together can be a lot of fun.
there's an old saying that opposites attract. If you and your husband have different interest there is nothing wrong with that. Just because you two are married doesn't mean you have to like all of the same things. try to open yourself up to understanding and engaging in the things he likes once in a while and he should do the same for you. Allow him to teach you about computers and share your understanding of art with him. the key is to be open. In a marriage you should love one another but also teach one another. If you two will open yourselves up to learning about each others interest you won't grow apart maybe you'll grow even closer
By giving each other space to develop what you like but also by trying to show an interest in that what makes them enthusiastic without getting involved.
For instance, my husband plays on line soccer A sort of game. I don't get it at all, but it is a competition., So I do make a point to remind him that he needs to do this game, when he is busy and to ask him what his position is in the competition. Yet the ins and outs I don't know and if he never did it again it would also be fine with me.
It is the same with my sewing for instance, just not an interest of his. But he is proud when I finish a garment and happily goes with me to fabric stores.
Of course there must be things you have in common, otherwise you would not be together. Cooking, gardening or something. Or something that can be combined. There are a number of hard roch artists for instance that also are painters and have a wider interest in art. It can be combined.
My mother has the same concert. theater issue. She now has a friends she goes with and because she stopped nagging dad he actually pics out one or two things he likes to go with her. She usually hates what he picks but goes with him as he is doing that to support her. I go the movies with a friend. Her husband and mine are best friends (have been for 25 years) and neither likes the movies So the girls go together and the men watch the football We al have a great evening and are happy.
As for combined interest look at what drew him to you in the first place. There you will find the binding factor
Marriage USN麓t two people with same virtues, qualities and flaws. You can have different interests in life and still enjoying being together, but try not to be too selfish and make things enjoyable for the other partner, like say making some effort trying to understand why he loves computers or watch cartoons once in a while ..Try to connect, talk about art and make it interesting,,,(I do that, my teens love it) Invite him to watch some drama with you..Try by all means to have fun and enjoy your time together,,,I read once that what keeps couples together is love and a great amount of sense of humor,,,In our 20 years marriage, we have quite a few different interests, but sense of humor has been our main dish..and do things together every time we can,,,weekends mainly--We think different even in religion, art, friends, relatives,,movies,,you name it..but we have so much fun around each other,,and our kids are so happy enjoying every moment. Maybe means something that we got married at 30..and both had careers and well paid jobs? maybe....
You both do your own thing and find simple things to do together.
You go to a play while he builds a computer, and afterwards meet for ice cream or dinner.
Nothing will kill a marriage faster then forcing your spouse to do what doesn't interest you.
However, even if you aren't interested, you both have to support eachothers's interests and not make the other feel stupid.
For instance, my husband loves cars. I don't, but I will listen respectfully and learn rudimentary knowledge so I can buy him gifts that he will like. I, however, love photography. He's like, ok, a tree. But he's still attentive enough to pay attention to what camera I have.
I think people loose themselves when they get married. It's ok to have different interests. Opposites attract! The main goal is to focus on why you fell in love in the first place. Take time to show each other you care. Just talking and laughing at the dinner table,leaving notes that say ';i love you';,hitting the snooze button on a Saturday just to talk or cuddle. The simple and honest moments and gestures are the ones that matter most.
what a load of BS!!
My parents have been married for about 20 years now and they both have different interests, My dad loves keeping animals and my mum isn't interested. They have a lot of differences but don't care about it because they just do what they enjoy.
You don't need to have the same interests to stay in a relationship....
love stand on faith.if u love him, u can do anything for him. that's right? if it is right so change ur habit Little bit, when he figure ur changing he will change his habit also and he feel a little guilty. for a few thing you can not make distance your love. love forever and don't figure any trouble in common things. best of luck
Find something, just something you can both do together, it could be underwater basketweaving. Begin this journey to find common interest. Try a bookstore, you can enjoy coffee together yet you could be reading something completely different, well, you get the message.
A lot of married couples have different interests.
Why not find something you both enjoy doing together so at least you will have 1 thing in common.
You could also learn and teach the other how to enjoy each others hobbies.
There must be something you both enjoy... walking the dog? Cooking? Board games? Going out for a drink? Gardening? There's no reason why you can't both enjoy individual interests, so long as you have some common ones too.
always remember opposite sides attract.......
give sometime, space to your partner, he will surely take some interest in your likes....
you take the initiative to understand his likes and get involved, i am damn sure he will also do the same.......
You have to reconcile your interests. As a wife you have to know how to carry the needs of your husband. Adjust yourself if you really love each other. Good luck
ok heres a list u can follow:
never miss having breakfast together n dinner if possible lunch too
ok ur list missed religion - so im guessing u too agree on tat - y diont u do tat together
books tats missing too- visit libraries together.
eating out
etc
Continue to be into your seperate things while maintaining the love that was there when you got married. All of that didn't suddenly fade into nothingness that fast.
sacrifice.... at least you have bed room compatibility. i have nothing at all with him. its just sacrifice...sacrifice and more sacrifice.
Sound like my marriage. I just want out. Too many fish in the sea!
I've recently had trouble trying to figure out what we have in common. I love him very very deeply and I don't want us to grow apart. How do we reconcile these differences?How do you keep a marriage going strong if you and your spouse have different interests?
Hmmm...
I can really understand your discomfort here, it's difficult to face a divide of interests in your relationship, and can leave a person feeling very hollow and unimportant if there person and interests are not recognized and pursued. And good for you for making the issue about a desparity in common interests rather than cracking down on him for not having enough of yours, that's very mature of you not to make it ';his fault';.
I can think of several possible solutions, that can be used in combination with one another, I am sure there are more, and there are oodles of women's magazines that focus on just such issues so there would be a good place to look for further reading. Without further adieu, some solutions.
1. Just get over it, and realize it isn't a big deal, or that lack of common interests isn't really the problem, and instead address what really is.
2. Get at the heart of the differences and reconcile that.
3. Take up his interests.
4. Combine your interests, find a way to satisfy both of you simultaneously.
5. Pursue each other, and life together as an interest.
6. Find common interests.
7. Learn to negotiate and trade.
8. Talk to him about it and see what he has to say.
1.
Why is this a problem? It shouldn't be interfering with your life in any serious fashion, shouldn't really be a source of conflict unless these interests have become somehow more important than your spouse. Differences in interests in the genders are rather normal, which is why there is girl's and guy's night out, perhaps what you two need is buddies you can hang out with, another couple possibly, so they can do their guy stuff together and you two can do your girl stuff together, and then when that need is satisfied go back to your relative spouses. So you don't have quite as much fun together as you used to, how much of your life do you really spend pursuing all these things? Maybe these are just little nagging concerns that are blinding you to a greater concern that neither of you are talking about, but since that is so threatening you are choosing to focus on something minor. Or are there perhaps feelings of neglect because he doesn't seem to take an interest in your interests, and thus by not taking an interest in your interests he is subsequently not taking an interest in you. Are you two just stuck in a rut and tired of the same old same old, perhaps it is time to get away from it all and take a vacation together, or possibly a vacation apart and come back refreshed and ready to discover all the great things about each other all over again, or take up a hobby together something new and exciting you can both get into. In general try asking questions like this of yourself and see if there is something else going on here, or if perhaps this really isn't a big deal and you two still really love each other and you can just shrug your shoulders and realize it really isn't a big deal.
2.
I seem to sense a pattern in regards to more ';cultured'; pursuits on your part and more simplistic ones on his. One thing you might want to understand here is that his interests don't cost money, they are the interests of someone enjoying life just the way it is, without spending to excess. What may really be going on here and what he isn't saying is that he cannot reconcile and have fun with your interests because all he can think about is the loss of time and money that goes into these interests, and because that's all he is thinking about he's not going to be able to relax and have fun, you might want to talk to him about that, see if you can agree to create a ';leisure budget'; then money coming from that budget doesn't make him feel guilty because it was already agreed upon that is what it was for. Also you can find free or ';pay what you can'; performances or exhibits, ';win'; or get tickets as ';gifts'; *wink wink*, if you can address his feelings of guilt over spending since this is in reality a financial issue for him, you will enable him to enjoy himself more. What might be going on here is that you feel bad about his interests because you don't want to be identified as a kid anymore, you want to be an adult and have adult cultured pursuits, if this is the case try relaxing and just being a kid a bit more, life is a lot more fun if you are a kid. I don't know about you, but I love getting an excuse to what a childrens movie, and UP is in 3D, come on, who doesn't love 3D? The point here is get at the heart of the differences, or look for what these interests have in common, and find a way to either make that common root a non-issue, or satisfy its demands.
3.
Just swallow your pride, give in, and learn to find his interests fun and interesting. Get into it and try to find a way to enjoy what he is into by focusing on parts and elements that are fun for you. Maybe it's the way he laughs when he watches a funny cartoon, getting to watch him work when he gets into a computer, take aHow do you keep a marriage going strong if you and your spouse have different interests?
Find where you can meet, there's so many other places. Do you enjoy cooking together? Even going out together for different ethnic food. Ever go to a wine vinyard or to a wine tasting. I love hiking and it's healthy, plus who doesn't love nature. Photograpy is really fun too.
What until you have kids that makes it really interesting.
There's just some many other things you just have to try together and see were it goes. Adventure is the name of the game.
** You mentioned music, why don't you try to introduce him to new age music, Itunes has a huge selection of music from around the world. On another note Native American Indian music is great too. Exploring new things together can be a lot of fun.
there's an old saying that opposites attract. If you and your husband have different interest there is nothing wrong with that. Just because you two are married doesn't mean you have to like all of the same things. try to open yourself up to understanding and engaging in the things he likes once in a while and he should do the same for you. Allow him to teach you about computers and share your understanding of art with him. the key is to be open. In a marriage you should love one another but also teach one another. If you two will open yourselves up to learning about each others interest you won't grow apart maybe you'll grow even closer
By giving each other space to develop what you like but also by trying to show an interest in that what makes them enthusiastic without getting involved.
For instance, my husband plays on line soccer A sort of game. I don't get it at all, but it is a competition., So I do make a point to remind him that he needs to do this game, when he is busy and to ask him what his position is in the competition. Yet the ins and outs I don't know and if he never did it again it would also be fine with me.
It is the same with my sewing for instance, just not an interest of his. But he is proud when I finish a garment and happily goes with me to fabric stores.
Of course there must be things you have in common, otherwise you would not be together. Cooking, gardening or something. Or something that can be combined. There are a number of hard roch artists for instance that also are painters and have a wider interest in art. It can be combined.
My mother has the same concert. theater issue. She now has a friends she goes with and because she stopped nagging dad he actually pics out one or two things he likes to go with her. She usually hates what he picks but goes with him as he is doing that to support her. I go the movies with a friend. Her husband and mine are best friends (have been for 25 years) and neither likes the movies So the girls go together and the men watch the football We al have a great evening and are happy.
As for combined interest look at what drew him to you in the first place. There you will find the binding factor
Marriage USN麓t two people with same virtues, qualities and flaws. You can have different interests in life and still enjoying being together, but try not to be too selfish and make things enjoyable for the other partner, like say making some effort trying to understand why he loves computers or watch cartoons once in a while ..Try to connect, talk about art and make it interesting,,,(I do that, my teens love it) Invite him to watch some drama with you..Try by all means to have fun and enjoy your time together,,,I read once that what keeps couples together is love and a great amount of sense of humor,,,In our 20 years marriage, we have quite a few different interests, but sense of humor has been our main dish..and do things together every time we can,,,weekends mainly--We think different even in religion, art, friends, relatives,,movies,,you name it..but we have so much fun around each other,,and our kids are so happy enjoying every moment. Maybe means something that we got married at 30..and both had careers and well paid jobs? maybe....
You both do your own thing and find simple things to do together.
You go to a play while he builds a computer, and afterwards meet for ice cream or dinner.
Nothing will kill a marriage faster then forcing your spouse to do what doesn't interest you.
However, even if you aren't interested, you both have to support eachothers's interests and not make the other feel stupid.
For instance, my husband loves cars. I don't, but I will listen respectfully and learn rudimentary knowledge so I can buy him gifts that he will like. I, however, love photography. He's like, ok, a tree. But he's still attentive enough to pay attention to what camera I have.
I think people loose themselves when they get married. It's ok to have different interests. Opposites attract! The main goal is to focus on why you fell in love in the first place. Take time to show each other you care. Just talking and laughing at the dinner table,leaving notes that say ';i love you';,hitting the snooze button on a Saturday just to talk or cuddle. The simple and honest moments and gestures are the ones that matter most.
what a load of BS!!
My parents have been married for about 20 years now and they both have different interests, My dad loves keeping animals and my mum isn't interested. They have a lot of differences but don't care about it because they just do what they enjoy.
You don't need to have the same interests to stay in a relationship....
love stand on faith.if u love him, u can do anything for him. that's right? if it is right so change ur habit Little bit, when he figure ur changing he will change his habit also and he feel a little guilty. for a few thing you can not make distance your love. love forever and don't figure any trouble in common things. best of luck
Find something, just something you can both do together, it could be underwater basketweaving. Begin this journey to find common interest. Try a bookstore, you can enjoy coffee together yet you could be reading something completely different, well, you get the message.
A lot of married couples have different interests.
Why not find something you both enjoy doing together so at least you will have 1 thing in common.
You could also learn and teach the other how to enjoy each others hobbies.
