How do you know your marriage is ended?

How do you know when your marriage is ended? A friend of mines complains often about her marraigeI would like give her some tips and advise her to see a counsellor. They have been married for 24yrs and have 1 child.How do you know your marriage is ended?
1. You no longer, have anything in common.





Do you and your partner spend hours together under the same roof, at social engagements or performing routine errands, yet rarely engage in meaningful conversation? Living in silence is a primary symptom of major marital problems.


2. You can do no right.





Do you feel like your every action is being watched and criticized by your partner? Can you do no right in their eyes? Do you feel intimidated or afraid because of your partners constant criticism? Too often partners will funnel larger relationship issues into negative criticism of day-to-day tasks.


3. You are the last to know.





Is you partner no longer sharing information with you about his career, personal problems or personal achievements? Is your partner sharing this information with a friend and you hear it second hand? When you become the last to know important information there has been a huge breakdown in communication.


4. A change in appearance.





Over time, your comfort level will inevitably end that desire to look ';perfect'; for every encounter with your partner. However, a drastic decline in personal appearance and hygiene by your spouse could be a sign of they no longer care or, are happy in the marriage.


5. Looking for distractions from the problems.





If the television is on constantly, you both sit with your face buried in a book or you always have something else that needs to be done there may be a problem. It is common for individuals to find such distractions to avoid dealing with a troubled marriage.


6. Arguing over the same subject repeatedly.





If your arguments become routine with all the same issues and no resolution, then your marriage is either standing still or dying fast. You may need the assistance of a professional counselor to help find solutions to the problems that don't seem to go away.


7. Intimacy is a thing of the past.





A considerable decline in physical affection is one of the most recognized symptoms of a failing relationship. Intimacy is the act that allows us to bond as husband and wife. If your partner is showing no or very little interest in intimacy with you then they are showing little concern for their emotional bond with you as a husband/wife.How do you know your marriage is ended?
I have always heard and believed that the quality of your relationship is somewhat measured in the amount of Laughter, happiness and hugs. When these 3 elements AND communication drop considerably, then there maybe a sign that the other party is 'leading a separate life'. Although we all need some time alone, the key is that we all need SOME time alone. Escapism--by not dealing with the root cause of the problems in the relationship will only speed its demise. Communicate, discuss, hug and work it out. THEN go together for counseling. Never use counseling as a means for one party to use it as a ';see... I knew you were (cheating/with another woman/don't love me anymore...';)





Hope this helps you and your friend. All the best.
re: How do you know your marriage is ended?


.......When it is damaging their child!!!!





Not that anyone really cares about it ............


their FIRST obligation is to the wellbeing of their dependent, defenseless CHILD!





this might help their child survive faulty parenting





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communication is the key. they must sit down and talk if they have any chance to regain what they once had. they got married because they wanted to spend the rest of there lives together? if yes then they could sit and discuss what they both feel is wrong and what is going right. too many people focus on the wrong and forget about the right. hope this helps to start.
It ends when you absolutely have no energy to deal with it anymore. All alternatives have been exhausted, no compromising and basically no reason to try anymore
You know it's ended when just the thought of spending one more day with them makes you shudder.
It ends when somebody ends it.
when you feel unhappy and tried everything to work it out but nothing work's
Its over when there is no love left and they would be happier without each other. Had a good run, though.
When your spouse starts dating other people.