How do you make a marriage work if your spouce works abroad?

Please any ideas mine has done so for many years and he seems to have ajusted to his own life. I wait for him to come home to be close to him and feel i can only be happy when he is in my life but it never ends up that way when he visits we argue about everything and anything How do you make a marriage work if your spouce works abroad?
Sadly it sounds like you two have just parted and got too different over time. I feel sorry for you, you sound like a good woman and loyal. HARD TO FIND! Ultimately if he cant appreciate you then plenty of others would be so happy and appreciate a good loyal woman like yourself.How do you make a marriage work if your spouce works abroad?
Being away from each other ignites the relationship only if you are apart for a short time. Then, you feel the absence of the other as a hole in your life and that creates a pleasurable longing and tension. But if you are apart for a long time, it only creates problems, because you both fill that ';hole'; with something (or someone) else. You both don't have a chance to practice your love -- to give, to concede to each other, to try making the other feel good, especially at the times when it has to come at the expense of your own ego.





Well, you are asking what to do?


I would say this: whether or not you can be together physically more, find something that unites you above the everyday life. Something that it would be worth discussing and working together on, despite the physical distance. Then, when your husband comes back to visit, you won't argue about everything. Disagreements over the toothpaste would seem so insignificant in light of something so much more exalted than it.





In my case, this uniting 'glue' was our common spiritual path. We chose Kabbalah, but you can choose something else -- it does not matter. The important thing is that what unites you is something higher than the problems of this world and physical distances.





Good luck!
what do u argue about, is he starting it, if so he may have found somene else and is trying to get u to make the first move