There must be something you both enjoy... walking the dog? Cooking? Board games? Going out for a drink? Gardening? There's no reason why you can't both enjoy individual interests, so long as you have some common ones too.
always remember opposite sides attract.......
give sometime, space to your partner, he will surely take some interest in your likes....
you take the initiative to understand his likes and get involved, i am damn sure he will also do the same.......
You have to reconcile your interests. As a wife you have to know how to carry the needs of your husband. Adjust yourself if you really love each other. Good luck
ok heres a list u can follow:
never miss having breakfast together n dinner if possible lunch too
ok ur list missed religion - so im guessing u too agree on tat - y diont u do tat together
books tats missing too- visit libraries together.
eating out
etc
Continue to be into your seperate things while maintaining the love that was there when you got married. All of that didn't suddenly fade into nothingness that fast.
sacrifice.... at least you have bed room compatibility. i have nothing at all with him. its just sacrifice...sacrifice and more sacrifice.
Sound like my marriage. I just want out. Too many fish in the sea!
How do you know your marriage is ended?
How do you know when your marriage is ended? A friend of mines complains often about her marraigeI would like give her some tips and advise her to see a counsellor. They have been married for 24yrs and have 1 child.How do you know your marriage is ended?
1. You no longer, have anything in common.
Do you and your partner spend hours together under the same roof, at social engagements or performing routine errands, yet rarely engage in meaningful conversation? Living in silence is a primary symptom of major marital problems.
2. You can do no right.
Do you feel like your every action is being watched and criticized by your partner? Can you do no right in their eyes? Do you feel intimidated or afraid because of your partners constant criticism? Too often partners will funnel larger relationship issues into negative criticism of day-to-day tasks.
3. You are the last to know.
Is you partner no longer sharing information with you about his career, personal problems or personal achievements? Is your partner sharing this information with a friend and you hear it second hand? When you become the last to know important information there has been a huge breakdown in communication.
4. A change in appearance.
Over time, your comfort level will inevitably end that desire to look ';perfect'; for every encounter with your partner. However, a drastic decline in personal appearance and hygiene by your spouse could be a sign of they no longer care or, are happy in the marriage.
5. Looking for distractions from the problems.
If the television is on constantly, you both sit with your face buried in a book or you always have something else that needs to be done there may be a problem. It is common for individuals to find such distractions to avoid dealing with a troubled marriage.
6. Arguing over the same subject repeatedly.
If your arguments become routine with all the same issues and no resolution, then your marriage is either standing still or dying fast. You may need the assistance of a professional counselor to help find solutions to the problems that don't seem to go away.
7. Intimacy is a thing of the past.
A considerable decline in physical affection is one of the most recognized symptoms of a failing relationship. Intimacy is the act that allows us to bond as husband and wife. If your partner is showing no or very little interest in intimacy with you then they are showing little concern for their emotional bond with you as a husband/wife.How do you know your marriage is ended?
I have always heard and believed that the quality of your relationship is somewhat measured in the amount of Laughter, happiness and hugs. When these 3 elements AND communication drop considerably, then there maybe a sign that the other party is 'leading a separate life'. Although we all need some time alone, the key is that we all need SOME time alone. Escapism--by not dealing with the root cause of the problems in the relationship will only speed its demise. Communicate, discuss, hug and work it out. THEN go together for counseling. Never use counseling as a means for one party to use it as a ';see... I knew you were (cheating/with another woman/don't love me anymore...';)
Hope this helps you and your friend. All the best.
re: How do you know your marriage is ended?
.......When it is damaging their child!!!!
Not that anyone really cares about it ............
their FIRST obligation is to the wellbeing of their dependent, defenseless CHILD!
this might help their child survive faulty parenting
http://www.google.com/search?client=oper鈥?/a>
communication is the key. they must sit down and talk if they have any chance to regain what they once had. they got married because they wanted to spend the rest of there lives together? if yes then they could sit and discuss what they both feel is wrong and what is going right. too many people focus on the wrong and forget about the right. hope this helps to start.
It ends when you absolutely have no energy to deal with it anymore. All alternatives have been exhausted, no compromising and basically no reason to try anymore
You know it's ended when just the thought of spending one more day with them makes you shudder.
It ends when somebody ends it.
when you feel unhappy and tried everything to work it out but nothing work's
Its over when there is no love left and they would be happier without each other. Had a good run, though.
When your spouse starts dating other people.
1. You no longer, have anything in common.
Do you and your partner spend hours together under the same roof, at social engagements or performing routine errands, yet rarely engage in meaningful conversation? Living in silence is a primary symptom of major marital problems.
2. You can do no right.
Do you feel like your every action is being watched and criticized by your partner? Can you do no right in their eyes? Do you feel intimidated or afraid because of your partners constant criticism? Too often partners will funnel larger relationship issues into negative criticism of day-to-day tasks.
3. You are the last to know.
Is you partner no longer sharing information with you about his career, personal problems or personal achievements? Is your partner sharing this information with a friend and you hear it second hand? When you become the last to know important information there has been a huge breakdown in communication.
4. A change in appearance.
Over time, your comfort level will inevitably end that desire to look ';perfect'; for every encounter with your partner. However, a drastic decline in personal appearance and hygiene by your spouse could be a sign of they no longer care or, are happy in the marriage.
5. Looking for distractions from the problems.
If the television is on constantly, you both sit with your face buried in a book or you always have something else that needs to be done there may be a problem. It is common for individuals to find such distractions to avoid dealing with a troubled marriage.
6. Arguing over the same subject repeatedly.
If your arguments become routine with all the same issues and no resolution, then your marriage is either standing still or dying fast. You may need the assistance of a professional counselor to help find solutions to the problems that don't seem to go away.
7. Intimacy is a thing of the past.
A considerable decline in physical affection is one of the most recognized symptoms of a failing relationship. Intimacy is the act that allows us to bond as husband and wife. If your partner is showing no or very little interest in intimacy with you then they are showing little concern for their emotional bond with you as a husband/wife.How do you know your marriage is ended?
I have always heard and believed that the quality of your relationship is somewhat measured in the amount of Laughter, happiness and hugs. When these 3 elements AND communication drop considerably, then there maybe a sign that the other party is 'leading a separate life'. Although we all need some time alone, the key is that we all need SOME time alone. Escapism--by not dealing with the root cause of the problems in the relationship will only speed its demise. Communicate, discuss, hug and work it out. THEN go together for counseling. Never use counseling as a means for one party to use it as a ';see... I knew you were (cheating/with another woman/don't love me anymore...';)
Hope this helps you and your friend. All the best.
re: How do you know your marriage is ended?
.......When it is damaging their child!!!!
Not that anyone really cares about it ............
their FIRST obligation is to the wellbeing of their dependent, defenseless CHILD!
this might help their child survive faulty parenting
http://www.google.com/search?client=oper鈥?/a>
communication is the key. they must sit down and talk if they have any chance to regain what they once had. they got married because they wanted to spend the rest of there lives together? if yes then they could sit and discuss what they both feel is wrong and what is going right. too many people focus on the wrong and forget about the right. hope this helps to start.
It ends when you absolutely have no energy to deal with it anymore. All alternatives have been exhausted, no compromising and basically no reason to try anymore
You know it's ended when just the thought of spending one more day with them makes you shudder.
It ends when somebody ends it.
when you feel unhappy and tried everything to work it out but nothing work's
Its over when there is no love left and they would be happier without each other. Had a good run, though.
When your spouse starts dating other people.
What keeps up a successful marriage relationship living in harmony ?
Some tips from those with experience about keeping up a successful marriage relationship in a healthy lively way .What keeps up a successful marriage relationship living in harmony ?
Get the book ';Nonviolent Communication'; by Marshall Rosenberg.
It has made my relationship sing.
another good one is ';Getting the love you want';
The key is communication, understanding, listening. you have to take the time to understand each other. You have to be honest with what's going on with you, since any kind of deception (like pretending you are happy) will ruin a relationship in the long run. You have to search your heart and not do anything you are not willing to do because resentment will destroy your relationship. And the great part is that if only one person gets better communication skills the relationship improves greatly - both don't have to do it.
just remember: things are changing all the time
i'm very happy in a 9-yr relationship, and the nonviolent communication skills, in my opinion are the key. also maintaining yourself - i have my own meditation practice that keeps me ok so i can be an ok partner.What keeps up a successful marriage relationship living in harmony ?
Sometimes my husband can be a real **** and I usually baby him and am super nice at those times. When I am a crazy PMS monster he does the same. I think like sometimes you just have to be the bigger person. Also when we fight we might scream the meanest things for a few minutes, then in a half an hour we act like it never happened. Also he is the most important person and thing in my life and I think it goes both ways. And in marriage you have to have a sense of humor! Just my crazy marriage that's what works.
1. Communication.... Open and honest communication. (Tact too)
2. Trust and faithfulness... Cheating and lies wont do anything but hurt both parties...
3. Unconditional love... You married this person with all their faults... So, any you knew of before marriage, you can't really complain about... NOW, if there are new ones... then that is where number 1 comes in...
4. Be patient... REALLY... Really... really patient...
Patience, Respect, Compromise, Affection, Understanding. (and a lot of sex, lol)
Each person needs something different. For example, I really like affection, but my husband-not so much. So, I have to be patient, and thankful for the times he does share it with me. At the same time, I'm an only child, so compromise...not as easy for me. ; )
Trial and error...time...all factors in how you make things work. But..that's not to say that its always easy. Marriage is HARD work, it really is. There's never a right answer--
Don't sweat the small stuff...have fun...be each other's boyfriend/girlfriend. If you treat each other as if you were dating then love never dies and everyone always tries to please the other. It really is the little things that mean so very much
Two people who love each other and are willing to work with each other and love one another despite your flaws.
Communication, trust and faithfulness.
talk to each other don't forget each others birthdays......be faithful to each other....don't criticize be patince...
respect, alot of sex, and compromise..
patience, love and a lot of sacrifice
respect and trust.. if you don't have both plus some communication, get out now
Get the book ';Nonviolent Communication'; by Marshall Rosenberg.
It has made my relationship sing.
another good one is ';Getting the love you want';
The key is communication, understanding, listening. you have to take the time to understand each other. You have to be honest with what's going on with you, since any kind of deception (like pretending you are happy) will ruin a relationship in the long run. You have to search your heart and not do anything you are not willing to do because resentment will destroy your relationship. And the great part is that if only one person gets better communication skills the relationship improves greatly - both don't have to do it.
just remember: things are changing all the time
i'm very happy in a 9-yr relationship, and the nonviolent communication skills, in my opinion are the key. also maintaining yourself - i have my own meditation practice that keeps me ok so i can be an ok partner.What keeps up a successful marriage relationship living in harmony ?
Sometimes my husband can be a real **** and I usually baby him and am super nice at those times. When I am a crazy PMS monster he does the same. I think like sometimes you just have to be the bigger person. Also when we fight we might scream the meanest things for a few minutes, then in a half an hour we act like it never happened. Also he is the most important person and thing in my life and I think it goes both ways. And in marriage you have to have a sense of humor! Just my crazy marriage that's what works.
1. Communication.... Open and honest communication. (Tact too)
2. Trust and faithfulness... Cheating and lies wont do anything but hurt both parties...
3. Unconditional love... You married this person with all their faults... So, any you knew of before marriage, you can't really complain about... NOW, if there are new ones... then that is where number 1 comes in...
4. Be patient... REALLY... Really... really patient...
Patience, Respect, Compromise, Affection, Understanding. (and a lot of sex, lol)
Each person needs something different. For example, I really like affection, but my husband-not so much. So, I have to be patient, and thankful for the times he does share it with me. At the same time, I'm an only child, so compromise...not as easy for me. ; )
Trial and error...time...all factors in how you make things work. But..that's not to say that its always easy. Marriage is HARD work, it really is. There's never a right answer--
Don't sweat the small stuff...have fun...be each other's boyfriend/girlfriend. If you treat each other as if you were dating then love never dies and everyone always tries to please the other. It really is the little things that mean so very much
Two people who love each other and are willing to work with each other and love one another despite your flaws.
Communication, trust and faithfulness.
talk to each other don't forget each others birthdays......be faithful to each other....don't criticize be patince...
respect, alot of sex, and compromise..
patience, love and a lot of sacrifice
respect and trust.. if you don't have both plus some communication, get out now
What is the minister obligated to do if someone objects to the marriage?
Just curious, what would the paster have to do if someone did object to the couple who is planning to say their ';I do';? My cousin is supposed to get married today and my Grandma literally hates her husband to be. She said she will object to the wedding. Not sure if she really will, but if she does, what will happen?What is the minister obligated to do if someone objects to the marriage?
Depends on the pastor. Some will stop %26amp; find out if there is a ';just cause'; (such as already married; which is why this started being asked in the first place)
If not they will proceed. If the objector continues they WILL be removed from the ceremony by an usher. If they persist, usually the cops are called.
But I've known some ministers that walk off the platform %26amp; cancel the wedding. If there is no reason the minister will perform a short ceremony the next day in his study.
Advise Granny to keep her mouth shut, or tell the pastor what's in store for him.
Thisis why couples are opting to not include this in their ceremony. With any luck, the pastor won't.What is the minister obligated to do if someone objects to the marriage?
I believe the standard procedure is for the person officiating (minister, judge, ship's captain, etc.) to take the person objecting along with the bride and groom to a private place. Once there, the objection can be addressed. If it's just something simple like, ';I don't want him to marry her,'; the wedding goes on (provided the bride and groom still want to marry one another).
