What advice would you give to someone who wanted to perfom a marriage seperation ritual?

I wanna do something to help two people who want to seperate so its with the least bit of upset and I know both people would be happier for it.





Are there any spells or anything like that - or do I just send out Good thoughts to them?What advice would you give to someone who wanted to perfom a marriage seperation ritual?
There is a formula used in hoodoo called Separation that's made to ease a breakup (Don't confuse it with Breakup -- they can both be used to break up a couple, but only Separation can ease a breakup; the other is more aggressive.)





You could present your friend a packet of Separation incense to burn in her own house, for her easement.What advice would you give to someone who wanted to perfom a marriage seperation ritual?
It's really best to leave things up to them. You say that you know they would be happier for it but they have to know that and not be pressurised by others into feeling that. The best you can do is to be there for them and be a support for them whatever they choose to do.





I often meet people who feel pressurised by families and friends to get married/form a relationship or who want them to seperate/get divorced. I always advise them that the decision is theirs and theirs alone because the consequences can be disastrous if they later regret the decision and feel that they were manipulated by others and couldn't make the decision themselves.





Some couples who decide to seperate have rituals (sometimes in church or a place that feels significant) to help them break up and to move on. I've been involved in such a ceremony before when the couple used plates and broke the plates to symbolise the relationship that had become broken. They also used symbols chosen by them individually to show their wholeness as indivuals.
The second option is better. Sending your friend good thoughts, healing thoughts or energy to help them get through it is the best.





I understand how you feel, you might find yourself angry at times and will find yourself wanting to force what you feel is best for them at the time. But you must remember that it is not up to you to decide what is best for them, no matter how many would agree with you. Think of a time when there was something you wanted to do, even when you knew it was more dangerous than good. Whether it would be drinking when your parents told you not to or anything else at all. The wonderful thing about life and it's many experiences is that we have the choice to choose for many of them. Whether they are great, or terrible, many times we have the power to choose. In this case your friend has freedom, so why would to try and take that?





If you understand magick, this is your will against their will. As complex beings we have more than one emotion and this is more true with two people who have been in a romantic relationship together. What makes you think that at some level they do not love each other? It is this love that will bring them back together no matter how many rituals you perform. It might work for a while, but do you have the time and energy to keep performing the same spell? Eventually they will find themselves back together because there is something stronger at play. You have to let them find out when to make a different choice.





One thing is for sure, that if you try and seperate them you might only make things worse. You will create negativity around them and that is not what they need. What they need right now is some peace and clear thinking. Clouding them with contradicting thoughts that are not their own will only make matters worse.





So perhaps it would be wise to practice other magicks, healing magicks on yourself and on your friend(s).


May you be blessed with patience and understanding,


Shadow Storm