Yet, reading through YA, I see so many questions about cheating and divorce.
How can I keep that from happening? How can I stay happy with my husband?
I especially encourage those from successful marriages to answer.How does one make their marriage work?
sure, communication and trust are very important, but you cant give the trust away for free.
you have to earn that mutually.
and Id say the most important thing is respect, and learning how to diffuse arguments until you are both relaxed. in the heat of the moment people say things that they might not really mean, but still have some truth behind it, and once you say things you cant take them back, especially hurtful things, so refrain from ever putting your partner down or disrespecting them. same applies for him.
also, dont let yourself go just because youre married and he loves you. try to look your best, and im not saying to be all made-up in heels and complete outfit all the time, but take care of yourself. many women stop caring and men see that, and while he loves you, he'll look at other women, and women can be horrid creatures who will pounce and can convince the most happily married man to cheat. so try to look better than them beeeyotches and u should be fine.
oh, and always close the door when you go to the bathroom. NOONE wants to know what goes on in there, and many people, once theyre comfy with their relationship think this isnt important, because its ';natural'; and whatever.... but come on... a little mystery is always a good thing.
also, keep your own life. nothing is a bigger turn-off than a completely overdependent desperate housewife.How does one make their marriage work?
Get off the internet, throw out the video games and do things TOGETHER!
You have to GROW together to make a marriage work, and Facebook and Myspace just get in the way.
I think a lot of 2nd marriages are going to have an ';electronics/ technology'; clause in them in the future. I see too many young wives fussing about husbands addicted to video games. The husbands are complaining about wives on the computer in chat rooms. Everyone is texting Lord knows who and spouses are hiding cell phone messages. Instead of having to hide anything, just imagine if you died on the way to the store and your spouse has to go through everything you have. Make sure there is nothing going on to embarrass you.
This is a good question. What works for my wife and I is communication, honesty, maturity and mutual goals. My personal feeling on it all comes down to this: A person who has nothing to lose, has no integrity, because if you have integrity, you have everything to lose.
There is always an economic bottom line. Money is one point that many couples argue over. My wife and I have a budget and we stick to it. Over the past couple of years we've managed to get out of debt and although we still need a new roof next year, it's in the budget.
I see so many of the questions which you refer to as well. There are reasons for everything, just stay focused on where you want to be in five years, financially and otherwise. In a few years, move the goal post to where do you want to be in ten years, but don't forget to be spontaneous ether. A healthy marriage requires an understanding and balance of the points mentioned above and a good sense of morals.
Be true to yourselves. The most successful relationships are between people who have learned to fight fair. It's one part love, and one part business, set your goals and keep them adjusted according to the economic situation that you are.
You can't keep it from happening no more than you can keep the sun from rising. You can only do your best to let your spouse know you love and trust them. Keep the lines of communication open, stay positive, make time for each other, and continue to do the things you did when you were dating (those things that made you fall in love with each other). Keep each other happy and fulfilled and you should have no problems.
Congratulations on your marriage and best of luck to you both.
It is not easy. Marriage is work. First Congrats! Now communicate with each other every day. Make sure you let him know how much you love him every day. Everyone changes in time. Give space when needed but never go to bed angry. Always kiss them goodbye on the way out. You just never know. Hope this helps. Been together 10yrs and married 5.
Talk. Talk often. Talk openly. Seek to understand what the other is saying and what needs they are expressing. Communicate clearly your needs and desires. Seek to put the other person first.
Even though your question isn't about Valentine's Day, here are great tips for you...he'll never need another woman when you show him this kind of love and appreciation.
CONGAD'S!!!
#1,Talk
#2,Trust
#3,Hang out a good amount but not too much or else you'll get sick of each other.
The T,T,H as I like too call it.
Lots of communication and trust.
communication and trust
trust is the secret..nothing else works
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