If it's something major like, ';He's still married to me,'; the wedding cannot proceed until all of the legal necessities are taken care of. Everyone leaves, taking the gifts with them.
Your cousin should just remove the ';Does anybody object...'; from the wedding. The pastor doesn't have to ask it, and has no obligation to do anything unless someone can present information why the couple should not be LEGALLY married, such as one of the them is already married.
Depends on the pastor. Some will stop %26amp; find out if there is a ';just cause'; (such as already married; which is why this started being asked in the first place)
If not they will proceed. If the objector continues they WILL be removed from the ceremony by an usher. If they persist, usually the cops are called.
But I've known some ministers that walk off the platform %26amp; cancel the wedding. If there is no reason the minister will perform a short ceremony the next day in his study.
Advise Granny to keep her mouth shut, or tell the pastor what's in store for him.
Thisis why couples are opting to not include this in their ceremony. With any luck, the pastor won't.What is the minister obligated to do if someone objects to the marriage?
I believe the standard procedure is for the person officiating (minister, judge, ship's captain, etc.) to take the person objecting along with the bride and groom to a private place. Once there, the objection can be addressed. If it's just something simple like, ';I don't want him to marry her,'; the wedding goes on (provided the bride and groom still want to marry one another).
If it's something major like, ';He's still married to me,'; the wedding cannot proceed until all of the legal necessities are taken care of. Everyone leaves, taking the gifts with them.
Your cousin should just remove the ';Does anybody object...'; from the wedding. The pastor doesn't have to ask it, and has no obligation to do anything unless someone can present information why the couple should not be LEGALLY married, such as one of the them is already married.
How long does it take to get an unconditional green card thru marriage?
I made some research about this subject but could not find an answer.Some says it takes less than 2 years and some says it takes 4-5 years. Does anybody know exactly how long does it take to get an unconditional green card thru marrying a US citizen if you entered to US legally?How long does it take to get an unconditional green card thru marriage?
You have to apply to remove conditions from conditional green card 2 years after you got it (within the 90 days window). It currently takes from 6 months to a year have the conditions removed. So total waiting time could be 2.5 to 3.5 years from the date you became a conditional resident.How long does it take to get an unconditional green card thru marriage?
If you have been married for less than 2 years when you apply for your first green card you will get a temporary green card. So assuming you have been married less than 2 years, once your application for your greencard is approved the temporary greencard will be issued. 1 year and 9 months from the date of issue on your temporary green card you can submit your application to have the conditions removed and then, provided your application is approved, you will get a 10 year green card.
It's really dependent on how long you've been married. If you've been married for more than 2 years, you're eligible for a permanent green card immediately. If you've received a conditional green card prior to that 2 year date, then it really depends more on how long the backlog is in your area to get an hearing to remove your conditional status. this is why you're getting different answers, as the actual time varies from one location to another.
Processing times are about the same for both conditional and permanent residency.
The only difference is that a conditional green card is issued if the marriage is less than 2 years old at the time the green card is issued. It has a two year duration and the couple need to apply to have the conditions removed to get a permanent (10 year) green card.
Once you are approved green card through marriage, it will be 2 year conditional green card. 90 days before the 2 year conditional card expires, you have file jointly I-751 Remove Condition to get 10 year green card. You have present that you still have ongoing marriage with your spouse.
It depends what country you are from. Mexico and China have the longest wait list. you can go to the state department and find the link for the wait time. go here for processing times:
http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis/m鈥?/a>
I believe it's 2yrs
Two years at most after you have been issued a conditional (temporyar) one.
2 years as long as you are STILL married.eczema cream
You have to apply to remove conditions from conditional green card 2 years after you got it (within the 90 days window). It currently takes from 6 months to a year have the conditions removed. So total waiting time could be 2.5 to 3.5 years from the date you became a conditional resident.How long does it take to get an unconditional green card thru marriage?
If you have been married for less than 2 years when you apply for your first green card you will get a temporary green card. So assuming you have been married less than 2 years, once your application for your greencard is approved the temporary greencard will be issued. 1 year and 9 months from the date of issue on your temporary green card you can submit your application to have the conditions removed and then, provided your application is approved, you will get a 10 year green card.
It's really dependent on how long you've been married. If you've been married for more than 2 years, you're eligible for a permanent green card immediately. If you've received a conditional green card prior to that 2 year date, then it really depends more on how long the backlog is in your area to get an hearing to remove your conditional status. this is why you're getting different answers, as the actual time varies from one location to another.
Processing times are about the same for both conditional and permanent residency.
The only difference is that a conditional green card is issued if the marriage is less than 2 years old at the time the green card is issued. It has a two year duration and the couple need to apply to have the conditions removed to get a permanent (10 year) green card.
Once you are approved green card through marriage, it will be 2 year conditional green card. 90 days before the 2 year conditional card expires, you have file jointly I-751 Remove Condition to get 10 year green card. You have present that you still have ongoing marriage with your spouse.
It depends what country you are from. Mexico and China have the longest wait list. you can go to the state department and find the link for the wait time. go here for processing times:
http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis/m鈥?/a>
I believe it's 2yrs
Two years at most after you have been issued a conditional (temporyar) one.
2 years as long as you are STILL married.
What personal flaw of yours has the biggest negative impact on your marriage?
None of us are perfect; we all have flaws to some degree or other. What flaw of yours creates the most strain on your marriage? Even if the strain is very small, which one has the biggest negative impact?
I'll start. For me, it's my tendency sometimes to withdraw and isolate myself when my wife gets angry at me rather than addressing her in an assertive and constructive manner.
Your turn!What personal flaw of yours has the biggest negative impact on your marriage?
My sensitivity.
Though I sometimes consider it to be an asset, it is also definitely a flaw at times.
I consider it to be an asset because I am very caring of other people. I'm helpful, loving, and very attuned to their needs even if they don't speak them.
I consider it to be a flaw because I cry VERY easily. Literally, if I feel just about ANY amount of sadness, the tears flow. I realize that I cry very easily, so when I know I'm crying for a stupid reason I'll say something. :P It's not like I break down and sob and bawl my eyes out, however the tears do flow! I can still have a functioning conversation, just with wet eyes. :P Yeah, I'm a crier!
It's had a negative impact on my marriage because sometimes my husband doesn't understand that I'm not over reacting, I just can't help the tears from falling! My sensitivity also has a negative impact on my marriage because even sometimes when my husband wants to be left alone (he does what you do; isolates) I'll want to try to make him feel better and fix it, which annoys him.
Oh well. I still wouldn't give it up because I like being sensitive to people and caring for others.What personal flaw of yours has the biggest negative impact on your marriage?
Interesting question. I live with my boyfriend and I think that the personal flaw that I have that negatively affects our relationship is my need for a clean apartment. He's sorta messy and I feel like I am always nagging him to pick up. It's started some fights! :(
Great question Happy!
I am sure I have more than one, but the one that popped in my head first was my abuse of alcohol. When I was drinking I would hide it and lie. He would find out and we would fight.
I have since quit drinking and funny thing! We get along so much better!!!!
My other thing is I like to keep things neat and clean so we fight about that sometimes.
But really we hardly ever have words.
We get along pretty darn good.
Ok, that first ';answerer'; sounded a little creepy.
For me, let's see, I have learned over the years to master ';patience';, that was my big one and his would be his ';bossy factor'; but he has ';toned down'; very much over the years with that one as well.
Good question!
Nagging and controlling.
I feel like I nag because he doesn't do things on his own.
I try to control because I don't think he'll do it right.
He made me eggs on the weekend and I just HAD to tell him that he was overcooking them.
Phew...that was a huge confession. I think I need a beer now...
i'm am over sensitive sometimes and i think this irritates him because i take a lot of small things to heart.
i also worry a lot about paying bills etc when i shouldn't i hate falling behind on things.
Other than that i hope i am a good wifey! x
I sometimes listen to what she is saying but failed to hear what was said. I sometimes do not recognize when things that are not important to me, just might be important to my wife. I guess I lack some of heathers sensitivity.
I tend to start things and not finish them. i put up a deck last summer, it's almost finished, but there are a few things that need to be done. we have been using it since last fall, so that was the main thing i guess.
I take things out on my significant. I could be mad at a client, my boss, a girlfriend, the postman, but..my sweetie is the one who gets it both barrels. I need to redirect my feelings.
I sometimes over react which is my personal flaw, otherwise there is no negative impact in my marriage.
I'm bipolar, so I blow everything up. I'm such a *****.
My PMS. During that time I get insecure and that shows in an inwardly turned anger/depression and jealousy
My lack of patience. He is super laid back and I worry about most things. lol. It's not major or anything, but I can be a b*tch once in awhile.
Procrastination. I put things off until she gets afraid and freaks out. Bad juju!
I never know when to just let things go and get over it.
I get controlling.
Im a *****.
aaaahhh...i dont like that y/a changed my work to little stars! my answer was I am a B*TCH.
my ability to never let go.
to pick my battles and let the little things go
OMG! Your prob sounds just like mine! My question: how do I make my stalker- 46 ry old doctor-hubby from TN see, that the perfect girl he stalks does NOT want him? Never has and never will want him? Esp as I sent her emails 2 yrs ago saying ';he loves me. he says i'm the most beautiful woman in the world. Pls stay away';. (this was before I hooked up with hubby. She ran from him. He's been running after her since) How do I make him get the PICUTRE? Link to my question: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?...
I'll start. For me, it's my tendency sometimes to withdraw and isolate myself when my wife gets angry at me rather than addressing her in an assertive and constructive manner.
Your turn!What personal flaw of yours has the biggest negative impact on your marriage?
My sensitivity.
Though I sometimes consider it to be an asset, it is also definitely a flaw at times.
I consider it to be an asset because I am very caring of other people. I'm helpful, loving, and very attuned to their needs even if they don't speak them.
I consider it to be a flaw because I cry VERY easily. Literally, if I feel just about ANY amount of sadness, the tears flow. I realize that I cry very easily, so when I know I'm crying for a stupid reason I'll say something. :P It's not like I break down and sob and bawl my eyes out, however the tears do flow! I can still have a functioning conversation, just with wet eyes. :P Yeah, I'm a crier!
It's had a negative impact on my marriage because sometimes my husband doesn't understand that I'm not over reacting, I just can't help the tears from falling! My sensitivity also has a negative impact on my marriage because even sometimes when my husband wants to be left alone (he does what you do; isolates) I'll want to try to make him feel better and fix it, which annoys him.
Oh well. I still wouldn't give it up because I like being sensitive to people and caring for others.What personal flaw of yours has the biggest negative impact on your marriage?
Interesting question. I live with my boyfriend and I think that the personal flaw that I have that negatively affects our relationship is my need for a clean apartment. He's sorta messy and I feel like I am always nagging him to pick up. It's started some fights! :(
Great question Happy!
I am sure I have more than one, but the one that popped in my head first was my abuse of alcohol. When I was drinking I would hide it and lie. He would find out and we would fight.
I have since quit drinking and funny thing! We get along so much better!!!!
My other thing is I like to keep things neat and clean so we fight about that sometimes.
But really we hardly ever have words.
We get along pretty darn good.
Ok, that first ';answerer'; sounded a little creepy.
For me, let's see, I have learned over the years to master ';patience';, that was my big one and his would be his ';bossy factor'; but he has ';toned down'; very much over the years with that one as well.
Good question!
Nagging and controlling.
I feel like I nag because he doesn't do things on his own.
I try to control because I don't think he'll do it right.
He made me eggs on the weekend and I just HAD to tell him that he was overcooking them.
Phew...that was a huge confession. I think I need a beer now...
i'm am over sensitive sometimes and i think this irritates him because i take a lot of small things to heart.
i also worry a lot about paying bills etc when i shouldn't i hate falling behind on things.
Other than that i hope i am a good wifey! x
I sometimes listen to what she is saying but failed to hear what was said. I sometimes do not recognize when things that are not important to me, just might be important to my wife. I guess I lack some of heathers sensitivity.
I tend to start things and not finish them. i put up a deck last summer, it's almost finished, but there are a few things that need to be done. we have been using it since last fall, so that was the main thing i guess.
I take things out on my significant. I could be mad at a client, my boss, a girlfriend, the postman, but..my sweetie is the one who gets it both barrels. I need to redirect my feelings.
I sometimes over react which is my personal flaw, otherwise there is no negative impact in my marriage.
I'm bipolar, so I blow everything up. I'm such a *****.
My PMS. During that time I get insecure and that shows in an inwardly turned anger/depression and jealousy
My lack of patience. He is super laid back and I worry about most things. lol. It's not major or anything, but I can be a b*tch once in awhile.
Procrastination. I put things off until she gets afraid and freaks out. Bad juju!
I never know when to just let things go and get over it.
I get controlling.
Im a *****.
aaaahhh...i dont like that y/a changed my work to little stars! my answer was I am a B*TCH.
my ability to never let go.
to pick my battles and let the little things go
OMG! Your prob sounds just like mine! My question: how do I make my stalker- 46 ry old doctor-hubby from TN see, that the perfect girl he stalks does NOT want him? Never has and never will want him? Esp as I sent her emails 2 yrs ago saying ';he loves me. he says i'm the most beautiful woman in the world. Pls stay away';. (this was before I hooked up with hubby. She ran from him. He's been running after her since) How do I make him get the PICUTRE? Link to my question: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?...
What will happen if my marriage license arrived after our target wedding date?
