If a couple has a marriage of ten years. What are some of the good things about entering into swinging ?

If many millions of couples are swinging and that most marriage coulselors will not condemn swinging then there must be a lot of good things about swinging. What are the good things ?If a couple has a marriage of ten years. What are some of the good things about entering into swinging ?
The good things are:





1) Taking sex off the alter and worshiping it as if it is the be-all-end-all of marriage. Yes, you have great sex with your significant other (SO), but too many people make it THE relationship rather than just part of it. Then, when the sex dwindles off a bit so does the relationship because other than parts that fit together they find they have nothing else in common and outside of getting-off with each other, they really can't stand each other.





Swinging for us removed that and made us focus on the other reasons we are married, stuff like companionship. We are each other others best friend. We genuinely love to be together, even if there is no hope for having sex because life is in the way. We chat all day via IM and text messages. We are constantly touching in one manner or another if we are together. It's like we are living one long first date where we're twitterpated with each other.





2) Communication. Opening-up our relationship has brought communication between us to a whole other level. We can talk to each other about anything without the fear of the other becoming hurt, jealous, angry and resentful. And if we do disagree, we have the ability to work through it without resentment and anger.





3) Trust. We have held the door open for the other to walk through and leave, and they haven't. We know beyond a shadow of a doubt that we are ';it'; for each other. For instance I've seen my wife have incredible, mind-blowing sex with others and she still thinks I'm the best thing since oxygen. And I feel the same way about her. We know that we are here and married to each other because we want to be, not because we have to be. There is no doubt in our minds about that.





It's a very liberating feeling not having to constantly worry if your partner is breaking some ';rule'; or if they are stepping-out on you or lying to you. We have no reason to lie to each other about anything, including sex and sexual attraction to others. I don't have to worry that my wife is doing something behind my back that might hurt me, because I know she isn't. She has no reason to. It's really amazing how when you give someone their freedom they won't abuse it. But when you lasso them and don't allow them their freedom they'll take it anyway when you are watching. That is nothing we have to worry about with each other.If a couple has a marriage of ten years. What are some of the good things about entering into swinging ?
There ARE good things to be said about swinging but NOT for everybody. Very few couples can handle it successfully for a long period. Those that do manage it successfully for long are either mature and adjusted comfortably with their sexuality or they are just thick skinned insensitive people. The average person can derive extreme thrills from breaking taboos and voyeurism and experimenting but eventually it gets complicated with antagonism, powerplay and jealousy. A couple must feel very secure in their own relationship before they let others on the scene. The extra persons must be handled for what they are=extras. The main actors is the couple. I know not of any couple amongst my acquaintances to have survived the experiment for long. They either gave it up after 3-4 sessions and went back to their monogamous ways or they continued swinging for a while and then broke up. As a rule, it was the woman who went off with one of the playmates. The longest period I know of was about 30 months before breaking up. There is also the possibility that the bi tendencies of one spouse that the other was not aware of may come to the surface. The couple must feel totally comfortable with their own sexuality and the strength of their own bond before entering the swinging scene.For those that are sure that they can handle it, it is a real roller coaster.
People say all this crap about it spicing things up...but in reality nothing good will come from a couple married ten years swinging! And by the way, most marriage counselors will advise against swinging.





You have ten years under your belt. If it ain't broke, don't fix it. If it is broke, get to the real heart of the problem. Don't cover if up with promiscuity and unfaithfulness. It's like driving a wedge into a crack in a dam!






Good things? Well, your husband will realize he married someone so desperate to please him and hold onto him and the marriage that she will agree to whatever it takes to keep him happy..





That would be good for him... right?






Most marriage counselors do condemn swinging..


Swinging is on the road to divorce..


There is little good to be found in swinging..


Millions of couples are not into swinging..
It's just a somewhat accepted method of adultery. It's never good to have sex with someone other than your spouse. It's dangerous, physically and emotionally.
disease, insecurity, lack of trust, whoring around, possible death, making a mockery of marriage...the usual great things we all strive for..next caller
I dont think there are any. It will eventually ruin the relationship, or you will end up two nasty old people meeting in truckstops and hotel rooms. Marriage is much more than that.
I cannot think of one good thing about swinging, only the bad. In the end it WILL ruin your marriage.
It spices up your sex life.


Makes you feel young again.





Tbh its a lifestyle I would not want to lead but to each their own