Because everything is prepared on my wedding date, the bookings of everything, the flight of my relatives to attend my wedding. but the problem is one of my requirements CENOMAR still didn't arrived causing my filing of marriage license can't arrive on our target date. what will i do? can we proceed our weding without the marriage license and just advise the pastor and principal sponsor to sign it as soon as marriage license arrive? or postpone the wedding date?What will happen if my marriage license arrived after our target wedding date?
Don't postpone the wedding. You will just have to have it signed as soon as it arrives. You won't be ';legally'; married until it is signed, but you will be married in the eyes of the church and your family and friends, which should be enough for a few days until the official documant arrives.What will happen if my marriage license arrived after our target wedding date?
Like Newlywed said, I'd think you can still go through with the ceremony, it just won't be legal in the eyes of the state until the document is signed and filed.
However, I would talk with your officiant just to make sure he'll still perform the ceremony. I've heard stories of officiants being unwilling to perform a ceremony without first seeing that piece of paper. Those may have been rare instances, but I'd still check to make sure. It would be a total bummer to find out the hard way the morning of the wedding.
i hope by license you mean the registration. i guess no problem in that case, as long as it mentions the same date as your wedding when ever it arrives.
Don't postpone the wedding. You will just have to have it signed as soon as it arrives. You won't be ';legally'; married until it is signed, but you will be married in the eyes of the church and your family and friends, which should be enough for a few days until the official documant arrives.What will happen if my marriage license arrived after our target wedding date?
Like Newlywed said, I'd think you can still go through with the ceremony, it just won't be legal in the eyes of the state until the document is signed and filed.
However, I would talk with your officiant just to make sure he'll still perform the ceremony. I've heard stories of officiants being unwilling to perform a ceremony without first seeing that piece of paper. Those may have been rare instances, but I'd still check to make sure. It would be a total bummer to find out the hard way the morning of the wedding.
i hope by license you mean the registration. i guess no problem in that case, as long as it mentions the same date as your wedding when ever it arrives.
How do you deal with a fear of public speaking during a marriage ceremony?
My Fiance does not want to say anything during the ceremony. How can this work?How do you deal with a fear of public speaking during a marriage ceremony?
Tell him to forget all of the other people around you. Pretend like it's just the two of you (plus your officiant) standing there. I could have had a UFO full of aliens at my ceremony and wouldn't have noticed - I just kept looking into my husband's eyes.How do you deal with a fear of public speaking during a marriage ceremony?
Tell him that once you are both up there everyone else is going to disappear and he won't even notice that you are not alone. Believe me, I watched my wedding ceremony video and realized my flower girl was dangerously close to a temper tantrum and my ring bearer did have a mini-tantrum I didn't even realize on the day.
Its not clear if your fiance has real full-on fear - but if he does and is motivated to overcome it then it can be done quickly with modern techniques.
There are plenty of folks online who offer help. Our team CTRN: Change That's Right Now http://www.ChangeThatsRightNow.com/Fear-of-Public-Speaking.asp does a lot of work in this area and we'd be honored to help him if he wants to make the change.
Very best for your wedding - have a wonderful day regardless!
Wait until it comes time to go to lamaze classes. Have you discussed that yet?
Seriously, get married at City Hall and have a reception only.
Tell him to forget all of the other people around you. Pretend like it's just the two of you (plus your officiant) standing there. I could have had a UFO full of aliens at my ceremony and wouldn't have noticed - I just kept looking into my husband's eyes.How do you deal with a fear of public speaking during a marriage ceremony?
Tell him that once you are both up there everyone else is going to disappear and he won't even notice that you are not alone. Believe me, I watched my wedding ceremony video and realized my flower girl was dangerously close to a temper tantrum and my ring bearer did have a mini-tantrum I didn't even realize on the day.
Its not clear if your fiance has real full-on fear - but if he does and is motivated to overcome it then it can be done quickly with modern techniques.
There are plenty of folks online who offer help. Our team CTRN: Change That's Right Now http://www.ChangeThatsRightNow.com/Fear-of-Public-Speaking.asp does a lot of work in this area and we'd be honored to help him if he wants to make the change.
Very best for your wedding - have a wonderful day regardless!
Wait until it comes time to go to lamaze classes. Have you discussed that yet?
Seriously, get married at City Hall and have a reception only.
Is it necessary to match the blood groups of the partners before marriage?
I am talking about the 'Rh' factor. Can there be any kind of incompatibility/problem if the blood groups do not match.
Please tell with relevant links.Is it necessary to match the blood groups of the partners before marriage?
Compatibility of blood groups only becomes relevant when the couple is planning to have children.
In that case, the risks for the baby can be determined by testing Rh factor of both parents - a Rh negative mother and Rh positive father may result in a Rh positive fetus and the mother's body would respond adversely to this fetus.
Although it is not as common, a similar problem of incompatibility may happen between the blood types (A, B, O, AB) of the mother and baby in the following situations:
Mother's Blood Type O A B
Baby's Blood Type A or B B A
Please take a look at the source page at http://www.healthsystem.virginia.edu/uva鈥?/a>
for detailed information on the effect of parent blood groups on the offspring.
Premarital blood testing can also include testing both individuals for sexually transmitted diseases such as syphilis, HIV and AIDS.
Further, in a family group marriage, it may be prudent to test for recessive gene diseases or inherited diseases, especially those known to be prevalent in the particular family/community. Simple tests are available for many such diseases, example: thalassemia.Is it necessary to match the blood groups of the partners before marriage?
No. Blood types (ABO or Rh group) have no impact on a couple's ability to have children.
The only potential problem is if the woman is Rh- and becomes pregnant with an Rh+ child; but this is easily remedied, so the ';problem'; never really arises.
it is better than matching horoscope
Rh factor complicates conception
no. not necessary
Please tell with relevant links.Is it necessary to match the blood groups of the partners before marriage?
Compatibility of blood groups only becomes relevant when the couple is planning to have children.
In that case, the risks for the baby can be determined by testing Rh factor of both parents - a Rh negative mother and Rh positive father may result in a Rh positive fetus and the mother's body would respond adversely to this fetus.
Although it is not as common, a similar problem of incompatibility may happen between the blood types (A, B, O, AB) of the mother and baby in the following situations:
Mother's Blood Type O A B
Baby's Blood Type A or B B A
Please take a look at the source page at http://www.healthsystem.virginia.edu/uva鈥?/a>
for detailed information on the effect of parent blood groups on the offspring.
Premarital blood testing can also include testing both individuals for sexually transmitted diseases such as syphilis, HIV and AIDS.
Further, in a family group marriage, it may be prudent to test for recessive gene diseases or inherited diseases, especially those known to be prevalent in the particular family/community. Simple tests are available for many such diseases, example: thalassemia.Is it necessary to match the blood groups of the partners before marriage?
No. Blood types (ABO or Rh group) have no impact on a couple's ability to have children.
The only potential problem is if the woman is Rh- and becomes pregnant with an Rh+ child; but this is easily remedied, so the ';problem'; never really arises.
it is better than matching horoscope
Rh factor complicates conception
no. not necessary
What is the diffrence between a civil union and a common law marriage?
What is the legal difference?What is the diffrence between a civil union and a common law marriage?
there is no common law any more.
you can live together for 20 years and still only be girlfriend and boyfriend. nothing legal!!!!!!!
a civil union is a legal contract.
there is no common law any more.
you can live together for 20 years and still only be girlfriend and boyfriend. nothing legal!!!!!!!
a civil union is a legal contract.
How can I tell hubby that I want us to see a marriage counselor?
I have made the decision that this is the only way that things are going to get better between us. But, I'm afraid he'll shoot down the idea and get defensive. Truth is, I don't know what else to do.How can I tell hubby that I want us to see a marriage counselor?
While I will agree with everyone else by saying honesty is the best policy. You have to do it the right way. You have to frame the request based on YOUR feelings. You may want to start seeing a counselor on your own and then ask your husband to join you.How can I tell hubby that I want us to see a marriage counselor?
Just tell him. My wife tells me this all of the time. We actually went to a marriage counselor for about a year once.
The ';just tell him'; answers are right. Make sure, though, to not tell him in anger, such as during an arguement.
If you truly believe he will shoot down the idea, and get defensive, then....................................鈥?br>
How about suggesting the idea to him. Telling him is sort of demanding. However if you suggest it as a thought, and ask him his opinion what he thinks about it and would like his input (without you mentioning that is what you would like to do), you have planted the seed. He therefore will not be put on the defensive. In fact you can mention that you really do not want an answer untill he ponders and gives it some real thought.
After several days, (give it a week) ask him if he did think about it and would like to know if he came to a decision. If his response is negative, then after a couple of days I suggest the following.
Say, something on this order. I am just giving you some ideas. But you know him best so you can really choose how you would like to broach the fact that you would like to go on your own.
1. Hon, I love you very much and would like to make our life better. Would you mind if I went for counceling, on my own?
2. Hon, I would like to go for counceling on my own, so that I can get a better perspective on how to make our life better.
I will explain to you why I feel that if you go your relationship might benefit from it, rather than neither of you going.
If you go, you will have a professional to explain all the details of your relationship. You will be venting your feelings, which is so desprately needed. Rather than speaking to a close friend, or a family member If you are doing that? You will gain insight into yourself, and your husband behavior and how you interact with eachother.
This will help you deal with the little things that are bothering you,or him It is the little things that usually build up slowly, as they seem silly. But as I said they do build up, and you don't know after a while which came first the horse or the cart. It is like a snowball which grow bigger, and bigger.
Now either one or two things will happen. You will learn to understand yourself, and your husband thereby improving your relationship. And/or your husband will see how it is helping, and he might start to go with you.
I say this because that is exactly what happened to me, and in the beginning I went myself, it helped me understand myself and my husband, it also helped me cope. After about 5 months, my husband started go too. We had sessions separatly, and sessions together. The therapist was the one to decide.
There is one major element here. You have to do your homework before you decide which therapist you do choose. He or she should be at least in thier late 40's or even older. As they have experienced life much more.
I would preferably choose a male, over a female. So that if your husband does decide to go later on, he will have more respect from a male, and will feel more secure being that he is getting advice from a males point of view.
Again do your homework, and also use your sixth sense to know if they are out for the money only, or they really are sincere about their job, and helping you..
I wish you the best of luck in improving your relationship.
easy.
tell him straight out without looking for excuses and making annoying noises with ur mouth so he cant hear ';honey we need help!';
if u dont make it clear and to the point he wont understand how important and how it will help the marriage.. and he would want to do something about b/c he loves u.
let him have it... straight to the point.
Just be honest with him and ask him to just try it. Let him know that you are trying to save your marriage and ask him to just try a couple of sessions. Tell him not to give up on your marriage so easily. If he still rejects it then ask him what options he has in mind. Let him know that ignoring your guys marital problems will not make them go away. Good luck.eczema cream
While I will agree with everyone else by saying honesty is the best policy. You have to do it the right way. You have to frame the request based on YOUR feelings. You may want to start seeing a counselor on your own and then ask your husband to join you.How can I tell hubby that I want us to see a marriage counselor?
Just tell him. My wife tells me this all of the time. We actually went to a marriage counselor for about a year once.
The ';just tell him'; answers are right. Make sure, though, to not tell him in anger, such as during an arguement.
If you truly believe he will shoot down the idea, and get defensive, then....................................鈥?br>
How about suggesting the idea to him. Telling him is sort of demanding. However if you suggest it as a thought, and ask him his opinion what he thinks about it and would like his input (without you mentioning that is what you would like to do), you have planted the seed. He therefore will not be put on the defensive. In fact you can mention that you really do not want an answer untill he ponders and gives it some real thought.
After several days, (give it a week) ask him if he did think about it and would like to know if he came to a decision. If his response is negative, then after a couple of days I suggest the following.
Say, something on this order. I am just giving you some ideas. But you know him best so you can really choose how you would like to broach the fact that you would like to go on your own.
1. Hon, I love you very much and would like to make our life better. Would you mind if I went for counceling, on my own?
2. Hon, I would like to go for counceling on my own, so that I can get a better perspective on how to make our life better.
I will explain to you why I feel that if you go your relationship might benefit from it, rather than neither of you going.
If you go, you will have a professional to explain all the details of your relationship. You will be venting your feelings, which is so desprately needed. Rather than speaking to a close friend, or a family member If you are doing that? You will gain insight into yourself, and your husband behavior and how you interact with eachother.
This will help you deal with the little things that are bothering you,or him It is the little things that usually build up slowly, as they seem silly. But as I said they do build up, and you don't know after a while which came first the horse or the cart. It is like a snowball which grow bigger, and bigger.
Now either one or two things will happen. You will learn to understand yourself, and your husband thereby improving your relationship. And/or your husband will see how it is helping, and he might start to go with you.
I say this because that is exactly what happened to me, and in the beginning I went myself, it helped me understand myself and my husband, it also helped me cope. After about 5 months, my husband started go too. We had sessions separatly, and sessions together. The therapist was the one to decide.
There is one major element here. You have to do your homework before you decide which therapist you do choose. He or she should be at least in thier late 40's or even older. As they have experienced life much more.
I would preferably choose a male, over a female. So that if your husband does decide to go later on, he will have more respect from a male, and will feel more secure being that he is getting advice from a males point of view.
Again do your homework, and also use your sixth sense to know if they are out for the money only, or they really are sincere about their job, and helping you..
I wish you the best of luck in improving your relationship.
easy.
tell him straight out without looking for excuses and making annoying noises with ur mouth so he cant hear ';honey we need help!';
if u dont make it clear and to the point he wont understand how important and how it will help the marriage.. and he would want to do something about b/c he loves u.
let him have it... straight to the point.
Just be honest with him and ask him to just try it. Let him know that you are trying to save your marriage and ask him to just try a couple of sessions. Tell him not to give up on your marriage so easily. If he still rejects it then ask him what options he has in mind. Let him know that ignoring your guys marital problems will not make them go away. Good luck.
What do you think of a divorced person who is against gay marriage?
Is this hypocritical, that they should be free to wed and divorce at will, but think gay people shouldn't ever be allowed to marry?
I am interested in the ethics of this position. I know of someone here who thinks exactly this, I can't get my head around it.
I think the basis for their not allowing of rights to gay couples comes from the inability to produce children and the immorality of gay relationships.
This person is a Lawyer and a woman.What do you think of a divorced person who is against gay marriage?
I personally think it is hypocritical because one of the arguments against gay marriage is that it adversely impacts the sanctity of marriage. Straight people have already managed to do that through the high divorce rate.
It seems that humans don't bother to develop the skills necessary to meet the needs of others and therefore can't sustain a good relationship for a long period of time, so the idea of permanent marriage is slightly stupid.
There are people who don't realize that society picks different targets for discrimination. The targets may include gays, women, immigrants, single parent families, blacks, homeless, Jews etc. A person can be a member of one group and somehow get some thrill out of hating a member of another group.
Likewise, a person can feel that gay marriage tramples on the sanctity of marriage and that she should be allowed to do it, but gay people should be prevented.
Gay relationships have nothing to do with morality. Attachment is a function of nature and scientists have shown that gay relationships are a normal part of nature. It is only the human mind, which substitutes beliefs for good scientific truths that label something that is different and that they are afraid of as ';immoral.';
I feel very certain that gay marriage will be legalized as it makes scientific sense and the court system of which your lawyer is a part, always weighs scientific evidence and never considers belief systems. What do you think of a divorced person who is against gay marriage?
i am not gay and will never be and not with the whole gay thing but i dont think people should hate people because of teir orientation no matter how wrong and disgusting it s i dont hate gay people
The key word is marriage. I think that the word you are looking for is union. A marriage is a legal commitment between a man and a woman. Why is it so important for gays to have this changed? If they can have similar legal status with finance and property, and power of attorney, why do they need this statement? ( Marriage?)
I don`t think that your beliefs regarding divorce influence your views regarding gay marriage. Some people are the way they are no matter what.
Married or divorced, a homophobe is a homophobe!
She can't make a str8 marriage work, so she wants to keep her trap shut on the subject instead of getting opinionated
Well, they're a homophobic divorcee...what else can be said... It's their misery...let them live it...
I am interested in the ethics of this position. I know of someone here who thinks exactly this, I can't get my head around it.
I think the basis for their not allowing of rights to gay couples comes from the inability to produce children and the immorality of gay relationships.
This person is a Lawyer and a woman.What do you think of a divorced person who is against gay marriage?
I personally think it is hypocritical because one of the arguments against gay marriage is that it adversely impacts the sanctity of marriage. Straight people have already managed to do that through the high divorce rate.
It seems that humans don't bother to develop the skills necessary to meet the needs of others and therefore can't sustain a good relationship for a long period of time, so the idea of permanent marriage is slightly stupid.
There are people who don't realize that society picks different targets for discrimination. The targets may include gays, women, immigrants, single parent families, blacks, homeless, Jews etc. A person can be a member of one group and somehow get some thrill out of hating a member of another group.
Likewise, a person can feel that gay marriage tramples on the sanctity of marriage and that she should be allowed to do it, but gay people should be prevented.
Gay relationships have nothing to do with morality. Attachment is a function of nature and scientists have shown that gay relationships are a normal part of nature. It is only the human mind, which substitutes beliefs for good scientific truths that label something that is different and that they are afraid of as ';immoral.';
I feel very certain that gay marriage will be legalized as it makes scientific sense and the court system of which your lawyer is a part, always weighs scientific evidence and never considers belief systems. What do you think of a divorced person who is against gay marriage?
i am not gay and will never be and not with the whole gay thing but i dont think people should hate people because of teir orientation no matter how wrong and disgusting it s i dont hate gay people
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The key word is marriage. I think that the word you are looking for is union. A marriage is a legal commitment between a man and a woman. Why is it so important for gays to have this changed? If they can have similar legal status with finance and property, and power of attorney, why do they need this statement? ( Marriage?)
I don`t think that your beliefs regarding divorce influence your views regarding gay marriage. Some people are the way they are no matter what.
Married or divorced, a homophobe is a homophobe!
She can't make a str8 marriage work, so she wants to keep her trap shut on the subject instead of getting opinionated
Well, they're a homophobic divorcee...what else can be said... It's their misery...let them live it...
How do you feel about marriage counseling?
Do you think it benfits your marriage? Some people don't think it works and others say it saves their marriages sometimes. What do you think?How do you feel about marriage counseling?
I think it helps because for one you are actually going so it shows that both of you want to work things out. Second, while in counseling you are told to say how you feel without being afraid of the other getting upset.
You can avoid counseling by just doing the latter in your everyday life.How do you feel about marriage counseling?
For a marriage in crisis, one of the most important thing that needs to be done is to get some perspective on what is happening. This is one area that marriage counseling will be helpful because it will help you to look at things and situations from other perspective.
From where you are standing things may look pretty clear. However, once you are able to see from another angle, things that you couldn鈥檛 understand before may make a lot of sense. Getting perspectives from other angles and vantage points will really be helpful in helping you fully understand what is happening so that you can then save the marriage in crisis.
Once you have been able to get some perspective on the crisis at hand and are getting counseling, you will have a lot of information and ideas to go off of. Those will help repair the damage that is done IF you are able to act on it. Knowing is half the battle but no battle half fought was ever won.
Therefore, I personally feel that marriage counseling is good and beneficial - provided the couple ACT on what needs to be done.
Some marriage counselors are better than others. My husband and I went to counseling and I got mad and stopped going. The counselor wanted to blame everything on me. I have known different couples who went to counseling and they are now divorced. I don't think that the counseling ever does work but it sometimes depends on how good the counselor is.
in Islam, there is an answer for everything:
4:35:
An-Nisa
And if ye fear a breach between them twain (the man and wife), appoint an arbiter from his folk and an arbiter from her folk. If they desire amendment Allah will make them of one mind. Lo! Allah is ever Knower, Aware. (35)
2 wise peoples act as best wishers trying to dissolve the disputes
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feel free to mail me your questions
i think it wouldn't hurt to try! depending on ur spouse. i went to the emergency room a while back and my boyfriend for 2 years of course went with me.and we had a random counselor come into the room and started talking to us ..my boyfriend and i were kinda having trouble for a while and we brought it up to him after that little time talking with this counselor about our relationship things got better we both knew how each other felt and what we needed to work on... just try it have an open mind! good luck!
I think it takes both of the people involved to want to change and work on things. Im all for it but hope any future marriage of mine never needs that.
accepting jesus, by holding hands as a couple and asking after wards for God to help you with your problems and salvage your marriage is better way to resolve issues.
I think premarital counseling ought to be mandatory.
i thought it was a joke.
I think it helps because for one you are actually going so it shows that both of you want to work things out. Second, while in counseling you are told to say how you feel without being afraid of the other getting upset.
You can avoid counseling by just doing the latter in your everyday life.How do you feel about marriage counseling?
For a marriage in crisis, one of the most important thing that needs to be done is to get some perspective on what is happening. This is one area that marriage counseling will be helpful because it will help you to look at things and situations from other perspective.
From where you are standing things may look pretty clear. However, once you are able to see from another angle, things that you couldn鈥檛 understand before may make a lot of sense. Getting perspectives from other angles and vantage points will really be helpful in helping you fully understand what is happening so that you can then save the marriage in crisis.
Once you have been able to get some perspective on the crisis at hand and are getting counseling, you will have a lot of information and ideas to go off of. Those will help repair the damage that is done IF you are able to act on it. Knowing is half the battle but no battle half fought was ever won.
Therefore, I personally feel that marriage counseling is good and beneficial - provided the couple ACT on what needs to be done.
Some marriage counselors are better than others. My husband and I went to counseling and I got mad and stopped going. The counselor wanted to blame everything on me. I have known different couples who went to counseling and they are now divorced. I don't think that the counseling ever does work but it sometimes depends on how good the counselor is.
in Islam, there is an answer for everything:
4:35:
An-Nisa
And if ye fear a breach between them twain (the man and wife), appoint an arbiter from his folk and an arbiter from her folk. If they desire amendment Allah will make them of one mind. Lo! Allah is ever Knower, Aware. (35)
2 wise peoples act as best wishers trying to dissolve the disputes
ya_shami@yahoo.ca
feel free to mail me your questions
i think it wouldn't hurt to try! depending on ur spouse. i went to the emergency room a while back and my boyfriend for 2 years of course went with me.and we had a random counselor come into the room and started talking to us ..my boyfriend and i were kinda having trouble for a while and we brought it up to him after that little time talking with this counselor about our relationship things got better we both knew how each other felt and what we needed to work on... just try it have an open mind! good luck!
I think it takes both of the people involved to want to change and work on things. Im all for it but hope any future marriage of mine never needs that.
accepting jesus, by holding hands as a couple and asking after wards for God to help you with your problems and salvage your marriage is better way to resolve issues.
I think premarital counseling ought to be mandatory.
i thought it was a joke.
How do i trust that my cheating husband wants to make our marriage work?
Found out 6 wks ago that he was exchanging love emails with a woman we both know; he swears its all over and he wants only me in his life; but i feel so insecure. How do i learn to trust him again?How do i trust that my cheating husband wants to make our marriage work?
As long as you stay with him you will always feel insecure and you will never trust him. He will continue to cheat on you. Don't live in misery due to his infidelity.How do i trust that my cheating husband wants to make our marriage work?
I'm struggling with this myself. I have a ';date'; with my husband today to talk about what his conditions are for coming home. I feel like i want to lay down the law about what he can and cannot do, but at the same time I don't want to scare him off by being too demanding.
I think the most important thing is that if you are to forgive him you have to forgive him. Don't constantly bring it up, don't constantly remind him of what he has done. I know this is hard to do but if you want to make your marriage work it is a must. Forgive him, put it behind you, but keep your eyes open for future indiscretions.
Let me tell you from very recent experience like a week old. My husband confessed just last week he cheated on me 4 years ago and then 4 times just in this last year. It is something you are going to have to work through yourself without any outside influences. Ask yourself if you still Love him and if you want it to work. Then and only then can you begin to heal and think about trusting him again. You have to find the strength from inside of yourself. I feel your pain trust me I do because it is all so fresh for me. I chose to talk with my husband (and sometimes fight) every night and find out what is missing in our relationship and see if it can be mended. Trust me it isn't easy listening to what he has to say sometimes it hurts, but stay strong. But don't listen to these people telling you to pack his bags. Follow your heart and it will not fail you. Good Luck to you now and in your future your will be in my thoughts.
Knowing what you are going thru and my experience it is so hard, my husband cheated on me a yr. ago. I still have my moments to where i am wondering stuff. I don't know how long it is going to take i may never be able to 100% trust, but i do love him enough to work at it. The main thought that runs through my head is, is he just settling with me because the other women broke it off with him (although i was right there when he did it) or does he really want me. Why i am telling you this is because your mind wll play tricks on you and make you think and feel alot of things, but you will know in your heart if he is really loving you and wanting you. Your heart and mind don't want to work together in these situations. Be patient..
sometimes people do things without really thinking of the consequences, your husband might have done what he did without thinking,or because he was lacking something he wanted.
all in all if you love him you have to forgive him and move on ,the fact that he is willing to make the marriage work means he loves you too.
find in your heart to forgive him and forget. if you think you cant trust him again, then you have no marriage to work on.
no trust, nothing is.
goodluck.
It takes lots of time, and 6 weeks is not nearly enough.
He needs to be sincere and only you can determine if you think his intentions for you are genuine.
Look at your history too of before the email exchange, and make sure he has no contact with this other women.
It may never work out for you too again, so be ready for that as well.
i want to commend you for wanting to try to mend this. I was not so willing to live thru that. My mother was however. My dad had to put up with her tantrums, her insecurities and finally her acceptance. It is NOT easy to get past this and he has to be willing to do what ever it takes to make you feel safe again. My mother had 5 kids to raise and knew she couldnt do it alone and, she loved him very much-- even 50 years later she still gets butterfly's when he comes around. It really is about being safe in his arms again. it is a violation and the interloper has to be history! My mom has not forgotten but has forgiven.
How many lines in the sand do you plan on drawing?
You take him back, he will know he can do whatever he wants, providing you don't find out about it- and heck, even if you do, you'll still keep his cheating azz...
And to the person above me, you plan on giving your husband ';conditions';? Are you kidding? The vows you took WERE CONDITIONS! ';Conditions'; is obviously not something your husband takes very seriously...
If you love him you have the choice of
1. Being immature, and divorcing him... As 95% of this messed up world says to do.
2, Or prove that you love him. Stick to your marriage vows, for better or worse. And make him earn your trust. You both need so seek counseling either way.
It just takes time and alot of dedication on your part. You'll have the nightmares and the worries for quite a while. You WILL come to a point that you KNOW that he is being completely true to you. I can't say when, but you'll just know it. I've been there. Good luck!
You have to figure out what is best for you, what makes you happiest.
And go by that. I don't know your situation but i would advice you to give him another chance if there is mutual love.
When there is love there is no guilt only compromise 鈾?
Peace
Here is my question:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
it will take a long time and hard work on his part to gain your trust back,
and your insecurity wont go away overnight you will both have to be honest with each other about what you want and your feelings
good luck
wow that's hard. trust is broken so easy and it takes A LOT of work to get at least a lil bit back. i guess you could start by having him go see a counselor.
It's going to take a long time. I still don't trust mine and it's been 2 1/2 years. He has done thing to make me trust him. Your hubby needs to earn it back.
Sometimes you just can't. If you don't have trust in a relationship then you don't have anything.
I can't imagine he just shut off his feelings for this other woman. Humans do not work like this. I would be leary.
I wouldn't trust him, he's already proven himself to be a jerk. He'll do it again in the future. Leave leave leave.
You don't have to do anything...trust is earned. The ball is in his court.
Make him earn it back. And make it clear that if he doesnt respect you again that youre leaving. You have to
He has to earn your trust
He has to do all the work. Not you.
As long as you stay with him you will always feel insecure and you will never trust him. He will continue to cheat on you. Don't live in misery due to his infidelity.How do i trust that my cheating husband wants to make our marriage work?
I'm struggling with this myself. I have a ';date'; with my husband today to talk about what his conditions are for coming home. I feel like i want to lay down the law about what he can and cannot do, but at the same time I don't want to scare him off by being too demanding.
I think the most important thing is that if you are to forgive him you have to forgive him. Don't constantly bring it up, don't constantly remind him of what he has done. I know this is hard to do but if you want to make your marriage work it is a must. Forgive him, put it behind you, but keep your eyes open for future indiscretions.
Let me tell you from very recent experience like a week old. My husband confessed just last week he cheated on me 4 years ago and then 4 times just in this last year. It is something you are going to have to work through yourself without any outside influences. Ask yourself if you still Love him and if you want it to work. Then and only then can you begin to heal and think about trusting him again. You have to find the strength from inside of yourself. I feel your pain trust me I do because it is all so fresh for me. I chose to talk with my husband (and sometimes fight) every night and find out what is missing in our relationship and see if it can be mended. Trust me it isn't easy listening to what he has to say sometimes it hurts, but stay strong. But don't listen to these people telling you to pack his bags. Follow your heart and it will not fail you. Good Luck to you now and in your future your will be in my thoughts.
Knowing what you are going thru and my experience it is so hard, my husband cheated on me a yr. ago. I still have my moments to where i am wondering stuff. I don't know how long it is going to take i may never be able to 100% trust, but i do love him enough to work at it. The main thought that runs through my head is, is he just settling with me because the other women broke it off with him (although i was right there when he did it) or does he really want me. Why i am telling you this is because your mind wll play tricks on you and make you think and feel alot of things, but you will know in your heart if he is really loving you and wanting you. Your heart and mind don't want to work together in these situations. Be patient..
sometimes people do things without really thinking of the consequences, your husband might have done what he did without thinking,or because he was lacking something he wanted.
all in all if you love him you have to forgive him and move on ,the fact that he is willing to make the marriage work means he loves you too.
find in your heart to forgive him and forget. if you think you cant trust him again, then you have no marriage to work on.
no trust, nothing is.
goodluck.
It takes lots of time, and 6 weeks is not nearly enough.
He needs to be sincere and only you can determine if you think his intentions for you are genuine.
Look at your history too of before the email exchange, and make sure he has no contact with this other women.
It may never work out for you too again, so be ready for that as well.
i want to commend you for wanting to try to mend this. I was not so willing to live thru that. My mother was however. My dad had to put up with her tantrums, her insecurities and finally her acceptance. It is NOT easy to get past this and he has to be willing to do what ever it takes to make you feel safe again. My mother had 5 kids to raise and knew she couldnt do it alone and, she loved him very much-- even 50 years later she still gets butterfly's when he comes around. It really is about being safe in his arms again. it is a violation and the interloper has to be history! My mom has not forgotten but has forgiven.
How many lines in the sand do you plan on drawing?
You take him back, he will know he can do whatever he wants, providing you don't find out about it- and heck, even if you do, you'll still keep his cheating azz...
And to the person above me, you plan on giving your husband ';conditions';? Are you kidding? The vows you took WERE CONDITIONS! ';Conditions'; is obviously not something your husband takes very seriously...
If you love him you have the choice of
1. Being immature, and divorcing him... As 95% of this messed up world says to do.
2, Or prove that you love him. Stick to your marriage vows, for better or worse. And make him earn your trust. You both need so seek counseling either way.
It just takes time and alot of dedication on your part. You'll have the nightmares and the worries for quite a while. You WILL come to a point that you KNOW that he is being completely true to you. I can't say when, but you'll just know it. I've been there. Good luck!
You have to figure out what is best for you, what makes you happiest.
And go by that. I don't know your situation but i would advice you to give him another chance if there is mutual love.
When there is love there is no guilt only compromise 鈾?
Peace
Here is my question:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
it will take a long time and hard work on his part to gain your trust back,
and your insecurity wont go away overnight you will both have to be honest with each other about what you want and your feelings
good luck
wow that's hard. trust is broken so easy and it takes A LOT of work to get at least a lil bit back. i guess you could start by having him go see a counselor.
It's going to take a long time. I still don't trust mine and it's been 2 1/2 years. He has done thing to make me trust him. Your hubby needs to earn it back.
Sometimes you just can't. If you don't have trust in a relationship then you don't have anything.
I can't imagine he just shut off his feelings for this other woman. Humans do not work like this. I would be leary.
I wouldn't trust him, he's already proven himself to be a jerk. He'll do it again in the future. Leave leave leave.
You don't have to do anything...trust is earned. The ball is in his court.
Make him earn it back. And make it clear that if he doesnt respect you again that youre leaving. You have to
He has to earn your trust
He has to do all the work. Not you.
How old can you be to retire from being a family and marriage therapist?
I also want to know the salary after five years and ten years of experience? What kinds of opportunities do employees have for advancement in their career?How old can you be to retire from being a family and marriage therapist?
Depends where you are located - wages differ in different areas. City expenses are higher as are wages. Unless you are a public employee who gets automatic wage increases dependent on length of service, you are not guaranteed income by being self employed. And you can retire whenever you have saved and invested enough money to support your retirement. But that is not a sure thing either - look at how much has been lost in the stock market these days. People were depending on those investments to fund their retirement and it is now 50% of what it was.
Depends where you are located - wages differ in different areas. City expenses are higher as are wages. Unless you are a public employee who gets automatic wage increases dependent on length of service, you are not guaranteed income by being self employed. And you can retire whenever you have saved and invested enough money to support your retirement. But that is not a sure thing either - look at how much has been lost in the stock market these days. People were depending on those investments to fund their retirement and it is now 50% of what it was.
How do you order multiple marriage certificates?
My husband and I were married in April in Montgomery, Alabama. I am in need of several more certificates and am a little unsure of how to obtain these. Do I call the court in Montgomery? Do I need to order them? Is there a cost?
Thank you for your help.How do you order multiple marriage certificates?
Yes call the Clerk of the court there.All courts have different fees on copies of marriage certificates.So be sure to ask them for how much and who to make the check or money order out to.
Thank you for your help.How do you order multiple marriage certificates?
Yes call the Clerk of the court there.All courts have different fees on copies of marriage certificates.So be sure to ask them for how much and who to make the check or money order out to.
Where can I find free marriage or divorce records?
I have tried searching for hours on google and yahoo but I simply can't find a free website. All I want to know is the first and last name of the person my mother married a long time ago. Like in the 1990's but all the websites require me to spend over 40.00 which may or may not be the correct person.
Can anyone help?Where can I find free marriage or divorce records?
You can't get that information for free.Where can I find free marriage or divorce records?
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Can anyone help?Where can I find free marriage or divorce records?
You can't get that information for free.Where can I find free marriage or divorce records?
Depending what state you're looking, the information may be available online. You'll need to know the state and county your mom was married and start with the office that records vital records. That office will either have a search-able database or have information how you can request that record for a small fee.
How do you get a marriage recognized by the Catholic church?
I am Episcopalian and my fiancee is Catholic. If we were to get married in the Episcopalian church, how hard would it be for us to get our marriage recognized by the Catholic church?
What steps would we have to go through? Would we need a priest there? Does he have to actually perform the ceremony? Do we still need to do the marriage counseling through the Catholic church?
What do you think very strict Catholics (his grandparents) would think about us getting married in an Episcopalian church? Is there any animosity between the two churches? How do you get a marriage recognized by the Catholic church?
To get married in the catholic church you need to meet with your priest, do the FOCUS, do marriage prep with priest, and do the Engaged encounter. The Priest will have to be there and it will have to be in the Catholic Church if your boyfriend wants to be able to still receive the Eucharist. If you are willing to do all of this for your boyfriend I'm sure his parents wont mind. You also have to be open to children in your marriage. You should only practice NFP to space children. You also have to be willing to let your husband raise your kids Catholic.
And for everyone who is saying you need money, this is a lie. We were broke and had no money and the church did the wedding for free.How do you get a marriage recognized by the Catholic church?
You need to talk to a priest about it.
Your fiance would need to get a dispensation from the Bishop in order to marry outside the Church. If he does not do this, the marriage is invalid and cannot be recognized by the Church.
';Such a dispensation MUST be obtained in advance. A Catholic who gets married in a non-Catholic ceremony without a dispensation from canonical form is not validly married under canon law.';
';How does one obtain this dispensation from canonical form? The process is initiated by the pastor of the Catholic party. He forwards a description of the situation to the bishop for review, and the bishop then informs him whether the dispensation is granted or not.';
http://catholicexchange.com/2007/08/23/8鈥?/a>
Mark D: I think you are talking about people married outside the Church but want to come back into communion with the Catholic Church, or were married in a civil ceremony who want to have their marriage blessed. That it a different situation than the one being presented. This is a Catholic who is considering marrying outside the Catholic Church. If he wants to be able to continue to receive the Eucharist and be in communion with the Catholic Church he must obtain a dispensation to marry outside the Church. If he doesn't do this, the marriage is not valid under canon law and he should not receive Eucharist.
Talk to your priests. If you have no impediments to marriage, it should not be difficult. The Church will probably consider it valid if it is a first marriage for both of you. Important, talk to both priests first. I know Catholic weddings require extensive counseling before the ceremony can be done.
You can get your marriage blessed by the church. And thing is, unless you are told the difference, most people can not tell the difference between an Episcopalian and the Catholic Mass. Although the differences are very large theologically..... Usually there isn't any animosity between the two churches now days......
You would have to Go to A catholic RIC, or precanier....it is a difference of the Sacraments that you have ...But I believe you do consider marriage a sacrament??
No idea about Episcopalians but the RCC recognises marriages made in other churches. You cannot, for instance, re-marry in the RCC when you've been married in another church.
If you want to marry a Catholic, you would have take lessons before you can marry in a Catholic Church.
All legal first marriages are recognized by the Catholic church - they may not be sacramental marriages (literally meaning that you got married in the Catholic church), but they are recognized and respected. You are as married as my wife and I, who are lifelong Catholics who married in the Sacrament. Divorce does present an impediment - you'd need to be granted an annulment first, even if it were a purely civil ceremony the first time.
If you want it to be a Sacramental marriage, you would need a priest or deacon to at least co-preside. My cousin and his wife married in her Methodist church, with his priest and her pastor co-presiding (there were some funny moments - they shared the homily and the pastor kept shouting ';Hallelujahs'; while the priest was speaking).
I'm glad you love your grandparents, but it isn't their wedding. It's yours. It is up to you how you decide to begin and live in your marriage. Consider this - should they expect you to accept the Catholic wedding vows if you don't intend on fulfilling them - such as raising the children Catholic?
If you believe in what the Sacrament calls you to, perhaps consider marrying in the Catholic Church. If not, then don't - I would much rather you marry wherever you feel comfortable than take vows you do not wish to fulfill.
To my knowledge, Catholics and Episcopalians in the US get along just fine. There aren't very many Episcopalians, and their theology, while nominally Calvinist, has not prevented them from enjoying the ecumenism of what our two traditions of the One Faith have in common.
Enjoy being engaged - don't stress too much about the wedding.
In order for your marriage to be recognized, you will have to make an appointment with your fiancee's pastor. You'll need to present your marriage certificate and legal documentation, your certificates of Baptism, and your fiancee's certificate of confirmation. The pastor will take and copy this paperwork and have it processed with the Diocese.
As long as everything is in order and there are no specific regulations within the Diocese, the priest will have you come in and ask some questions. After this, if he is able, he will bless and confirm the marriage in the Catholic Tradition, and will provide you with documentation in that regards.
EDIT:
Misty:
I am speaking specifically about the situation this person has stated as I understood the query: A Marriage outside of the Catholic Church and after the marriage, the party seeking convalidation through the Church. Specifically, I'm speaking of Canon 1156-1160, the convalidation of a marriage outside the Church. Furthermore I refer to FAMILIARIS CONSORTIO, section IV, #78, by John Paul II. Here he clarifies the need for immediate Pastoral care and guidance to these cases and illustrates the understanding and validity of the sacrament as it is in between two baptized Christians. Were this a person seeking permission to be married outside the church you would have a valid point, but as far as I understand it this is seeking convalidation after the fact.
the archaic denial of sacraments to a person in a mixed marriage was done away with years ago by these very documents. My explanation to our friend here is to facilitate the easiest and healthiest manner to inquire and hopefully procure convalidation through the Church in a way that is both in positive recognition of the Marriage ceremony which had previously occurred and in the best tradition of our faith for the sake of the immortal souls of all involved.
they accept cash, even to free you of your sins.
I was catholic, and i wanted to marry a methodist. My church was going to make us go to classes for 8 weeks, to teach him to be 'catholic' and he had to promise to raise the children catholic. After all that they did not really recognize the marriage until the time for divorce came.... then they of course said i was a sinner for divorcing even though they never recognized the marriage to begin with...
GIVE EM MONEY
A large gift to the pope will help.
under $100,000 need not apply.
What steps would we have to go through? Would we need a priest there? Does he have to actually perform the ceremony? Do we still need to do the marriage counseling through the Catholic church?
What do you think very strict Catholics (his grandparents) would think about us getting married in an Episcopalian church? Is there any animosity between the two churches? How do you get a marriage recognized by the Catholic church?
To get married in the catholic church you need to meet with your priest, do the FOCUS, do marriage prep with priest, and do the Engaged encounter. The Priest will have to be there and it will have to be in the Catholic Church if your boyfriend wants to be able to still receive the Eucharist. If you are willing to do all of this for your boyfriend I'm sure his parents wont mind. You also have to be open to children in your marriage. You should only practice NFP to space children. You also have to be willing to let your husband raise your kids Catholic.
And for everyone who is saying you need money, this is a lie. We were broke and had no money and the church did the wedding for free.How do you get a marriage recognized by the Catholic church?
You need to talk to a priest about it.
Your fiance would need to get a dispensation from the Bishop in order to marry outside the Church. If he does not do this, the marriage is invalid and cannot be recognized by the Church.
';Such a dispensation MUST be obtained in advance. A Catholic who gets married in a non-Catholic ceremony without a dispensation from canonical form is not validly married under canon law.';
';How does one obtain this dispensation from canonical form? The process is initiated by the pastor of the Catholic party. He forwards a description of the situation to the bishop for review, and the bishop then informs him whether the dispensation is granted or not.';
http://catholicexchange.com/2007/08/23/8鈥?/a>
Mark D: I think you are talking about people married outside the Church but want to come back into communion with the Catholic Church, or were married in a civil ceremony who want to have their marriage blessed. That it a different situation than the one being presented. This is a Catholic who is considering marrying outside the Catholic Church. If he wants to be able to continue to receive the Eucharist and be in communion with the Catholic Church he must obtain a dispensation to marry outside the Church. If he doesn't do this, the marriage is not valid under canon law and he should not receive Eucharist.
Talk to your priests. If you have no impediments to marriage, it should not be difficult. The Church will probably consider it valid if it is a first marriage for both of you. Important, talk to both priests first. I know Catholic weddings require extensive counseling before the ceremony can be done.
You can get your marriage blessed by the church. And thing is, unless you are told the difference, most people can not tell the difference between an Episcopalian and the Catholic Mass. Although the differences are very large theologically..... Usually there isn't any animosity between the two churches now days......
You would have to Go to A catholic RIC, or precanier....it is a difference of the Sacraments that you have ...But I believe you do consider marriage a sacrament??
No idea about Episcopalians but the RCC recognises marriages made in other churches. You cannot, for instance, re-marry in the RCC when you've been married in another church.
If you want to marry a Catholic, you would have take lessons before you can marry in a Catholic Church.
All legal first marriages are recognized by the Catholic church - they may not be sacramental marriages (literally meaning that you got married in the Catholic church), but they are recognized and respected. You are as married as my wife and I, who are lifelong Catholics who married in the Sacrament. Divorce does present an impediment - you'd need to be granted an annulment first, even if it were a purely civil ceremony the first time.
If you want it to be a Sacramental marriage, you would need a priest or deacon to at least co-preside. My cousin and his wife married in her Methodist church, with his priest and her pastor co-presiding (there were some funny moments - they shared the homily and the pastor kept shouting ';Hallelujahs'; while the priest was speaking).
I'm glad you love your grandparents, but it isn't their wedding. It's yours. It is up to you how you decide to begin and live in your marriage. Consider this - should they expect you to accept the Catholic wedding vows if you don't intend on fulfilling them - such as raising the children Catholic?
If you believe in what the Sacrament calls you to, perhaps consider marrying in the Catholic Church. If not, then don't - I would much rather you marry wherever you feel comfortable than take vows you do not wish to fulfill.
To my knowledge, Catholics and Episcopalians in the US get along just fine. There aren't very many Episcopalians, and their theology, while nominally Calvinist, has not prevented them from enjoying the ecumenism of what our two traditions of the One Faith have in common.
Enjoy being engaged - don't stress too much about the wedding.
In order for your marriage to be recognized, you will have to make an appointment with your fiancee's pastor. You'll need to present your marriage certificate and legal documentation, your certificates of Baptism, and your fiancee's certificate of confirmation. The pastor will take and copy this paperwork and have it processed with the Diocese.
As long as everything is in order and there are no specific regulations within the Diocese, the priest will have you come in and ask some questions. After this, if he is able, he will bless and confirm the marriage in the Catholic Tradition, and will provide you with documentation in that regards.
EDIT:
Misty:
I am speaking specifically about the situation this person has stated as I understood the query: A Marriage outside of the Catholic Church and after the marriage, the party seeking convalidation through the Church. Specifically, I'm speaking of Canon 1156-1160, the convalidation of a marriage outside the Church. Furthermore I refer to FAMILIARIS CONSORTIO, section IV, #78, by John Paul II. Here he clarifies the need for immediate Pastoral care and guidance to these cases and illustrates the understanding and validity of the sacrament as it is in between two baptized Christians. Were this a person seeking permission to be married outside the church you would have a valid point, but as far as I understand it this is seeking convalidation after the fact.
the archaic denial of sacraments to a person in a mixed marriage was done away with years ago by these very documents. My explanation to our friend here is to facilitate the easiest and healthiest manner to inquire and hopefully procure convalidation through the Church in a way that is both in positive recognition of the Marriage ceremony which had previously occurred and in the best tradition of our faith for the sake of the immortal souls of all involved.
they accept cash, even to free you of your sins.
I was catholic, and i wanted to marry a methodist. My church was going to make us go to classes for 8 weeks, to teach him to be 'catholic' and he had to promise to raise the children catholic. After all that they did not really recognize the marriage until the time for divorce came.... then they of course said i was a sinner for divorcing even though they never recognized the marriage to begin with...
GIVE EM MONEY
A large gift to the pope will help.
under $100,000 need not apply.
Is it legal for a US citizen to sponsor an immigrant thru marriage and receive monetary compensation?
A couple of years ago an immigrant wanted to arrange the marriage of a family member to get ciitizenship in the U.S. I was to receive monetary compenstion for the marriage. Just wondering is this legal?Is it legal for a US citizen to sponsor an immigrant thru marriage and receive monetary compensation?
NO!!!!!
It is marriage fraud and results in SEVERE penalties. CBP and ICE take this matter very seriously. Our local ICE office actually has one whole group of agents (out of 9) dedicated to investigating this crime.
This is a sham way to gain US citizenship and it is also a very popular way for traffickers to bring prostitutes into the country. If someone asks you to do this run, don't walk, the other way. There is nothing good that will come of it when CBP or ICE finds you.Is it legal for a US citizen to sponsor an immigrant thru marriage and receive monetary compensation?
No it is not legal, you should get married because you love someone, not for a couple of thousands of dollars.
no its not send them packing
No. It is called Marriage Fraud and it is punishable by a fine and prison time! Don't do it! They may get deported but you will get the jail time. Not worth it!
NO it is not legal.You and the parties involved could be fined and/or imprisoned so don't try it.
its called fraud punishable for up to 10 yrs in federal brig and 250.00 fine for both of you beside all that considering the marriage was for reala love and partenership she would have to wait 3 yrs before he/she could apply for US Citizenship
not a chance
No, it is not, but human trafficing does exist. It is a crime in most countries.
it not legal
NO
If you are just getting marry to get the other person legal status that is illegal in it self. So accepting money is just more evidence of the intent to commit.
This type of arrangement has been done for years. The INS know about and try to screen them out.
You did know that you will have to live with the person as a married couple. They will ask many questions that only a couple would how to answer.
No and there is a 10 year Federal prison sentence waiting for you if they catch you. What you're doing is called FRAUD. You get to pay a $250K fine plus give up the $50 bucks you got for selling out your country.
It's fraudsters like you who arrange scam marriages to US citizenship that make it harder for people like me who marry a foreign born wife legally.
It is not legal, and is a federal law violation.
DEFINITELY NOT!!!IT'S ILLEGAL!
NO!!!!!
It is marriage fraud and results in SEVERE penalties. CBP and ICE take this matter very seriously. Our local ICE office actually has one whole group of agents (out of 9) dedicated to investigating this crime.
This is a sham way to gain US citizenship and it is also a very popular way for traffickers to bring prostitutes into the country. If someone asks you to do this run, don't walk, the other way. There is nothing good that will come of it when CBP or ICE finds you.Is it legal for a US citizen to sponsor an immigrant thru marriage and receive monetary compensation?
No it is not legal, you should get married because you love someone, not for a couple of thousands of dollars.
no its not send them packing
No. It is called Marriage Fraud and it is punishable by a fine and prison time! Don't do it! They may get deported but you will get the jail time. Not worth it!
NO it is not legal.You and the parties involved could be fined and/or imprisoned so don't try it.
its called fraud punishable for up to 10 yrs in federal brig and 250.00 fine for both of you beside all that considering the marriage was for reala love and partenership she would have to wait 3 yrs before he/she could apply for US Citizenship
not a chance
No, it is not, but human trafficing does exist. It is a crime in most countries.
it not legal
NO
If you are just getting marry to get the other person legal status that is illegal in it self. So accepting money is just more evidence of the intent to commit.
This type of arrangement has been done for years. The INS know about and try to screen them out.
You did know that you will have to live with the person as a married couple. They will ask many questions that only a couple would how to answer.
No and there is a 10 year Federal prison sentence waiting for you if they catch you. What you're doing is called FRAUD. You get to pay a $250K fine plus give up the $50 bucks you got for selling out your country.
It's fraudsters like you who arrange scam marriages to US citizenship that make it harder for people like me who marry a foreign born wife legally.
It is not legal, and is a federal law violation.
DEFINITELY NOT!!!IT'S ILLEGAL!
How do I become a marriage Celebrant in NSW?
Can you please tell me what study needs to be undertaken, what the cost will be and the legal requirements?
Thank you Kindly to all who answerHow do I become a marriage Celebrant in NSW?
I'm not familiar with this subject, but I did a preliminary search and found this website. Hope it helps...
http://www.celebrancy.edu.au/familyrelat鈥?/a>
Thank you Kindly to all who answerHow do I become a marriage Celebrant in NSW?
I'm not familiar with this subject, but I did a preliminary search and found this website. Hope it helps...
http://www.celebrancy.edu.au/familyrelat鈥?/a>
Why do people think that allowing gay people to marry would change marriage for others?
Or is that just a ploy? It would have absolutely no effect on anyone else's marriage!Why do people think that allowing gay people to marry would change marriage for others?
I agree, who cares? I'm married and a gay/lesbian marriage would have absolutely no bearing on it. Me thinks they doth protest too much.Why do people think that allowing gay people to marry would change marriage for others?
It would change the REAL meaning and institution of marriage altogether! Instead of marriage being between one man and one woman ONLY, allowing same sex marriage will open up a Pandora's box that will give way to marriage between relatives (i.e. aunts and nephews, sisters and brothers, etc.). If homosexuals are allowed to marry, it would also be the same as saying that it's ok for a husband to have more than one wife and vise versa, along with people marrying their pets! They'll cry discrimination as well because they'll say, ';You're discriminating against me 'cause I love my dog Fido and want to marry him';. The same goes for those who want to marry their relatives and men who want to have more than one wife and women who want to marry several men! Bottom line is, allowing same sex marriage cheapens and degrades the sanctity of marriage! Sadly, so many people have been sucked in to believing it's ok to allow people of the same sex to marry 'cause they don't see the bigger picture - only what the homos want!
You are right, its just a ploy.
Bigots have to hide their hate speech. Its ugly, so all directives all communications have to be duplicitous, devious, dishonest. One such phrase is ';Family values'; it means persecute gays. Same as ';traditional marriage';.
Hate speech is actually fanned and supported by one of the political parties, because its mission is to gather covert privilege to a minority. By exploiting peoples prejudices they can get people to vote on ';culture war'; issues instead of the economic issues that would benefit them. Its cheaper to indulge hate then to actually come through with the goodies.
More here:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
and here:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
agreed, whether two same sex people marry or not, it affects me little. However, i am not a busybody-stick-my-nose-where-it-doesn't belong-type either. Neither am i one to impose my beliefs on another, for if i were, boy george, the dick, cheney and donald rumsfeld would all be behind bars for war crimes. And they'd all end up ';married';, too----to their cell mates, if you get my drift.
Because they aren't about worrying about themselves, they just want to annoy everyone else who is normal because they know they are sick and there aren't any medications to help them with their disease.
ignorance and stupidity
Lets get rid of the religious bigots in this country. Then gay marriage would be legal across the country.
If you can marry anyone/anything it cheapens the sacrament. Got it?
A college degree is worth less if Anyone can get one. Get it?
ignorance and stupidity
they'll come around.
These ';people'; must be insecure with their own marriages.
There are no valid reasons for such idiotic thinking
Yep.
Steve, I don't care about you and your boyfriend.....
Just leave the kids alone!
I agree, who cares? I'm married and a gay/lesbian marriage would have absolutely no bearing on it. Me thinks they doth protest too much.Why do people think that allowing gay people to marry would change marriage for others?
It would change the REAL meaning and institution of marriage altogether! Instead of marriage being between one man and one woman ONLY, allowing same sex marriage will open up a Pandora's box that will give way to marriage between relatives (i.e. aunts and nephews, sisters and brothers, etc.). If homosexuals are allowed to marry, it would also be the same as saying that it's ok for a husband to have more than one wife and vise versa, along with people marrying their pets! They'll cry discrimination as well because they'll say, ';You're discriminating against me 'cause I love my dog Fido and want to marry him';. The same goes for those who want to marry their relatives and men who want to have more than one wife and women who want to marry several men! Bottom line is, allowing same sex marriage cheapens and degrades the sanctity of marriage! Sadly, so many people have been sucked in to believing it's ok to allow people of the same sex to marry 'cause they don't see the bigger picture - only what the homos want!
You are right, its just a ploy.
Bigots have to hide their hate speech. Its ugly, so all directives all communications have to be duplicitous, devious, dishonest. One such phrase is ';Family values'; it means persecute gays. Same as ';traditional marriage';.
Hate speech is actually fanned and supported by one of the political parties, because its mission is to gather covert privilege to a minority. By exploiting peoples prejudices they can get people to vote on ';culture war'; issues instead of the economic issues that would benefit them. Its cheaper to indulge hate then to actually come through with the goodies.
More here:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
and here:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
agreed, whether two same sex people marry or not, it affects me little. However, i am not a busybody-stick-my-nose-where-it-doesn't belong-type either. Neither am i one to impose my beliefs on another, for if i were, boy george, the dick, cheney and donald rumsfeld would all be behind bars for war crimes. And they'd all end up ';married';, too----to their cell mates, if you get my drift.
Because they aren't about worrying about themselves, they just want to annoy everyone else who is normal because they know they are sick and there aren't any medications to help them with their disease.
ignorance and stupidity
Lets get rid of the religious bigots in this country. Then gay marriage would be legal across the country.
If you can marry anyone/anything it cheapens the sacrament. Got it?
A college degree is worth less if Anyone can get one. Get it?
ignorance and stupidity
they'll come around.
These ';people'; must be insecure with their own marriages.
There are no valid reasons for such idiotic thinking
Yep.
Steve, I don't care about you and your boyfriend.....
Just leave the kids alone!
How do I get a marriage license in California?
What are the steps I need to take to get a marriage license in California. Do I have to get that done before my actual wedding? How does this work?How do I get a marriage license in California?
Go to the courthourse nimwitHow do I get a marriage license in California?
I'm so glad you figured everything out, glad I could help! :)
Go to the marriage license office (you can call the number in the gov't section of the white pages for the address and hours they are open) in the county you will be marrying in with your fiance (both of you have to be present). Make sure to have proper documentation that they require. They will let you know if there is anything else you need to do.
Yes, if you wish to have the wedding be considered legal, then you need to have a marriage license prior to the wedding day. A minister will not marry you without one.
no, you can get it after you get married. there is a special law that just started that says your license can be sent to you on your honeymoon in order to avoid the stress of applying beforehand. you can order it online. good luck.
Go to the courthourse nimwitHow do I get a marriage license in California?
I'm so glad you figured everything out, glad I could help! :)
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Go to the marriage license office (you can call the number in the gov't section of the white pages for the address and hours they are open) in the county you will be marrying in with your fiance (both of you have to be present). Make sure to have proper documentation that they require. They will let you know if there is anything else you need to do.
Yes, if you wish to have the wedding be considered legal, then you need to have a marriage license prior to the wedding day. A minister will not marry you without one.
no, you can get it after you get married. there is a special law that just started that says your license can be sent to you on your honeymoon in order to avoid the stress of applying beforehand. you can order it online. good luck.
How come God get all the credit before the marriage, after the wedding and as long as the marriage is working?
But as soon as the marriage is done and over with, the devil is now the creditor. Does this mean that you mistakenly gave God credit he didn't deserve? Does this mean God hand was never in the marriage, before or afterward? Why give a fail marriage credit to the devil when you didn't give him the credit before the marriage or after the wedding?How come God get all the credit before the marriage, after the wedding and as long as the marriage is working?
Amen amen and amenHow come God get all the credit before the marriage, after the wedding and as long as the marriage is working?
Do you have some specific couple or individual in mind with this question or is it just a general bash on Christians who divorce?
Personally, I think I married out of God's will, and looking back, I can see plenty of opportunity to have avoided that marriage if I had been paying attention to God. But God let me marry him anyway. And through that marriage, God gave me the desires of my heart.
Don't play God.
Edit (per your e-mail): If you can play defense attorney for the devil, since you think he gets blamed for too many human failings, I can play defense attorney for my fellow divorced Christians. Anyone can judge people, but accusing the brethren is the devil's job. I just prefer to let God judge these matters of the heart.
Where does it say God gets credit for your marriage? When you marry someone you make a promise to God that this is the person you will love for the rest of your life. You choose the person, and you choose how much you put into the marriage. If it's fails the only person to blame is the people in the marriage. God is always there guiding you, you are the one that creates what you want out of life though. You get the credit for what you make of life, God is with you no matter what.
Well, God does not need credit from anyone, whether they grant it to him or not. Marriage is God's institution and when we get married we go before God and recite our vows. Unfortunately, after marriage people fail to honor there vows and abiding in the word of God. In other words they go to the bible when it's vow time, but when they have problems they fail to go to the very word that they started with. They rather go to the internet, friends and family (PEOPLE). Yes, the devil will always try to destroy what god has created. But it's up to the two people in the marriage , if they will allow the devil to step in or not. The bible says what God put together let no man put us under.
Maybe in your world the Devil gets equal billing as God, but I do not believe that the Devil has anything to do with the failure of a marriage. The two people that got married should take the full responsibility for the direction of the marriage.
God and Satan have nothing to do with the health of a marriage.
The PEOPLE IN THE MARRIAGE are responsible for the outcome.
In my house he gets no credit where my marriage is concerned.eczema cream
Amen amen and amenHow come God get all the credit before the marriage, after the wedding and as long as the marriage is working?
Do you have some specific couple or individual in mind with this question or is it just a general bash on Christians who divorce?
Personally, I think I married out of God's will, and looking back, I can see plenty of opportunity to have avoided that marriage if I had been paying attention to God. But God let me marry him anyway. And through that marriage, God gave me the desires of my heart.
Don't play God.
Edit (per your e-mail): If you can play defense attorney for the devil, since you think he gets blamed for too many human failings, I can play defense attorney for my fellow divorced Christians. Anyone can judge people, but accusing the brethren is the devil's job. I just prefer to let God judge these matters of the heart.
Where does it say God gets credit for your marriage? When you marry someone you make a promise to God that this is the person you will love for the rest of your life. You choose the person, and you choose how much you put into the marriage. If it's fails the only person to blame is the people in the marriage. God is always there guiding you, you are the one that creates what you want out of life though. You get the credit for what you make of life, God is with you no matter what.
Well, God does not need credit from anyone, whether they grant it to him or not. Marriage is God's institution and when we get married we go before God and recite our vows. Unfortunately, after marriage people fail to honor there vows and abiding in the word of God. In other words they go to the bible when it's vow time, but when they have problems they fail to go to the very word that they started with. They rather go to the internet, friends and family (PEOPLE). Yes, the devil will always try to destroy what god has created. But it's up to the two people in the marriage , if they will allow the devil to step in or not. The bible says what God put together let no man put us under.
Maybe in your world the Devil gets equal billing as God, but I do not believe that the Devil has anything to do with the failure of a marriage. The two people that got married should take the full responsibility for the direction of the marriage.
God and Satan have nothing to do with the health of a marriage.
The PEOPLE IN THE MARRIAGE are responsible for the outcome.
In my house he gets no credit where my marriage is concerned.
How can one type of marriage attack another?
Whenever a question about gay marriage is posted, there is always someone who uses the defense that homosexual marriage will destroy heterosexual marriage. Basically this to me says that if gays are allowed to marry, I won't be heterosexual anymore? Can someone explain?How can one type of marriage attack another?
Its as simple as this...those opinions and ';fears'; are just a lot of talk by people who are either bigoted or self-righteous. The idea that the actions of another person can destroy something that it is up to you to preserve is ridiculous. The reality is that those ideas are spouted by people who are doing one of two things. A) They are bigots who think that gays should crawl back into the closet. They see homosexuals as sick social deviants who should be relegated to second class citizen status. B) They are people who have strong religious beliefs and think that it is their duty to (as Christians, Jews, Muslims...whatever their particular faith is) stand in judgment of the actions of others and condemn them. They have forgotten the most basic teachings of just about every religion I know of...which is that in the end God will judge us.
I see a lot of this kind of stuff from ';Christians'; and it always leaves me scratching my head. How is it possible that they don't remember that Jesus Christ himself spent his life surrounded by sinners. He didn't spend it calling them names and accusing them of destroying his father's creation. He spent it simply preaching the Gospel and teaching them the things God wanted them to do. The idea that these so called ';Christians'; use their religion to justify their mistreatment of other human beings has always amazed me. They're gonna be really shocked when they wake up one morning and find themselves sitting in hell next to the ';sinners'; they've spent their lives abusing.How can one type of marriage attack another?
I agree.
Not allowing homosexuals to marry is discrimination. Homosexuals aren't allowed to marry just because they're homosexuals? That's like saying women aren't allowed to vote just because they're women. Hey wait -- wasn't THAT thought to be a sane, ';best for the world'; thought years ago? Exactly. Discrimination.
And for those of you with that ridiculous ';if we allow gays to marry we will have to allow relatives to marry, and people to marry animals, etc.'; No, we won't. We allowed women to vote, and we're not allowing animals to vote, are we? Stop using lame excuses.
In many years when gay marriage is finally (and rightfully) allowed, people will look back on the laws of our time and shake their head.
i cant explain your question but as far as my opion goes. When we marry we are NOT uniting bodies (thats sex) we are uniting the souls. So when unions are labled as gay, straight, interacial its all nonsence. you are labeling what you see and not what we are. for a soul does not know race sex or religion. all they know is the connection of one soul to another. and as far as it destroying hetero marriages thats just plain stupid. no one can destroy a marriage that was meant to be. GAY OR OTHER WISE
who ever thinks gay marriages will destroy straight marriages is just scared. all allowing gay marriages will do is make more room for that abominable lifestyle to grow.
I don't feel that allowing brothers and sisters to marry will effect my marriage. Do you support that as well?
Its as simple as this...those opinions and ';fears'; are just a lot of talk by people who are either bigoted or self-righteous. The idea that the actions of another person can destroy something that it is up to you to preserve is ridiculous. The reality is that those ideas are spouted by people who are doing one of two things. A) They are bigots who think that gays should crawl back into the closet. They see homosexuals as sick social deviants who should be relegated to second class citizen status. B) They are people who have strong religious beliefs and think that it is their duty to (as Christians, Jews, Muslims...whatever their particular faith is) stand in judgment of the actions of others and condemn them. They have forgotten the most basic teachings of just about every religion I know of...which is that in the end God will judge us.
I see a lot of this kind of stuff from ';Christians'; and it always leaves me scratching my head. How is it possible that they don't remember that Jesus Christ himself spent his life surrounded by sinners. He didn't spend it calling them names and accusing them of destroying his father's creation. He spent it simply preaching the Gospel and teaching them the things God wanted them to do. The idea that these so called ';Christians'; use their religion to justify their mistreatment of other human beings has always amazed me. They're gonna be really shocked when they wake up one morning and find themselves sitting in hell next to the ';sinners'; they've spent their lives abusing.How can one type of marriage attack another?
I agree.
Not allowing homosexuals to marry is discrimination. Homosexuals aren't allowed to marry just because they're homosexuals? That's like saying women aren't allowed to vote just because they're women. Hey wait -- wasn't THAT thought to be a sane, ';best for the world'; thought years ago? Exactly. Discrimination.
And for those of you with that ridiculous ';if we allow gays to marry we will have to allow relatives to marry, and people to marry animals, etc.'; No, we won't. We allowed women to vote, and we're not allowing animals to vote, are we? Stop using lame excuses.
In many years when gay marriage is finally (and rightfully) allowed, people will look back on the laws of our time and shake their head.
i cant explain your question but as far as my opion goes. When we marry we are NOT uniting bodies (thats sex) we are uniting the souls. So when unions are labled as gay, straight, interacial its all nonsence. you are labeling what you see and not what we are. for a soul does not know race sex or religion. all they know is the connection of one soul to another. and as far as it destroying hetero marriages thats just plain stupid. no one can destroy a marriage that was meant to be. GAY OR OTHER WISE
who ever thinks gay marriages will destroy straight marriages is just scared. all allowing gay marriages will do is make more room for that abominable lifestyle to grow.
I don't feel that allowing brothers and sisters to marry will effect my marriage. Do you support that as well?
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